Gay, straight, bi who cares

[coolfactor79]

I tried to deny it for the longest time not that I thought it was wrong or bad, but how can someone go from loving women thinking about them all the time to thinking about men (well a guy more like it).

It can't be legit right? Did I ever think about guys in the past? Sure, but I'm sure at some point straight men have thought and I'm sure gay men have thought about women. In the end it just doesn't feel right. That's how I felt all my life.

Well until now.

A good friend who is gay, well I don't know how it started honestly, but the chats turned sexual and included photos of each other. At first I wasn't sure what to make of it. But if I get hard at him naked and get off on our chats one has to figure its not a phase but legit if it keeps happening.

I used to think of girls sexually all the time. Now every so often. The reason its only every so often? Because I am usually thinking of him sexually.

And if you're wondering yes I get harder over him and get off better. Does this mean I don't like women anymore? No not at all. I still like them even if my friend gets me going more.

Am I just confused? Doubtful. Been too long since we have done this. But more and more I prefer seeing his big dick than a naked chick. Basically if I can't get in touch with him, women will be fine, but if he's around that comes first.

 

[Audio Tech]

Sexuality is fluid for many people. More than care to admit it. Enjoy!

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Sexuality is fluid for many people. More than care to admit it. Enjoy!

 

[palbert]

Enjoy what you like, men, women , or both.

 

[curiousguyUNT]

Part of the reason could be your relationship. I always get harder and get off better when I'm with someone, or thinking about someone, I know over random pics/vids/imagination of people I don't know. I dislike labels because I feel that they are too limiting, like once you accept one that's all you'll ever be. I just do what I want with who I want and I don't worry about what to call it. The only time it is a problem is when I'm trying to explain it to others, so other than those I really trust, I don't bring it up at all. If you enjoy getting off with women and you enjoy getting off with men, or at least your friend, that only means your sexual because you like getting off. Have fun and don't worry about the rest.

 

[rareboy]

Enjoy it for what it is.

 

[newbored]

Did I ever think about guys in the past? Sure, but I'm sure at some point straight men have thought and I'm sure gay men have thought about women. In the end it just doesn't feel right. That's how I felt all my life.
I get harder over him and get off better.

Does this mean I don't like women anymore? No not at all. I still like them even if my friend gets me going more.

I have to say I applaud your attitude! Exactly! They're nothing but labels! Fuck them!

Be very careful though, you might end up having an encounter with the Homosexual Thought Police here, who'd tell you: "You're just closeted and afraid to be gay!" Just ignore them and all the fucking labels. And live your life!

 

[Kulindahr]

Sexuality is fluid for many people. More than care to admit it. Enjoy!

Exactly.

Coolfactor, you think you have problems, try this: the gender I'm sexually attracted to changes with the seasons. I'm always attracted at least a little to some on each side, but it swings back and forth -- and often in the winter I'm not sexually attracted to anyone, just visually (like right now, where an occasional chick will ring my bell, and ten times as often a guy will, but it's like looking at art).

I have to say I applaud your attitude! Exactly! They're nothing but labels! Fuck them!

Be very careful though, you might end up having an encounter with the Homosexual Thought Police here, who'd tell you: "You're just closeted and afraid to be gay!" Just ignore them and all the fucking labels. And live your life!

The thing about labels is that they serve as tags for sorting people, huh?

Though I haven't run into the HTP for a while (praise God, hallelujah!).

 

[Rolyo85]

Labels are a powerful grounding tool for people who lack certainty in who they are. Because sexuality is so basic and personality-defining, knowing what yours is can be the difference between an overall sense of security and self-awareness, and a shambling awkward confusion.

That said, there are truly bisexual people. The OP description is exactly that - bisexuality is exactly attraction that "changes with the seasons/person/circumstances". It's also a label, and one that's misused so often that it's worth preserving when it actually does apply.

Accusations of HTP are a sign of insecurity ^_^

 

[Kulindahr]

Accusations of HTP are a sign of insecurity ^_^

Maybe now, but it used to be that any mention of someone being bi brought a storm of condemnation, the opinion being that there's no such thing as bi, there are just self-loathing gays who don't want to admit their real identity.

 

[Rolyo85]

Maybe now, but it used to be that any mention of someone being bi brought a storm of condemnation, the opinion being that there's no such thing as bi, there are just self-loathing gays who don't want to admit their real identity.

Well, that's a shallow generalization for sure, I agree. Although unfortunately, even today more people claiming to be "bi" are in fact closeted homosexuals. It's because they try to broaden the term "bi" to encompass who they are in order to not feel gay. But to think that there are NO real bisexual is idiocy.

 

[Kulindahr]

Well, that's a shallow generalization for sure, I agree. Although unfortunately, even today more people claiming to be "bi" are in fact closeted homosexuals. It's because they try to broaden the term "bi" to encompass who they are in order to not feel gay. But to think that there are NO real bisexual is idiocy.

I don't know if you lurked for a while first, but I'm guessing you were never around for one of the JUB HTP posse ambushes. The severity of the hate was one reason a forum for bisexual topics was formed. Yes, there are some who called themselves bi because they're afraid to take the complete step to acknowledge they're gay, and there are a lot more who may actually be gay but trained themselves so well to be attracted to females in order to keep the closet closed -- so that they are functionally bi. But the HTP posse had no room for understanding or reason.

It's nice to not sweat hearing their thunder any more.

 

[eastofeden]

OK...I have to ask..what is an HTP ?

 

[Kulindahr]

LOL

In engineering, HTP is "heat transfer process"; for some it's an herbal remedy.

But in this instance it refers to the Homosexual Thought Police.

 

[eastofeden]

LOL

In engineering, HTP is "heat transfer process"; for some it's an herbal remedy.

But in this instance it refers to the Homosexual Thought Police.

AHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHh!!! The lightbulb went on! Thanks!

 

[coolfactor79]

I have to say I applaud your attitude! Exactly! They're nothing but labels! Fuck them!

Be very careful though, you might end up having an encounter with the Homosexual Thought Police here, who'd tell you: "You're just closeted and afraid to be gay!" Just ignore them and all the fucking labels. And live your life!

Oh I know many will say I am really gay and afraid to come out. That's cool though. People can think or say what they want. I know what I am and what I feel. So its cool.

Its not like this started with him and suddenly I don't like girls anymore. Hardly the case. Just right now from a sexual standpoint he gets me off more than girls and more than other guys as well. Not sure what the future holds or if there is one. As of now I don't feel love for him (outside of friendship). But who knows.

 

[newbored]

Oh I know many will say I am really gay and afraid to come out. That's cool though. People can think or say what they want. I know what I am and what I feel. So its cool.

Good for you. That's the attitude you must have around here. Let the princesses say all they want, LOL. And remember: FUCK labels.

 

[Rolyo85]

It's strange to me that we expect someone to come here looking for advice, while at the same time having the attitude of "letting the princesses say all the want, LOL"...

 

[Kulindahr]

It's strange to me that we expect someone to come here looking for advice, while at the same time having the attitude of "letting the princesses say all the want, LOL"...

Isn't that good advice?