Gay Porn = Gay Boy?

[hermanding]

i wouldn't make any analogies to other situations. if you like gay porn, i would think you AT LEAST had gay tendencies. maybe a bi would like gay porn too. i'd say the acid test would be how your dick reacts in bed with another guy.
ding

 

[SilverRRCloud]

That's pretty much it... just because you're celebate doesn't mean you're not gay.

Sorry, but gay isn't something I DO, gay is something I AM, and no amount of saying "well, yeah, but" is going to change that.

I am, what I do.

And yes, 'and no amount of saying "well, yeah, but" is going to change that.

SC

 

[CoolBlue71]

It isn't all action -- if this was the case, you could be a virgin for life and there would be no concern for heterosexuality, homosexuality, and bisexuality. Identity is what this really taps into; after all, there are few who would ever sex for the first time in life without attraction having given rise first. So this is something that is unavoidable unless one dies before reaching the age of, say, 2 years.

 

[Just_Believe18]

Well QueerBoi, you certainly are so refined and eloquent in your observations.

lol

Is the purpose of this thread trying to figure out your sexuality or a soap box to call this gay porn community an "artificial" supplier of "mindless gay sex?"

Although you've explained how gay porn has become a brainwashing addiction, you've failed to explain your original motivation for wanting to see, get hard, and jack-off over gay porn. You weren't brainwashed from the start to click on your first butt sex video.

 

[Soilwork]

I am, what I do.

And yes, 'and no amount of saying "well, yeah, but" is going to change that.

SC

There's pleny of straight virgins out there and plenty of married gay men who come here to wank off.

Doesn't change what they are.

I was gay long before I got laid the first time. So were you.

So were we all.


He's gay, and the sooner he embraces that, the more of his life he'll have left to enjoy.

 

[Soilwork]

Is the purpose of this thread trying to figure out your sexuality or a soap box to call this gay porn community an "artificial" supplier of "mindless gay sex?"

Alas, the purpose of this thread is to convince himself and get us to agree.

And I'm not biting.

It's sad to see someone waste their life, but you can only drag so many horses who won't drink to water before you dive in head first and let him die of dehydration.

 

[CoolBlue71]

Soilwork has it correct.

When you get right down to it, you can only bullshit yourself for oh-so-long. Probing discussion of sexual identity would be preferable to me, right now, than the continuation of going back and forth on this so-called intellectual interpretation into the appeal of gay porn.

QueerBoi: I wish you well.

 

[doctorsun]

Soilwork is completely right. I'm a virgin and I'm still gay. You don't have to have gay sex to be gay. And, for the longest time, I convinced myself that I was disgusted by the thought of gay sex, just like this peson appears to be doing. I didn't want to be gay. But, then realized I was being a complete idiot and got the fuck over it. I'm gay. That's not going to change, so I might as well be happy about it. And as Soilwork said, gay is something I am, not something I do. Even if I never have sex in my life, I will always be gay.

So, to QueerBoi (yes, I'm sure every straight guy wishes he had this nickname), get over it, you're not straight. You're bisexual at best. No amount of "rationalizing" your addiction to gay porn is going to change it. Welcome to the club, Mary...come in, we don't bite. Unless you want us to, of course.

 

[Soilwork]

well doctor, I hope you find some hot nurse to sweep you off your feet and you live happily ever after.

I hope the same for queerboi.

 

[ludolfo]

true. your more confused

look IF i got off wanking looking at womens tits and pussy and arse, then miost likely THAT is what turns me on. shit...go read Tim Leary and about 'impinting'--ie ., that the visual, emotional stimulus that happens at orgasm usally 'im-prints' you to the object de desire. this is maybe how fetishes proliferate. person looks at FEET and gets off and then wants MORE feet to get off to, etcetera

ALSo you are separating out #straight' from 'gay'...... rather see it as a spectrum of potential. the way you seem to be viewing it is black and white. and doing so is making itseem -to me- you are ASHAMED of indulging in actual touching and sukin and fukin and vice versa etc., with another MALE

how would you be in a bisexual thresssome, foursome, orgy for instance?

 

[Soilwork]

um... I don't imitate what I see in gay porn movies either.

and I make gay porn for a living.

But tell me.. can you see yourself living like these guys?

Being gay is more than going "unh unh fuck me, officer."

 

[JackFTwist]

All I meant was that I have no desire to do any of the sexual activities I see in gay porn movies. I don't believe that all gay men do is have sex.

Maybe this isn't the right forum to discuss these matters...

it is the right forum, you just don't like the answers which I think are more than apt given their insights and your self chosen screen name...

 

[doctorsun]

He's right. This isn't the right forum if what he's looking for is people to tell him what he wants to hear.

Don't come here asking for advice and insight if you're not prepared to read the responses. If you're so sure about your sexuality, why did you even ask the question?

 

[Soilwork]

Queerboi this is exactly the place to discuss what "gay" means.

That being said, what doctor said is also correct.

If you don't want to hear what we have to say, you might be in the wrong place.

Many of us have gone through the bumpy coming out process and aren't in the habit of coddling people and telling them anything but the bare-to-the-bone truth.

My coming out wasn't facilitated by people saying "Oh no.. you're not gay". It was facilitated by a bunch of older gay men who told me to stop being a whimp (and I was being one.. not saying you are).

 

[CoolBlue71]

Ah, Soilwork -- when you mentioned "hot nurse," you didn't specify gender. (I figure that was intentional.)

 

[doctorsun]

I would prefer a male nurse, of course.

 

[Evsann]

*flips the chairs, sweeps the floor and turns off the lights*