Getting my boyfriend in the mood?

[imhere]

Hey guys,

Longtime reader, first time poster (I think). I have a dilemma!

I've recently discovered I'm not very good at trying to get my boyfriend in the mood. My sexual drive is a lot higher than his, so I'm almost always "ready to go." It's difficult for me to understand how someone can't be always in the mood. I should say that we're very open about this, and we talk about it. I just can't fully grasp it.

So my question is, are there any good ways to get my guy in the mood for sex? I'm slightly clueless on this subject. Any guys on here have experience with this one?

Thanks dudes!

 

[Rolyo85]

I can't really help with that. I think you need to establish whether he can be gotten in the mood in the first place. Some guys just aren't that sexual. For more, check out the "Sex?nope" topic that's going on currently in this forum.

 

[bw92116]

It's more than just sex acts. It's also holding him, running your hands all over his body, lying on top of him, rubbing your legs up and down the sides of his legs, grasping one leg of his with your two legs and squeezing, then do the same with his other leg, cradle him in your arms, as if you were carrying him, but you're both lying down, wrap your arms around him and be a warm blanket of love surrounding him, stroke his hair and massage his scalp likely, have your feet "hug" his feet, speak softly in a whisper into one of his ears, whatever you feel like saying, put your hands on his face, let his cheek feel the warmth of your hand, look into his eyes with love. If you are nude, run your warm hands all over his body. Let his butt cheek feel your warm hand resting on it. Lightly rub his balls with the palm of your hand. Hold his cock and balls with your hand or with both hands, just holding them to keep them warm with the warmth of your hands. Stroke the back of his knees with your fingers - not in a quick tickling motion, in a slow lover motion. Do the same with his armpits - not in a tickling fashion, with very slow motion. Cup his nipple with your hands and let his nipple feel the warmth. Lightly play with the nipple with your fingers - again, slowly. Do the same with the other nipple. Lightly, slowly run your fingers up and down his butt crack. All the time, keep whispering good things into his ear. Everything you do should make him feel loved.

 

[ebluue]

@bw92116, will you marry me?

LOL! seriously, if a guy does all these things to me on the first date, i will never let him leave my side, ever!

You're a very romantic guy bw92116, you're the kind of guy i'm looking for!

 

[TX-Beau]

You need to ask him how to get him in the mood and then do that.

If he says "I don't know," then experiment. If you're both as open about this as you say, that shouldn't be a problem.

 

[Seasoned]

Welcome to the forum. Many people assume, until shown differently, that their sex drive is the norm. Actually, many couples are not 100% compatible. I'm not sure I have a different sex drive from my husband, but I do know we approach sex differently. I'm fine with a direct approach, whereas he likes to be seduced. So, my advice is to find out a few things, how often does he need/want sex, how he wishes to be approached, and if he has any desire for quickies in between full love making sessions.

Staying open, honest and conversational can lead to a solution. I hope you guys are able to find common ground.

 

[justsimon]

I'm like your boyfriend and it was an issue in my last relationship. BW offers some good advice. Personally, I really enjoy slow kissing and cuddling without any pressure to have sex. There are also a few places on my body, that when touched will almost always get me in the mood.

 

[HunterM]

It's more than just sex acts. It's also holding him, running your hands all over his body, lying on top of him, rubbing your legs up and down the sides of his legs, grasping one leg of his with your two legs and squeezing, then do the same with his other leg, cradle him in your arms, as if you were carrying him, but you're both lying down, wrap your arms around him and be a warm blanket of love surrounding him, stroke his hair and massage his scalp likely, have your feet "hug" his feet, speak softly in a whisper into one of his ears, whatever you feel like saying, put your hands on his face, let his cheek feel the warmth of your hand, look into his eyes with love. If you are nude, run your warm hands all over his body. Let his butt cheek feel your warm hand resting on it. Lightly rub his balls with the palm of your hand. Hold his cock and balls with your hand or with both hands, just holding them to keep them warm with the warmth of your hands. Stroke the back of his knees with your fingers - not in a quick tickling motion, in a slow lover motion. Do the same with his armpits - not in a tickling fashion, with very slow motion. Cup his nipple with your hands and let his nipple feel the warmth. Lightly play with the nipple with your fingers - again, slowly. Do the same with the other nipple. Lightly, slowly run your fingers up and down his butt crack. All the time, keep whispering good things into his ear. Everything you do should make him feel loved.

OMG! I get precum just by reading this. How much do you charge per hour?

To the OP: maybe try watching porn together as foreplay. Make sure it's the type of porn that turns him on. If he's on medication, maybe it's the medicine that sedates him.