Gay Porn vs Real sex

[ggrryy]

I want to know as a person who watches gay porn.I gets me very turned on by it
I masturbate to it .I played with toys just to feel what its like I like it. I think I
might be bi or Gay and have been in denial .The thought of being with a guy doesn't turn me on. The thought of gay sex does I wonder going from fantasy to
real is better is the grass greener? . or once you have cock its a life changer
and you dont want any thing else but it ?. Which part of me thinks it would be like
for me hitting me like a ton of Bricks to Realize i might be gay i have afraid always been afraid to act on it. To really know the truth about myself . thanks for your comments first time ever posting and to speak about this to anyone just writing this is a rush

 

[HunterM]

Welcome to JUB!

Real sex is better than porn...most of the time. Naked body contacts, licking, touching, nippling, sweating, sucking are all ingedients to heighten your senses.

Watching a live sex show in Amsterdam is hotter than watching porn on your computer or TV.

 

[TheColorBlue]

Real (consensual) sex will always be better than porn for the most part... unless you manage to get yourself into horribly awkward experiences. If you're curious about it, might as well try it out. You have nothing to lose if you're safe about it. I find sex with guys different from sex with girls, but I think all really depends on who the person is. I've had awkward experiences with both guys and girls.

If you're looking for literal differences, don't expect pizza boys, mechanics, and that hot professor of yours to start feeling you up for extra tips or extra credit. I think Real Cock is better than pussy and way better than just watching it on a screen. Oh... and anal isn't as simple as it looks in porn.

 

[Seasoned]

Welcome. Personally I think the most telling aspect of your post is the rush you got writing it. I think that comes from allowing yourself to admit who you are to a group of men.

A penis in your hand, mouth or ass won't make you gay. The desire to want those things is telling you what is your sexual orientation. A dick is unlike any toy. Touching another guy's dick is unlike touching your own.

I wish you all the best as you discover who you are. Play safe.

 

[KaraBulut]

Congrats on your first post.

What you're risking is an epiphany.

There are a lot of guys who will tell you that they had attractions to guys that they dismissed as curiosity or bisexuality. But when they got naked with a guy and confronted the feel of another guy's body next to theirs, the smell of a man and all the sensations of sex with a guy, they had an epiphany. They realized that their preference was for men.

So, given your history and your interest in gay sex, you need to be sure that you're ready to accept the possibility that you are gay before you take that next step.

 

[palemale]

Sometimes, sex is mediocre, you just may find out you're not that turned on by the guy. When you click with a guy, however, it can be unbelievable. I've had both experiences. So, don't worry or be discouraged if the first guy you are with turns out to be disappointing. The next guy may leave you seeing stars and gasping for air.

 

[hylas]

you dont need to have experienced gay sex to know that youre gay. i think its safe to say that youre gay or bisexual, so thats that. congratulations! life as a fag is not always chocolate, but i find it finger-licking good and wouldnt change it if i could. i wish you all the best on your forthcoming journey of self-discovery!

the "porn vs real sex" question you attach to the question of your sexual orientation seems a little random to me, but i would say they are two rather different things and not as easily comparable as one might think. best to just try it out and see for yourself.

but for what its worth, i would compare watching porn to looking at paintings, and actual sex to creating a painting yourself.

if you just look at paintings, then things are quite simple: mostly, you either like a painting, or you dont.

but if you paint yourself, you will have more complex experiences. you might need to practice to get certain things right. a motif that looked great in your imagination might end up looking lifeless on the canvas. you will make lots of paintings that are ok but not great, and youll produce your share of complete failures, especially in the beginning. but once you produce a masterpiece - something that will happen more often as you get more experienced and skilled - the feeling is unlike anything in the whole world, ever.

(i hope that metaphor wasnt too pretentious ^^)

 

[OogieMess]

or accidentally whacking yourself in your forehead with your knee

How on earth do you manage to do that???

 

[HunterM]

My first sex with a man was not that enjoyable. I overanalyzed everything. Am I supposed to like this? Is it normal to feel this way? I was curious to try it out, but at the same time, I had guilt and shame that I liked it. So I was in denial that I liked it.

I tried it again the second time with an open mind (it was 6 months later with another guy that I really clicked with). The experience was much better. It was fun. Glad I gave it another chance.

 

[Atzesp]

Many people I know didn't have a great first time with a guy. As every first time, it's all new and different - and that makes a huge difference on it. You are not trying something calm and relaxed. You may pretend doing so, but inside you will be almost on the verge of breaking down.

So the first thing to do is to make yourself clear about your desires - and yes, as guys said here, you won't become a fag or effeminate only because you made out with a man. That was a think, by the way, that I had great difficulty in dealing with when I discovered myself gay, until I realized that the fact that I liked men didn't prevent me from being one.

You won't change. Your whole life concept won't disappear. Your values will still be the same.

Once that is perfectly clear in your head, just go for a try. You will see that, indeed, no porn will ever compare to what real life gay sex may be.