Got any deal-breakers?

[landers]

I was talking to some friends the other night about this guy I'm seeing and they brought up some deal-breaker questions. These are questions that will let you know if a relationship with someone is even possible like if someone smokes or not or whether or not someone wants kids.

So it got me thinking, what are some of your deal-breakers?

 

[1091MAC]

Inconsideration for others
smoking and other drugs

 

[SilverRRCloud]

When it comes to LTRs, you want and have every right to be very careful, when it comes to the deal-breakers:

Nasty attitude
Dumb
Criminal
Selfish
Lazy

are at top of my list.

SC

 

[Love_chair]

here are some of my deal-breakers

1)Smoking I hate it and it's a major turn off for me and will not date anyone who smokes

2)having a drug problem I feel sorry for them and hope they get the help they need but I will not date anyone with a drug addiction problem

3)somebody with a Violent/abusive behavior or mean person in general

4)Racism if you treat somebody bad because of there skin-color that in my mind is awful and disgusting

5)if your a alcoholic and you drink to much then thats a big turn off for me I never drink but I don't care if my future boyfriend drinks just a little just don't overdo it

that's about all I can think of right now LOL if I think of anymore I will let you know

 

[okstatecowboy]

When the guy starts shouting "Fuck me like Debbie Reynolds."


mikey
-oh wait, I think I mighta done that...

 

[walkabout]

The only things that matter to me is not the faults of the person but his merits...everyone has faults..u fall in love with the person and like his merits and adjust with his faults according to me

 

[VICTORIADON]

Great question.

#1. Sleeping with other people. Unfaithful. He has done it once, he will do it twice...cannot trust him. Very sore point with me, I trusted him for a few years then....

#2. See above.

#3. Will not intoduce you to his family or friends.

All other things can/may be resolved. With the exception of alchol (?) (dont know how to spell it), drugs.

Violence: If he hits you, even once, walk, walk out the door and do not turn back. Never accept getting hit. You accecpt it once, he will think you will accecpt it twice.

 

[Paathogen]

I really only have one "deal breaker".

When a potential partner (or date) finds out about my illness... and they start treating me differently. I hate that.

Well, that and the afore mentioned infidelity. But I can deal with that better than I can deal with people treating me like I'm gonna drop dead right in front of them.

 

[LuvBoys]

Well, drugs or alcohol addiction are deal breakers. I've dealt with a drug addicted mother my whole life and just couldn't put up with it again.

Terrible habits are another deal breaker. Chewing with your mouth open, leaving messes in the toilet, bad manners, being very messy and not picking up your own stuff; things like that really bother me and if I have to live with someone then I don't want to have to deal with that shit.

Obviously abuse is something else I don't want to put up with.

Lazy ass. You better not be out of a job, or out of a vehicle because I'm not supporting someone. I don't expect anyone to support me so I won't do it for someone. You must have maturity and responsibility.

 

[G-Lexington]

I have things that count negatively towards a guy, but none that I think would be a total deal-breaker. "Abuse" probably would be one, though.

Lex

 

[nihilis]

Nobody's perfect, and I can tolerate most things, but there's a few things I'd rather not have in a relationship of ANY kind (including friends):

Infidelity
Violence
Drugs (excluding drinking and tobacco, I'd work with those)
Lying/deception
Manipulation or cruelty

Most of these are common sense though. Who the hell would want to stay with a lying, abusive, cheating, asshole? Not that people don't I suppose...

 

[bluedragon4]

Drugs/heavy drinking
Fem
obese
Fem
Lisp
Fem
in their 20's
Fem
no sense of humor
And did I say fem?
I also only date white guys. No asians,black,latino.
And being cut. Un-cut is not my thing.
Hope people don't jump on me for writing my deal breakers.

 

[Telstra]

what is a LTRs anyway??

sometimes i don't understand shortcuts.

 

[Telstra]

Wearing Y Fronts

*Yeah I know, I'd get dumped for being shallow.

Being Violent in word or deed.

i mean LTR = L... T ... R ... ???

 

[MrCreative]

My deal breakers:
a guy that is shorter than me.
Bad hygeine.
Drug addict or Alcoholic.
No car.
A cheater.
a guy that parties every single night.
video game addict.
abusive.
a guy that has a ex wife..honestly, i would never be with a bi guy. lol.
a guy that had KIDS with his ex wife.

I could say more deal breakers, but it really depends on the guy i find myself getting to know better.

 

[tx_doc]

my previous deal breakers:
a guy who was younger than me, shorter than me or in the military.
My LTR is with a wonderful man who is younger than me, shorter than me and in the military.

 

[Kadratis]

1. Unfaithful tendencies
Under no circumstances should you ever cheat on someone you love.

2. A mooch or user.
Someone who uses you just to get to other guys or to be spoiled rotten by you. Uh, either we both spoil each other, or you get nothing from me.

3. Drugs and binge drinking are a big no-no.
Eugh, drugs are just icky; they're not just illegal, they'll seriously fuck you up. And then there's binge drinking... I mean, it's normal to get drunk once in awhile, but if it's a habit they have and follow religiously, they've got a problem.

4. Homophobic
So you hate yourself? Well, that makes a whole lot of sense! If you hate gays, then you must hate me.

5. Lustless
When I kiss or hug someone, I should expect it back. But for some reason, the guys I've dated don't know what a real kiss exactly is. And what's worse, when I try to show them what it should feel like, they just pull excuses out of their ass. I mean, who doesn't like tongue?! Aargh! Kisses warm the soul!

...Pfsh...

Oh, and hair. While a little is okay, a forest of body hair is nasty to me.

 

[DevinO]

My deal breakers are as follows:

Alcoholics
Drug Addicts
Athiests
A man who has cheated... the best predictor of the future is the past!
Fems
Snobs
Partiers
Lazy asses

That's all I can think of now. Am I too picky?

 

[NomineDetracto]

smoking cigarettes.
lack of self esteem or the courage to make a move.
cheating.
self absorbed and inconsiderate.

 

[bluedragon4]

Well I can't imagine what would be at all offensive about that list. Fat, lisping, uncircumcised Blatino Asian drag queens in their twenties will have to console themselves with the knowledge that you don't know any better and seek love/sex elsewhere.

LOL. I thought about this after I wrote it and thought maybe it wasn't the best idea to write all that. Thanks for bringing up drag queens. Forgot that one.