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So here is the story...i have never had luck with guys...and seem to always fuck things up...well when i started college recently...i met this guy...we became friends...then great friends...i started developing feelings for him, and i didnt even realize it...then on my birthday...i had a party...and i made out with this guy...multiple times...and i told him how i felt...something that is rare for me...he said that he likes me too...but is nervous cause he has never been with a guy who is out...and so we decided to take things slow...and see where things go...and then the next weekend we partied again...and we ended up being all cuddly...we looked like a cute couple...the type where they just hold eachother...the next day...he texts me and tells me he just wants to be friends right now...and maybe in the future we could be a couple...that was a month ago...and i thought i got over him...and so i moved in with him...bad idea...my feelings for him have more than doubled...i cant wait for him to come back...so i can talk to him...and i dont know what to do...the other night he fell asleep in my bed...and we cuddled...then the next night we were wrestling around...and he pinched the back of my neck...which for me is a major turn on spot...and i freaked out...and he realized what he did....and then he did it 4 more times...i am totally head over heals for this guy...and i dont know what to do...or how he feels...so if you can help at all...please give me your advice...its all appreciated
 
It doesn't sound like you fucked anything up... well, except for the roommate part- that was a bad decision.

It just sounds like you're further along in this process than your friend is.

You do need to take charge and make some decisions about your living arrangement.

Have a talk with the guy and tell him that you have feelings for him and that it is tough being friends and roommates and wanting to be more.

If he's not ready to make a commit to taking this to the next level, then you should not be roommates and you should go back to just being friends.

If he's ready to make a commitment, then give it a shot and stop all this teasing and playing games. But, you need to know that if it goes badly, you'll be looking for another place to live and you may lose the friendship in the end.
 
so update on the situation...we talked...and he said that if we werent roommates he would be with me...ugh....he is so frustrating...idk what to think anymore...then he tells me that all he can think of is him and i making out...yet he doesnt want to be with me as roommates...talk about mixed signals
 
Did he tell you exactly why he didn't want to be roommates?

My only guess would be that he is uncomfortable with the idea of being out and doesn't want to make it too obvious by being roommates with you. Other than that, I can't think of any logical reason for why he wouldn't want to be roommates...

EDIT: Good luck, all the best.
 
Same advice as before.

Don't waste your life on "maybe" and "if".

You have to take care of yourself and ensure that you have a dependable and stable living situation. Don't let this guy's wishy-washy nature control the situation.
 
so we are together now...we talked about things...and we are taking it slow...and hopefully things go well...
 
good luck dude. i think you guys moved in together way too soon. not trying to disrespect you but this sounds more like infatuation than anything else.
 
Do you know.... even i type like this ..... ALWAYS ..... with unlimited full stops after every sentence....... i always asked myself the reason for doin it.... do you have any answer for this ?!!!....... i am not a retard if it helps......!!!!!
 
now that you're with him, slow down man. Don't smother him, don't push him away. It's time to fulfill your life with positive productive things and events and share them with him.

get away from the waiting for him to come home, missing him and text bombing him and waiting for a response.

work on your school or your career. make yourself a good catch so he can see a future with you.
 
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