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Girl friend confessed that she loves me, don't want to hurt anybody

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My friend who is a girl just confessed love to me. We were just parting after leaving a bar when she turned around and ran a hundered meters just to kiss me. Then she told me all those things people say when they're in love, such as "I'm only happy with you", etc. You know the drill.
Now I just don't know what to do. I'm not out yet. She's very dear to me and I don't want to hurt her. Faking love would only hurt her in the long run.

I should also mention that we're college classmates, so I can't just pretend it never happened.
 
aaronxp said:
Happened to me twice and one with my best friend and is so awkward and uncomfortable.

Just tell her the truth, that you love her as a friend and don't want to hurt her.

We now remember it with humor.
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Yeah, I just don't know what to do to minimize her pain. She's very close to me. I value our friendship and I'm afraid she'll just start avoiding me when I tell her that I'm not interested.
I must have been blind not to notice the clues when I think about it now.
 
Tell her you are gay. Tell her you love her, but not in that way, and that you CAN'T love her in that way. If she doesn't know the truth about you, she will still hope that she could make you fall in love with her.

And if you are really her friend, accept the possibility she will pull away from you, at least for a time. Your being in the closet allowed for this situation to happen, and you must accept the consequences.
 
Rolyo85 said:
Tell her you are gay. Tell her you love her, but not in that way, and that you CAN'T love her in that way. If she doesn't know the truth about you, she will still hope that she could make you fall in love with her.

And if you are really her friend, accept the possibility she will pull away from you, at least for a time. Your being in the closet allowed for this situation to happen, and you must accept the consequences.
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Thank you. I'd hate to come out at this time though. I'm in a homophobic environment and I don't want to get ostracized from society.
I realize how she feels, we've all been there. I want to be as helpful as possible, and if that entails staying away from her for some time, I'll just have to deal with it.
 
I don't wanna derail this topic from the issue of your friend, but if you would like to talk more about your environment and coming out, please PM me.

I feel that if she is your friend, and you care for her, you owe her the whole truth, but if you don't trust her to keep it to herself, maybe you shouldn't.
 
Thank you for your offer to help me. I feel it's not necessary though. I'm sure my parents and good friends will be supportive. It's only about the society I'm currently in. I plan going open in grad school when I move out of this country.

This is not exactly the thing I'd trust her with. She's a good friend but from my experience, she can't keep a secret.
It seem there's pretty much nothing I can do but hope she won't get hurt much.
 
You did nothing except be nice to her. Regardless of what you do or say or don't do and say she's likely to be hurt. Hurt people then get angry and do or say hurtful things. I hope she's not that kind of a person, but be careful.
 
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