Guys new to the team, don't push away a potential mentor

[RyanKilter]

There've been some problems (not new ones mind, just recenlty rehashed) about younger dudes having grossed out or upset reactions when an older guy takes interest.

When I first started reading these threads/posts I instantly thought about the older guys in my life who've sorta taught me the ropes in things from my sexuality in the workplace, gay culture, and latent homophobia to sex; appreciating it, having fun, skyllz gogirl: ) and safety. With a big ect...

I'm still pretty young, and not that experienced. When I go out, I see guys, even my firends, all in my age range, learning (hopefuly) from each others painful/emberassing mistakes, and yet wallowing in their ego's/know-it-allness, it makes me sad that these same guys probably passed up great advice, "training", and sex twisted: )because they all wanted the newest and sleekest.

I'm not saying to give in and go get it on with every older guy you see. Out of my older friends I've only dun it with a couple. Just drop the "Omigawd, did that old toot just glance at me? ugh...." and grow the f up so you can learn a little.

 

[BrandonSBCA]

Great thread. I've learned more from older men than guys my own age, but that doesn't mean I didn't learn anything new from guys my own age, as I've learned some things that older men haven't told me but learned it from a guy my age. I'm also glad to even teach some older guys a few things as I grow through the years, I've gained a good amount of knowledge as I've been coming here on JUB and other communities.

I would never deny or push away good advice from someone who has many years of experience, I think to me its an honor and I cherish the knowledge as if it was given to me as a gift.

 

[januaryguy]

Im in my early 40s but I have always liked older guys..they have that certain "umph" that cannot be found in younger guys...so if you are 42 or older, do call on me, would love to hear from you

 

[nakedboy]

I enjoy being with older men. I don't seem to lose IQ points when I converse with them and they usually don't use the word "like" five times in every sentense they speak.

 

[mega]

Back when I was still covered with pinfeathers, I got hit on by a lot of "old" guys. God bless each and every one of them. For better or for worse, I learned a lot the easy way.

 

[CountryJohn]

I too have only ever dated men who have been older than me. Ever since I knew I was gay I always wanted the older guy. Never looked at the young ones even when I was that age myself. I have to say that after reading your post Ryan, it occured to me that the attributes of older guys you mentioned are probably the reasons why I have always felt that way. So come on you young guys dont be so narrow minded, even if you are grossed out by the idea of having sex with an older guy (that's OK I suppose) the benefits of friendship with a sage, experienced, mature person can be huge and if you keep a closed mind you may miss out. BTW I'm not in any way suggesting that all older guys are great. Sadly there are lots of druggies, alcoholics and losers in my age category as well, best to watch and learn from the sidelines with these guys.

 

[kcboi]

As one those older men to whom who so graciously refer, Ryan, THANK YOU!!! I really appreciate your kindness. We aren't all gross and scary and can still contribute love and knowledge to the world. And to the "younguns"

 

[slnattak]

I'm a young guy and I think older men are hot. They have more experience and authority than me, and usually, know more things... and I look up to them. I might think SOME of them are physically unattractive, but attraction can be so much deeper than that.

I'm not bragging, (okay maybe just a little) but I'm VERY intelligent. It's always nice when I meet somebody that's more on my level!

Remembering good times at the Y when I got felt up by older gay guys,
SL

 

[gsdx]

We old farts have a lot to offer to youth in the way of experience, counsel, and advice. Unfortunately, because we're old, we often don't know what we're talking about. At least that's how a lot of the younger people view us.

 

[antdak]

I too am an "older one." If any one at any age askes for suggestions, or my opinion, or even advice, I am more than happy to help.

 

[herenthere]

I have several "older" friends, and let me tell you..I have avoided alot of heartache, because they cared enough for me to gently nudge me back on track.

I thank all of you, for your wisdom and advice..
Shaun

 

[looseliam]

I've slept with some older men. Older than my father. And here's my reasoning:

When I'm 55 I want a 20 something to shag me.

It's a dharma thing.

But I had a mentor years ago. We're great friends now. He's a customer of mine. (no not that kind of customer.) He's the most flaming queen I've ever met. I love it!

 

[Kyanimal]

As one of those older guys (How the Hell did I get HERE??), I'm often frustrated when trying to "get through" to younger generations. Then I pause, and think back to ME at their age!

Did I "listen" then? Well ... sometimes! But even when I did, I didn't fully Understand. I hadn't experienced it myself, yet!

I tended to shy away from any "older" guys that may have expressed any interest in me. Again, it was because I didn't, yet, Understand completely!

But, NOW I Know! And I regret having missed out on many things that could have enhanced, broadened, and, perhaps, made my "Trip through Time" somewhat less stressful, and much more enjoyable!

I've learned that Everyone has something they can teach Me! Young/Old ... whatever! We are ALL just People. And, for now, we're ALL sharing the same big round spaceship! So ... why not get to know each other as best we can?

Keep smilin'!!
Chaz