Going Anal

[stv21s]

Me and my bf are planning on having anal tomorrow night. Me on top of couse. One question, is there anything he should do so that things dont get "dirty" if u know what i'm saying. Any tips or hints would be certainly appreciated.

ryan

 

[stv21s]

Thanks. The enema thing doesn't sound pleasant. is that the only way to make sure nothing bad happens?...

I'm a little nervous. Whats a good position to start out in?

 

[stv21s]

Actually my boner tends to be straight as an arrow. I see doggy style a lot in pornos, and i love the way the droopy balls slap around. How easy is it to get to that position?

 

[justjoshoh]

you can find some smooth unburred object to insert inside for a while. have him wear it for a few minutes to stretch for you.

a warm plug is typically used for this. not sure what would make a good substitute.

you could finger the anus using a finger cot for protection if you don't have a plug available.

 

[justjoshoh]

Make sure you breathe out of your mouth and not your nose. Its gonna stink so bad. Even worse, you could loosen him up so much it numbs his butt and he gets too relaxed - then ur gonna get splattered on.

Im just dickin w/ ya. Bone away.

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This guy is genuinely concerned about what I can only but assume is his first time. Neither of your posts have done anything to help the situation. Rather than spilling this nonesense from your mouth, perhaps it is time that you provide helpful tips to this gentleman. He deserves that.

 

[Homoerectus]

The bottom should drink plenty of water and juice all day. Go light on solid food. Go to the drug store and get some glycerin suppositories. They are small and should be inserted in the ass as far as the finger will allow. Wait about 15-30 minutes and they will induce a poop. Now use just a little warm water for a clear water enema, just to make sure he is clean. That should clean him out. Take a warm shower together to clean yourselves and relax. For your first time, do lots of anal foreplay. Extended periods of rimming are very relaxing. Buy KY Jelly or AstroGlide. AstroGlide is usually found near the condoms. Use lubed condoms. Use your fingers to lube his ass and to stretch his hole. Start with one finger and gradually work up to four. If you are comfortable with it, French kiss his stretched hole. When ready to do the deed, you should lay on your back and allow your friend to lower himself on your cock. Let him control the insertion. After you are completely in him, rest and relax. Both of you should enjoy the moment. Let him "move" on your cock until he is completely comfortable. Now you are ready to get into any position you want . Come back to this thread and let us all know how it goes.

 

[hawkia]

I'm a little nervous. Whats a good position to start out in?

The putting on the condom position

 

[3nipples]

By all means read Adida's sticky (See O2's post above for link) for safe sex and cleanliness tips, but...

above all remember that it's only sex and it doesn't matter if you're not perfect... talk to each other and laugh at each other's fumblings... if you lose your hardon or come too soon, then just go on to something else until you're ready to try again. Don't worry.

 

[thewiz]

I agree with everything said here. The main thing is to go slow -- remember this isn't a race, it should be one of the most exciting moments. My first guy rammed, bammed, and was ready to scram. It hurt like hell.

As was already said, an enema before cleans out the duct work; if you want to really get in the mood, light some candles in the bathroom and take a bubble bath together. Just be careful not to knock the candles over! Last thing you want is a fireman witnessing your time together!

Since you are the top, remember that he may feel some discomfort; even pain as you go in. I'm not sure how big you are, but his hole has to stretch to fit you inside. Loosening up with the fingers and then SLOWLY pushing the head in, taking it out, putting it in and leaving it so that his muscles can relax around you is important. Don't just ram it in or you'll have to probably pull him from the ceiling.

If you are going to do it doggie style, depending on if you are the same height, remember it's got to go in and kind of down (if he is resting on his elbows with his ass up. So don't use it like a sword and expect it to ram straight in. You might even have to get up a little and push it gently in. Once in, he can adjust his legs apart so that you can either do it on your knees or you might like to be more domineering and be on your feet with your legs bent (and you can wrap your arms around him and it is even more intimate).

When you are both going to cum, the missionary position is great because you can watch each other.....

 

[smile86]

be gentle with him, at least at first, he'll appreciate it. foreplay is the key, lots of kissing make him feel relaxed and comfortable, anal forplay to get him used to the sensations and feelings.

and of course have fun!

 

[stv21s]

Thank you guys so much.

Any pics of you guys doin it? That would help lol

Ryan

 

[BennoBoy]

Thank you guys so much.

Any pics of you guys doin it? That would help lol

Ryan

Maybe watch some gay porn, and you will learn something?

Seriously, first time is never perfect, just take time! And you will enjoy the good fuck!

 

[tommyj]

So how did it go??

 

[lapafrax]

Maybe watch some gay porn, and you will learn something

I'd advise against this!

Being good at sex is about trial and error and learning! Porn isn't meant to be a realisitic guide to fucking.

 

[stv21s]

It went great... we actually did it in the shower... or some at least.

Thanks