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Gay lovers' tiff prompts suicide

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FREDDIE187

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That is the headline of an article I saw in one of our national newspapers. Here is the article.

"A PRETORIA man gassed hinself in a car wash in the early hours of yesterday, said the police.

In a suicide note, he said he could not live without his boyfriend, said inspector Paul Ramaloko.

The two were apparently engaged, but had a fall-out on Tuesday night.

The 19-year-old drove his vehicle to nearby car wash where he piped exhaust fumes inside, asphyxiating himself. Foul play was not expected."

This made me think that if the young man posted on JUB he probably would not have gone that far. I am sure all the kind people here would have given him good advice.

My other thought was that someone let him down terribly. Where was his parents? Were they supportive of his lifestyle?

Very sad!!!
 
Oh, that's really sad. :(

Too bad he didn't have anyone to talk it through with. Yeah, JUB could've helped.
 
At 19, a lovers' tiff is not the end of the world. It should not be the end of a life.
 
Well, this boyfriend was probably his first lover... I know that all of us tend to be a bit more clingy to our first lovers because of inexperience and need of intense love and affection.

I'm sorry that this boy felt that his life was over (literally) because some asshole left him.
 
Oden_grey said:
Well, this boyfriend was probably his first lover... I know that all of us tend to be a bit more clingy to our first lovers because of inexperience and need of intense love and affection.

I'm sorry that this boy felt that his life was over (literally) because some asshole left him.
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Yeah, that is what really got me. It was such a sad waste.
 
That is really sad to hear. But not many people have access to the Internet so its really hard for them to do the things of coming on here to JUB or any other gay website that gives good supportive advice.
 
I would tend to think that there were other problems facing this guy and losing his lover was too much to take.

There have been several studies that show gay people suffer from clinical depression more than the general population. I should know, I've been struggling with this disease for about five years. I've also had battles with life or death, but I was one of the lucky ones who had caring friends and family looking out for me and getting me into treatment.

This story really made me sad. I think about how alone this guy must've felt. I wish someone was there to help him. Really sad.
 
gsdx said:
At 19, a lovers' tiff is not the end of the world. It should not be the end of a life.
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No, I think that is the point. At 19, everything still seems black or white, and for him it was the end of the world that he had lost his lover.

It's not right, but I can understand it.

What a loss for everyone.
 
This is one of the sad things about being gay.

Highschool restricts the normal dating learning cycle that most hetrosexuals would go through in thier early teens.
Learning to cope with rejection is part of that and normally the person would have a group of peers to reflect on about thier experience.

Sadly being gay not only delays that education but removes a lot of peoples ability to talk about thier experiences because they are afraid of further rejection.

Sites like this one are great in that one could be anon and yet have at least a limited form of forum to voice thier views.

I thank the sweet lord I am not a teenager anymore, but man if I knew then what I know now :)

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well then think of the positive

at least his parents won't have to pay for University.

a nice new house with no kids. Priceless
 
PreTTy PeTe said:
well then think of the positive

at least his parents won't have to pay for University.

a nice new house with no kids. Priceless
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Really PeTe that is in such bad taste and so heartless.

That young man was one of your gay brothers and like other people have said, he was lett down terribly by society and people close to him.
 
FREDDIE187 said:
Really PeTe that is in such bad taste and so heartless.

That young man was one of your gay brothers and like other people have said, he was lett down terribly by society and people close to him.
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you know living thru the 80's

i watched a lot of my friends(my gay brothers) die. and they fought for life,

he just took an easy escape. loser.
 
This young man did NOT kill himself because his boyfriend dumped him. He did it because he had serious problems and the breakup was as good an excuse as any for ending his life. This is just my opinion, of course.

The whole thing is very sad.
 
NO humor found here!

If you are a little older than 19, and you remember your first love and just how much you were into the guy and it all fell apart........Do you recall just how much you were heart-broken? Do you recall how much your heart ached for that guy?

Well I do! I was soooo in love with this guy and he simply dropped me 'cause he was afraid of what his parents would say/do if he came our....so he hid his identity and ended up marrying a girl and having kids!!! (...BUT he is still really gay!!!!)

Hey, I had bad thoughts too........I hurt so bad with this rebuff and his NOT acknowledging our love and continuing our courtship....I could have been this headline; but I had someone to talk to about this situation. I was NOT alone in my grief, for I had an outlet for this fustration of mine!

So "never" think that having a friend or family member to talk out your emotional problems, doesn't play an important part in being able to cope with problems such as these....

What a waste of a wonderful life.......that could have been....(*8*) :kiss:
 
PreTTy PeTe said:
you know living thru the 80's

i watched a lot of my friends(my gay brothers) die. and they fought for life,

he just took an easy escape. loser.
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PeTe if you read all the replies to the above post you know that you have allready been told off for your heartless remark.

OK, I think the thread has run it's course.

BUt I konw one thing from the above remark PreTTy PeTe is at least
45 YEARS old

Probably
50 + YEARS old

Pretty???????
 
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