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Gay Identification and Superficiality

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I'm beginning to fear I might be letting my orientation subplant certain aspects of my personality. I've started to like certain things I used to hate, like Lady Gaga. I'm not one of those guys that has to go out of my way to make sure I act super-straight, but I don't want my sexuality to consume me. I don't want to succumb to "gay" things because not only is that a social construct, it's not me.

Basically, if I go out and buy a Mac or a pink polo I want someone to put me in the mental ward. I have nothing against people who like those things but that's not how I want to identify my sexuality.
 
okay....then....what exactly define you?
 
What do things you hated in the past, but now are beginning to like have to do with your orientation?

People's interests can constantly change over their life. Just enjoy them.

Who knows, in a few months, things you now enjoy, you may not enjoy anymore.
 
>>>I'm not too bothered if my sexuality consumes my identity, after being afraid of that very thing happening to me for so long I'll happily embrace my gay side.

Bingo.

I know one guy who came out not long ago. He said, "A disco song came on at work, and I found myself really digging it. I've always hated disco. Does loving disco come with being gay?" I suggested that he always did kinda like disco (or at least that song), but may have repressed it. Fearing that it'd be a "clue" to his true sexuality, or proof to himself that he was gay. Now that he was gay and out, there was no reason to pretend to dislike it. He could just like it, y'know?

If you love the Lady Gaga, the Lady Antebellum, or "Foxey Lady"...crank it. :)

Lex
 
OMG. Does this Mac make me look gay? :eek:

Sorry, not quite getting that....

Anyway, having a successful, fulfilled life (gay or straight) is simply about just being yourself. Don't worry about what anyone else might think, or how they might judge you. Who cares?
 
ban the word "guilty pleasure" from your mental vocabulary, and embrace the things that give you pleasure, without feeling guilty. if youre unapologetic and sincere about the things you like, no decent person will find it strange, even if you like things that are generally considered to be embarassing.

besides, only straight guys wear pink polos.
 
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