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Gay Men "Curious" About Women???
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I'm a gay-identified guy in his late 30s in a very strange situation. I've always been attracted to both sexes, but assumed for years that I was primarily interested in men. In my younger, "straight" years, I was a shy nerd who didn't get much action. For several years, I lived a gay life and got laid regularly for the first time. I seemed content only pursuing men. There were women I found attractive, but I figured that I was gay, so they could only be friends. But more recently, I found myself more and more interested in women. Most of the porn I watch includes women (men, too, of course -- usually bi or sometimes straight). My fantasies include women more and more. I find myself asking guys about what sex was like with their ex-wives or GFs -- they usually do not appreciate the curiosity. I flirt with women on-line and in person -- but get very nervous about anything progressing. While I still want to be sexual with men (I'm under no illusion that I'm straight), I get more excited about women these days. But I have no idea what to do about this.

Has anyone else ever in the history of the universe felt like this?
 
You're a latent bisexual who seems to be just realizing your heterosexual desires.

Usually it's the opposite.

However, with homosexuality becoming more and more accepted, some bisexual men with attractions to both genders may assume that they're only gay because they attracted to men and are comfortable with it.

There are an increasing number of 'gay' men nowadays who are realizing their bisexuality and have misjudged themselves solely on the factor that they're attracted to men.
 
Don't underestimate the "shy nerd" / "late bloomer" aspect of this. The first time I felt sexually desirable was when I started hitting the leather-bar circuit in a big city. I was 29. (Yes, I had had sex with both men and women before). Guys wanted me! Wow! I had no sexual self-confidence at all growing up.

I also figured that no woman would want a man who was also interested in men -- so why bother? I always had a somewhat "worshipful" attitude towards women, and figured that I would only be "using" one to pose as straight. And I could never do that.
 
I have no idea why I had so little self-confidence then. I was pretty popular otherwise, and while I thought I was hideous, I look at pictures of my younger self and think, "he's pretty nice-looking, though doesn't exactly exude 'hotness.'"
 
I can relate to this and good thread. For a while I thought I was gay and stopped doing anything with women or even considering having sex with them, but for a while now my curiosity has come back. I am told I'm good looking all the time but I have very bad confidence issues with women though. I can get along and be cool with girls but when it actually comes time for me to be making a move I'm a wuss. I just want to find a chick who can use me for sex and not worry about all the inbetween shit but I can't find a hook up female fuck buddy online as easily as I can with men and I just don't have the motivation to go to a bar and try to win over some chick so I'm left with my hand.
 
I know a guy like this. I wrote a thread about it. I don't think it is as rare as made out either.
 
I wouldn't mind a female FWB at all. Heck, a male FWB would be better than what I have now. No problems sharing emotions (or bodily fluids) with either gender.
 
Basically what everyone else said, there are many reasons some men who think of themselves as gay deny their bisexual tendencies. You seem to be in a good place with it though, your not scarred of it and your not trying to deny it with anyone, so I would say your good to go.
 
whatevers said:
I'm a gay-identified guy in his late 30s in a very strange situation. I've always been attracted to both sexes, but assumed for years that I was primarily interested in men. In my younger, "straight" years, I was a shy nerd who didn't get much action. For several years, I lived a gay life and got laid regularly for the first time. I seemed content only pursuing men. There were women I found attractive, but I figured that I was gay, so they could only be friends. But more recently, I found myself more and more interested in women. Most of the porn I watch includes women (men, too, of course -- usually bi or sometimes straight). My fantasies include women more and more. I find myself asking guys about what sex was like with their ex-wives or GFs -- they usually do not appreciate the curiosity. I flirt with women on-line and in person -- but get very nervous about anything progressing. While I still want to be sexual with men (I'm under no illusion that I'm straight), I get more excited about women these days. But I have no idea what to do about this.

Has anyone else ever in the history of the universe felt like this?
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You said this "I've always been attracted to both sexes" in your post, so you are bi.
 
Take it slow, but do try it. I'm not trying to fish for anything here, but I've wished that I could be the girl who gay men would try. Why? because I feel like I would understand and accept them and would just be there to give them the experience, not try to change them. And I guess because I'm a passionate lover who loves to please a man. Oh, and don't try it with one person, because not every woman makes love the same, and I'd hate to see you have one bad experience and stop there. Anyway, I hope this helps some.
 
I am exactly the same way - I posted a thread about it somewhere but I can't find it at the moment. I am completely in the same position you are. Almost to the "T"

I've always indentified myself as gay with certain attraction to women - but as I get older, I find myself more attracted to women than ever before. Though I still hold the same respect to men as I always have, it's starting to become the same with women. Back in the day, "straight" porn did nothing for me but it does now just the same as pretty much any porn does lol
 
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