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Going to a gay nite by myself tonight- any advice?

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Yeah...basically there's an LGBT night at my uni, unfortuantely it looks like I'm going by myself (as I've not outed myself to many people yet), and I really wanna try and get talking to someone. Problem is, I'm quite shy and not very confident in myself, though I keep telling myself if I see a hot guy by himself I'll just go for it :P

So does anyone have any advice? I don't wanna seem too eager or desperate, but at the same time I really wanna get out there and meet guys. I'm just worried I'll have one drink and then chicken out and leave =/
 
artemis said:
Yeah...basically there's an LGBT night at my uni, unfortuantely it looks like I'm going by myself (as I've not outed myself to many people yet), and I really wanna try and get talking to someone. Problem is, I'm quite shy and not very confident in myself, though I keep telling myself if I see a hot guy by himself I'll just go for it :P

So does anyone have any advice? I don't wanna seem too eager or desperate, but at the same time I really wanna get out there and meet guys. I'm just worried I'll have one drink and then chicken out and leave =/
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You already know the advice 1. Be yourself 2 Have a good time.
 
You've taken a great step and just went out!The rest should come naturally.Who knows,you might not have to make the first move.Have fun and let us know how it went.:=D:
 
Just go and try to have a good time. Even if you feel awkward, the only way you can really feel more comfortable at this kind of thing is to actually try it a few times.
 
Don't be afraid to admit to whomever you meet that you feel a little shy/awkward/uncomfortable being there because you're not entirely out yet.

The only thing wrong you can do is try to pretend you're more comfortable than you are.
 
Try to relax and have a good time

Remember, they are there for the same reason you are
 
Thanks for the support guys, I kept what you said in mind when I went =-)
And yeah, went so much better than I thought. Here's how it went:
I arrived, on my own, went to the bar and got a drink. Sat by myself in the corner for quite a long time, just kind of fiddling with my phone. Eventually, however, I noticed a group starting to form at the table next to me. One guy sort of looked gay to me, and I think I heard someone say "gay" lol, but I wasn't totally sure if they were there for that so I kind of left it for a while. This one guy kept looking at me, I reckoned he probably figured me out.

I waited until he went up to the bar by himself, and headed up there as well. I basically said, "Um, excuse me if I'm about to make a total idiot out of myself, but are you guys here for the LGBT thing?" To my relief, he said yes!

Turned out he was bi. We got chatting, and he actually said he was gonna come over and talk to me after he got his drink lol, but even so I'm still glad I worked up the courage to approach him. We got chatting, he was a really nice guy and made me feel so much better, I explained to him how awkward I felt when I first got there.

Eventually, we both got talking to these other two guys; one really cute Spanish gay guy and another guy; who already had a boyfriend, but hey, can't win 'em all =P
It was great, we became really fast friends, and err, got quite drunk and stayed out until 2am, was fun =P

So yeah, I didn't get laid or anything, but I'm so glad I actually went out and did it. We're planning to do the same thing this Saturday, and hopefully I can get to know some of the other guys better as well. So yeah, it went well =D
 
Great - glad that you have some friends who are "plu" [people like us] - which means, smart, witty, charming and ever so humble.

Celebrate your life!
 
Good for you!Now next time it'll be easier.Glad it went well.Cheers!!!:=D:
 
Thanks guys =)
And dairyking-just go for it man! I'm sure you'll find its easier than you'd think =)
 
great! you're not supposed to get laid

(well unless you were specifically looking for that that is. But I don't think that getting laid is a necessarily good ending for a Uni LGBT night.) So, good.
 
Muuuh. Bit of a disappointment this week. The guys I mentioned didn't show up this week. And the event is called "LGBT and Friends"--I think literally this week it was just the "and friends" lol, very disappointing turn-out. Then again essay deadlines are looming, so I suppose its understandable.
On the plus side, the night wasn't completely wasted; I went out for drinks with two of my mates beforehand (one I haven't seen in a while), and actually ended up telling them I was gay lol (they didn't know), so I'm glad to get that off my chest. They weren't particularly bothered, but I guess that's a good reaction in a way. Bit of an awkward silence after it came out, but it was all good in the end ^_-
 
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