Getting turned off by someones natural scent

[theductworkman]

I've been seeing somebody for a while now and we have connected on a lot of levels. However, the one area we have not explored fully is sex. This is because of his natural scent. I've noticed when I am close to him that his body has a natural scent and so does his breath. I'm a massage therapist and working on lots of guys I've noticed a few common body scents that many people have..Not to be confused with sweaty smells or having to do with cleanliness, I'm talking about the natural scent of our bodies that I believe has a lot to do with our immune systems and diets. I've smelled the guy I'm dating's scent on other people before which makes me think its somewhat common.

This particular guys scent turns me off. I can't seem to get past it. I'm not sure how to describe it other than its almost like a stale smell. And his breath has a natural scent that smells grassy. Sometimes it's very subtle and other times its so strong I don't have to be very close to him to smell it. Has anyone ever had this experience with another person before and if so is there anything one can do about it? I really like this guy and this is the one thing that keeps turning me off about him and keeping me from being able to be physical and even want to kiss him sometimes.

I've always been an extremely sensitive person and I can remember growing up my dad had a scent that may have been similar to this guy. And it always grossed me out with him. Any advice, sharing of experience, reading material, anything would be much appreciated.

 

[dragon08]

Well some people just don't click chemically.

Have you heard of the term "pheromone parties" and "pheromone dating" basically what people do is wear the same t shirt to sleep for a week and when not sleeping they store the shirt in a Ziploc. Then they go to a party with the shirt and pick a dates based solely in their reaction to a shirt with just a number identifier on it.

I think that smell is something to pay attention to. It may not seen like a big deal but over time it can get to you. I think it's one of those things that tip the scale if you're on the fence

You might also be interested in how gay men react to different pheremonal stimuli if you wanna look it up

 

[borg69unimatrix]

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Dragon Is correct... that's why they call it "chemistry" in regards to dating. Biological pheromones play a huge roll in attraction beyond just the visual and mental aspects. Some guys scent can be a turn off... others nearly intoxicating!!!!

 

[kallipolis]

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[toogood4u2have]

Pheromones are very real my friend. You probably aren't wired for him chemically.

 

[maxpowr9]

It is true and BTW, it is seen throughout the animal kingdom. So to say that humans are not "animals" is incorrect.

 

[theductworkman]

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Dragon Is correct... that's why they call it "chemistry" in regards to dating. Biological pheromones play a huge roll in attraction beyond just the visual and mental aspects. Some guys scent can be a turn off... others nearly intoxicating!!!!

Thanks guys for the feedback. I'm reading a book entitled "The Scent of Desire" to get more info. You may be right, it could simply be his natural chemistry not matching up with mine. I was reading about how our sense of smell is intertwined with our emotions and how we associate "good" and "bad" emotions to smells based on early experiences. I'm wondering if he smells like somebody, possibly my dad, who I did not like growing up and now when I smell it on him I'm flooded with an emotion which says "stay away."

It was interesting to also learn that our sense of smell is such a crucial part of our lives that when a person looses it in an accident, they often times become depressed, sometimes to the point of suicide. This is because the desires we have that are fueled by the things we smell go away. I never knew smell was such a big part of our lives!

 

[syoBsUtsuJ]

Most people do have a natural pheromone level to one degree or another ... sadly, with some regardless of even prescription-strength deodorant/anti-perspirant they will emit their "scent" within hours of application. I had one such friend while attending university, and I was so madly in lust with this "straight" guy that I overlooked it. His experimentation led to 2-for-2 mutual fellatio experiences (first 2 drunk and the second being completely sober), but with no kissing or other "gay shit."

I mention this only because one summer day, I posed for picture with him and another friend that also had a pungent odor that I certainly did not find unique or endearing; any way, I was in the middle, and both men were tall like me, so their sweaty arm pits were directly on my shoulders per our picture. An hour later, I was meeting with co-worker about our respective case-loads, and I kept getting "whiffs" of massive B.O. and started to doubt my own lack of pheromones. (for the record: I do NOT wear deodorant, as I honestly do not need it). I excused myself and went to the restroom to smell my pits, and I was fine, but the odor followed me. I later determined it to be my shoulders and remembered the picture pose.

When I got home, my neighbor friend did exactly that experiment ... having me blindfolded and trying to determine which odor was repulsive and which one was endearing. LOL ... without the prejudice of ____ being visually there, I was repulsed by both scents, as I couldn't which one was the one I was supposed to be repulsed by!

If we are sexually aroused and lustful of another, there are many things that we will consciously and/or unconsciously overlook.

 

[theductworkman]

Most people do have a natural pheromone level to one degree or another ... sadly, with some regardless of even prescription-strength deodorant/anti-perspirant they will emit their "scent" within hours of application. I had one such friend while attending university, and I was so madly in lust with this "straight" guy that I overlooked it. His experimentation led to 2-for-2 mutual fellatio experiences (first 2 drunk and the second being completely sober), but with no kissing or other "gay shit."

I mention this only because one summer day, I posed for picture with him and another friend that also had a pungent odor that I certainly did not find unique or endearing; any way, I was in the middle, and both men were tall like me, so their sweaty arm pits were directly on my shoulders per our picture. An hour later, I was meeting with co-worker about our respective case-loads, and I kept getting "whiffs" of massive B.O. and started to doubt my own lack of pheromones. (for the record: I do NOT wear deodorant, as I honestly do not need it). I excused myself and went to the restroom to smell my pits, and I was fine, but the odor followed me. I later determined it to be my shoulders and remembered the picture pose.

When I got home, my neighbor friend did exactly that experiment ... having me blindfolded and trying to determine which odor was repulsive and which one was endearing. LOL ... without the prejudice of ____ being visually there, I was repulsed by both scents, as I couldn't which one was the one I was supposed to be repulsed by!

If we are sexually aroused and lustful of another, there are many things that we will consciously and/or unconsciously overlook.

I'm paying more attention to my scent and how the things I smell have an effect on me emotionally. It's very interesting, I never gave it much thought before, however I'm realizing that scent has played a huge role in whether or not I pursue a guy on a physical level. There are a lot of guys who's scent turns me off within minutes of meeting them, either by their body or breath. I've always equated it with cleanliness, however I'm learning it's often times not that. It's simply our chemistry not matching up, I think.