Going to a gay bar/club alone

[HouseOfLove]

Hi, there.
I was wondering if any of you have ever gone to a gay bar on your own. If so, what was that like? Did you get to meet people or did you just stayed by yourself?

 

[jimm04]

It depends on your mojo !

 

[Corny]

Well the only reason going to the gay bar alone is to get to know new people aka a shag for the night, right ?
Go dancing, look out for a guy you like. Make contact, hope he follows you to the bar - get to know each other

 

[Corny]

Oh, no no .. you CAN meet new people and friends at gay bars (although our "gay bars" are a bit different, than those featured in american television, but i have no clue how accurate tv portraits them). But meeting new people (in terms of potential friends and not hookups) seldom happens when you go alone. It's more like go with friends, and meet someone that someone knows that you didn't know before and so on. Or just meet someone new, but don't take him home since that would be rude towards your friend(s). Well at least that's how I think, but I know that many people don't care about that

 

[Corny]

which one?

 

[Twistedup]

i've gone twice by myself in the past week. not to get laid or to meet people, but because i'm broke and unemployed and it is soooo easy to get free drinks all night there.

 

[treanir]

I did a gay pub crawl while in Australia and since I was travelling alone (and the number of other gay backpackers is shockingly low - guess the gays don't *do* that), I was more-or-less forced to go to gay bars alone. Yes, one night stands where the focus of a lot of single men there, but I did make a few friends. I think it depends on luck as well as your intentions. If you just want a quiet pint and no fuss, you won´t get any (fuss, friends, just ´any´). If you go there for a quick fuck, that's all you're going to get. If you're there to make friends, chances are that's going to happen too. Maybe not every night, but it is all possible.

 

[Roccoboyz]

I love going by myself. It makes the night exciting and full of potential possiblities. I thrive being the predator waiting to pounce on a man.

 

[alley]

Ok--I admit that when I go to a gay bar, I am sometimes (usually) looking for a hook-up--I have never gone there with anyone. And if I see that someone is sitting with another guy I assume they are taken.

I have tried to make "just" friends and it has not really worked out as yet---I wanted to do that with this older couple but I then discovered that they were in a open relationship and that they each were very "grabby" Their hands were everywhere---I have avoided them every time since. One of them even followed me into the bathroom, and tried to watch me pee.


Another guy who I played pool with and who I have no interest in always comes and sits by me and he hardly says anything and proceeds to scare off the cuties.
If he was fun to talk to it would be another story---He just drinks and smiles a lot at me---

 

[treanir]

^ Shy guy maybe? I know I often have no idea what to say to guys, even though I want to. I'm usually fine after ten minutes, but those first minutes are pure hell for me, and I suspect for the other guy as well.

 

[alley]

^ Shy guy maybe? I know I often have no idea what to say to guys, even though I want to. I'm usually fine after ten minutes, but those first minutes are pure hell for me, and I suspect for the other guy as well.

Naw--we have talked for a bit--me mostly asking him questions from sheer boredom---he just smiles and has a one or two word answer----

 

[CoolguyAT]

Yep, i've been to gay bars alone.....sometimes it has ended up good, other times bad. It honestly depends on the atmosphere really. I'll use Charlotte, NC as an example:

One night I went to a bar called Liasons alone and while someone did end up talking to me towards the end of the night none of the bartenders would chat with me and every time I tried to talk with someone they would ignore me or say "We already have our group". Basically, the experience wasn't that great.

One night I went to the Charlotte Eagle alone, the bartender chatted with me and I ended up making some new friends that night. The bar was a no attitudes free place and the guys there were really friendly and it continues to be my bar of choice (along with Sidelines) in Charlotte.

One piece of advice I have is to try and go to a gay bar on the weekdays, I have found they tend to not be as busy and not as much attitude. I actually prefer the bars on a weekday so I can talk to people more, if you do that you are bound to make some new friends, even be friends with the bar tender and when you go on the weekend you won't feel so intimidated which makes you have some more confidence and possibly find a hot date

 

[Cognition]

One night I went to a bar called Liasons alone and while someone did end up talking to me towards the end of the night none of the bartenders would chat with me and every time I tried to talk with someone they would ignore me or say "We already have our group".

I would shrink up and die if that happened to me.

 

[CoolguyAT]

Yeah, and it was actually my first night out at a gay bar in Charlotte (I lived in the Charlotte area for about 17 years off and on) I've been back to that bar since then but it was to meet a buddy of mine. Apparently it has a reputation in Charlotte for being very clickish and with some attitude. Like I said, I prefer the Eagle or Sidelines if i'm in Charlotte.

 

[Soulless]

I never take anyone with me to the gay bars, I think is kinda rude to leave your friends while you go shag someone and for me that's the only reason I go to gay bars. But I have made friends in gay bars too like this once I met a guy (who I didn't fuck) who would later on introduce me to the guy that would be my first long-term boyfriend ... too bad I had to leave the country only 3 months after that :'( I still miss him.

 

[CoolguyAT]

It depends what you are going to the gay bar for like you said....sometimes I go to look for a hot date and usually when its that I go alone but sometimes I go to socialize with my friends as well, though usually when the latter scenario happens I seem to end up meeting someone to date or fuck It's all what you make out of it really.