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Guys, tell me I'm not crazy

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Ok, so here we go... relationship post!

On Halloween I was feeling real lonely so I posted an ad on Craigslist looking to see whats out there and this guy text messages me. Let's call him Don. Don and I have had sex three times over a four year period, all of which ended because of a big blow out fight and I was always told to completely delete him from my life. I tell him I am not really looking for sex but a relationship and he convices me to go over to his house. I was reluctant because of our history but he conviced me, and at least I knew him compared to a stranger from CL. So we go over and talk for a little bit before making up, having sex and officially "dating" something we have never done. Through out the whole night he kept saying I love you, which I never reciprocated. As you may know from my other thread I've been having problems at my job so on Saturday I was going to call in and hang out with my friend who might hire me. It turns out she had to work so I just went into work.

Fight #1. He gets mad because I "couldn't make up my mind about going to work." He then accused me of lying about hanging out with a friend and that I couldn't keep my stories straight." He also told me we were broken up, and "goodbye." I go over to his house later and we make up, have sex and everything is peachy. I leave his house at 2am to return home to my dog, and more importantly my family (still live with the 'rents).

Saturday I wake up and find 3 texts from him wanting me to come over Sunday morning at 8am six hours after I left his house, but I didn't get the messages until 11. At the end of his last message he says it is fine if I didn't come over, so I figured I wouldn't have to text him back. Fight # 2. He texts the shit outta me for the next three hours about how I never respond and am unreliable and what ever. He also says, yet again "goodbye." We fix it and everything is fine.

Fight #3. Today he worked and I had school from 1-8:15, 5 classes back to back. He texts me during my first class, I say I'm in class. After my last class I turn my phone on and have a voice message and many texts from him. Long story short he is mad that I don't text him enough and that I was online this morning while apperntly I could have been showering him with text messages. So tell me is this normal? The I love yous? The fights? We're broken up... and I just don't want to talk to him ever again, even though tonight he said he wanted to stay friends. Am I crazy? A,m I the one out of line?
 
Sounds like he has a lot of baggage and I don't understand how you two decided you were officially dating right after sex. He sounds like a control freak and so clingy and dependent, like a damn girl or something. Tell him to fuck off and get a life.

What is it about him that even attracts you?
 
honestly... nothing. I'm not going to keep dating him, and we decided before the sex lol. I just want to make sure I didn't do anything wrong, but my head tells me why would someone freak out so bad after not hearing from their 3day old bf in 6 hours. Who gives a fuck if their bf went online before he went to school. Thanks guys! any other thoughts?
 
bander66 said:
honestly... nothing. I'm not going to keep dating him, and we decided before the sex lol. I just want to make sure I didn't do anything wrong, but my head tells me why would someone freak out so bad after not hearing from their 3day old bf in 6 hours. Who gives a fuck if their bf went online before he went to school. Thanks guys! any other thoughts?
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Yeah, he's a psycho and sounds borderline stalkerish. Break all ties with him and get him out of your life.
 
Boys got problems. Run- away- fast!!!
Sounds kind of like my ex who wasnt my ex until I met someone else and started dating, then all of a sudden we were an item and I was cheating. OK, whatever. Anyway, he emailed me a while after we "broke up" and said he wanted to give me his car since he was getting a new one. (I would not have accepted since I didnt want to be on the hook for anything from him). I was having internet problems that weekend and couldnt get it fixed until the middle of the next week. Once I got back online I see that he had sent three emails to me. The first wanting to meet and talk, the second telling me that he was going to give the car to me which is why he wanted to meet and the third calling me all kinds of names for not responding to him (he had my phone number) and telling me to F-off. Then he blocked my email so I could never respond.
This little incident made me realize I was so happy that I didnt have him as my bf and that I made the right move by moving on.
Last month I got a postcard from him from Spain saying that his little trip reminded him of our first trip there and he was thinking about me. Needless to say it went to the recycle bin without a second thought.
 
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did it ever come to your mind that maybe you should have dated him for at least a month or two before having sex instead of just having sex right away?

what ever his problems are and they appear to be many, maybe a self examination of your own behaviours is in order.

but then again, what do i know? i am just a mere village idiot.](*,)

eM.](*,)
 
Oh my, seems like you guys are both still very childish.

Wait, I'm not being an ass here.

He's childish for throwing all these rampage and stupid excuses to get mad... but it is not entirely his fault. You shouldn't assume anything.

If you're dating someone and you know that their personality is like that..either break up completely, or live with it. If he say's "fine, don't need to text me" and you know he'll be mad if you don't, then you should have.

Both need to mature and stop playing with love like its a childish game.

If he demand too much and you cannot meet his demands, then you should dump him and move on. Don't go right back into the silly relationship.

It sounded like you were tired of him already. You could have easily text him back anytime between classes or whatever, but you chose to turn off the phone. Thus, knowingly that he will be mad if you do that.

My suggestion is you should just end it, clear and strong. Don't be weaken and give in to it once more.

Its like playing cat and mouse, totally unhealthy.

My other suggestion is, do not just turn off the phone and run away.
That is just telling him to play cat and mouse once again.

Find a place to have a conversation, a real one where sex isn't involve. Don't go to his house if you know you'll be easily seduced.

Talk it out as adults should do and do not give in. Tell him you dislikes his behaviors and his demands are too hard for you to follow.

You have better things to focus on, healthier things like education.

You have to explain your thoughts, but make sure to not fight. If he screams and yell, endure the madness and stay serious and calm.

Make sure to let him know why you want to end, and make him understand that this is now the end.

Then, once everything is talked..he'll probably be hella mad and might call you everyday, but atleast then he knows you're serious.

Cut if off sharply, like with a razor..rather than with a plastic knife.
 
I really couldn't have texted him though. All my classes are back to back and clear across campus. I have a hard time making it on time as it is
 
This guy is so incescure and immature, the you dont need to waste your valuable time with him.

This guy is a walking DRAMA case that will always end with fights.

If thats how you want to lead your life then do what he wants.

But your time is better spent with someone who has grown up and has better communication.


Run for the hills on this one..
 
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bander66 said:
Re: Guys, tell me I'm not crazy
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You're not crazy but you got into a big fucking mess on this one.

Simple answer: Dump him. After you dump him, dont take his calls, don't answer his texts. Block him. If necessary, change your number.

Lesson learned: Don't try to turn a trick into a relationship. If you want to date someone, then date them and get to know them before you get involved in this way.
 
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