I went to a house party. I was chatting with all sort of people and noticed this kid I met early in the Fall was at the party. I didn't say much to him because I thought he was straight. I sat down on this couch. He came and sat next to me. People were chatting all over the place. Drunk hotties fell on our laps. Then it hit me that something was up because he purposely knocked his knee to touch mine. Then at one point, a girl asked me if I was bi or gay. I told her that I'm bi and he looked at me and said "me too." We exchanged numbers because the party was dying out and he had to take his ride home. He texted me to come over his place to chat. I thought why not, maybe he needed someone to talk about his sexuality and I was curious about his history. I came over to his place and we began chatting. He's been out to his family and friends since high school. He's 20 and I'm 27. Looking at him of how cute he is, we kissed. Made out and cuddled in bed. I figured that we were going too fast for a relationship so I followed up with him in the morning. I reminded him that if we are to pursue a relationship together, this is going too fast. He acknowledged and agreed that we are friends having fun together, although it was obvious that he had a strong feeling for me. The next day we met again to chat some more. He spent all day with me and then we continued to make out and cuddled again. I had to remind him that we should slow down because I felt a little awkward with the age gap. He doesn't mind, however, I felt that I'm at a different level than he is now. He's mature for his age and I think he would benefit from me as a good friend (big brother) but not as a partner. I did not have sex with him and will not plan on it. Also, my path is unknown and I may move to a different city. I know he will still be studying at college for a couple years but I'm done with mine. Today, I had to follow up with him again because he was unsure what to call this "love" between us. I told him what he was experiencing is love at first sight because he and I do not know each other very well. I was trying to lay him down gently to open his options to other people. He still has feelings for me and not sure what to call it... Shall it be "complicated" or "dating" etc. I told him that I see that we will be good friends and nothing more. I'm far ahead of him with education and soon I will relocate once I find a permanent job somewhere. I can't be too serious about a relationship. He wanted to see where this go and I told him not to shut out anyone who ask to date with him. He doesn't care and only want me...
So I'm trying to ground this kid without brushing him of like jerks would do. I think I'm doing the best I can to shift his focus to guys/girls to his age range +/- 2 years. I told him that I needed to catch up with work so he will leave me alone tomorrow. Thought this should give him some time to think about it. Any further suggestions?
So I'm trying to ground this kid without brushing him of like jerks would do. I think I'm doing the best I can to shift his focus to guys/girls to his age range +/- 2 years. I told him that I needed to catch up with work so he will leave me alone tomorrow. Thought this should give him some time to think about it. Any further suggestions?
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... I'm giving this a few days to see where it goes. So far, I have no problems with him other than the age gap. If I was near his age, I wouldn't be making this post.
