Guy at work is obsessed with my sexuality

[evanrick]

Guy at work is obsessed with my sexuality

ok there is this guy at work i have talked about before on here.

anyways, we were at a party and it was very gratifying for him to see ME hanging around girls!

the next day at work, hes saying stuff like watching me with girls was my "natural element, etc" and that he now knows i "dont suck (dick)"

i kinda wanted to ask him what he has against gay behavior etc. except that im sure the stupidity of his answer would make my head explode.

but i feel really awkward when he comes around and starts talking about this stuff.

i dont know if hes immature, dense or both but he makes it seem like we cant be friends unless i like girls the way he does.

is he just homophobic?

 

[Nomenclature]

hes immature, dense or both. [...] We cant be friends.

There. you answered your own question.

 

[rareboy]

Ask him what the fuck your sex life has to do with him?

You are being equally immature and dense if you allow yourself to be so easily defined by some guy at work.

You're there to work.

Why is it so important to have his friendship?

Tell him to mind his own fucking business.

 

[mega]

He sound like a closet case...

 

[evanrick]

He sound like a closet case...

lol...maybe he is...maybe im wishing he is..maybe hes not.. i did catch him checking me out once...so complicated....its like a 3 sided coin....

 

[HornyHenry]

The dude's either a heterosexist nut-case or some kind of closet queen who secretly wishes you were pounding a load into each end of him.
At least he isnt laying the religion trip on you(yet).

 

[BlondeCanadian]

That is really strange.. there is an acquaintance i have who keeps telling my friends that he doesnt think I am gay he just thinks I pretend so i can sleepover and hang out with beautiful girls... MY friends are all very very pretty but that is besides the point.. I dont know whether i should confront him about it and be like i dont really care but i hope you know how stupid you sound thinking that i would go through the ordeal of coming out to everyone including my own family members just to hang out with my friends....

 

[hobojones]

In my experience, I've found that typically the "straight" guys I hang out with who broach the subject of my sexuality without being provoked are the ones that wind up being curious if not closeted in the end. It may be his way of gauging your reactions to be certain of where you stand before he's comfortable enough to talk to you about it.

 

[Nomenclature]

Seriously, though: If he keeps talking to you about sex, and harassing you about your sexuality. . .a.k.a the whole "taking dick" thing, then REPORT HIM FOR SEXUAL HARASSMENT.

 

[evanrick]

That is really strange.. there is an acquaintance i have who keeps telling my friends that he doesnt think I am gay he just thinks I pretend so i can sleepover and hang out with beautiful girls... MY friends are all very very pretty but that is besides the point.. I dont know whether i should confront him about it and be like i dont really care but i hope you know how stupid you sound thinking that i would go through the ordeal of coming out to everyone including my own family members just to hang out with my friends....

maybe these guys are jealous that its easy for gay guys to talk to girls

 

[HockeyGuy89]

maybe these guys are jealous that its easy for gay guys to talk to girls

This is also probably the case.

Also, tell him your willing to help him experiment if he wants to.

 

[MindBlast]

Seriously, though: If he keeps talking to you about sex, and harassing you about your sexuality. . .a.k.a the whole "taking dick" thing, then REPORT HIM FOR SEXUAL HARASSMENT.

This.

It's making you clearly uncomfortable to hear him talking about you that way. Not to mention that talking about sex at work is inappropriate unless you work at a porn studio.

 

[Spiffy]

maybe these guys are jealous that its easy for gay guys to talk to girls

haha you never know, in highschool all the guys would ask me how i could just go up to a girl and talk to her like it was nothing. Or they would talk about my hot friends that were girls and if "I have hit it"

 

[USEDCAR]

I wouldn't report him for harassment unless its personally bothering you. When he mentions you being gay just ask him why are you so obsessed with my sexuality are you gay?


I have one guy at my job who asks me if i am gay every so often.

 

[Just_Believe18]

It's none of his business, tell him that, then file a report of sexual harassment against him if he continues the behavior.

 

[Spiffy]

I think you should confront him eventually, like stated by USEDCAR. If that doesn't work and he is really getting to you then just report him.

My previous boss was very nosy and at times obnoxious. One time I told him "mind your own business" very blunt in front of another co-worker. He didn't say much after that, and he just knew where his boundaries were with me. He was still annoying at times but it was at a level I could handle lol.

 

[texan_slant]

Depending on your comfor level with this, either -

confront him;
ignore it and stay professional;
or it you find it offensive, report it to HR.

 

[bendted]

It's deplorable behavior on his part. If you were female would it be acceptable? No, and surely there'd be a firestorm about it; he shouldn't get a free pass just because you are gay. I worked with a guy that kept pestering me like that and I finally cracked and said 'Go fuck yourself" (after he asked in front of a group, 'Ron, are you a homosexual?'). He actually did back off after that and his comments stopped for the most part.

 

[evanrick]

ok so now hes making even more sexual comments, like yesterday there was a song playing and he said that i "spin him round" and he told me he "loves me" three times, making sex references about him and i, references about my tongue, etc. the plot thickens...i just wish i had the confidence to corner him...

 

[Georgiadude]

ok so now hes making even more sexual comments, like yesterday there was a song playing and he said that i "spin him round" and he told me he "loves me" three times, making sex references about him and i, references about my tongue, etc. the plot thickens...i just wish i had the confidence to corner him...

Sounds to me like he's a closet case testing the waters. I'd avoid him as if he had the plague or something. He's not comfortable in his own sexuality and if you do come out to him he sounds like the type that will spread it around and make jokes about you. Stay away from him. Keep discussions professional and about work. I'd avoid being alone with him. Try and always have another person around. Don't trust this guy.

Steven.