had to ask

[alexreed]

I'm rarely wrong when it comes to tell if somebody is interested in me or not.But this is way over my league.(I'm still in the closet by the way).I met a guy 2 weeks ago,and after few days I was 100% he's gay and he's interested.We went out couple of times.We were complimenting each others bodies,our clothes,taste of music.......I thought everything was going great,until I made a comment about how hot is Ricky Martin,and he reacted like how can a guy be hot???I said why not and ask him if he ever felt attracted to guys,he said no.
Should I forget about him,or he's playing me.what do you think???

 

[G-Lexington]

He's playing you. Keep at it.

Lex

 

[backpacker]

Lex, you crack me up.

Sounds like the guy is straight. If he's not straight, he is not ready to accept that he's not. In either case, the chances of something romantic happening are very slim. Keep him as a friend and find a new guy to pursue.

 

[KaraBulut]

Should I forget about him,

No but just be friends.

or he's playing me.what do you think???

The only person that could know what is going on in his head is him. And it sounds like he's too confused to waste anymore time on it.

I'm still in the closet by the way

Well, there's the problem. How do you expect a guy who might be interested in you to know you're available unless you start making it known that you're single, gay and available?

 

[alexreed]

I'm getting mixed signals that's for sure.Last night for example,he call and said I'm all alone maybe you should come over.I said OK I'll be there.10 minutes later he call again and said if you're with some friends fell free to bring them to.
The thing is I really like him.I can't be friend with him,beside the fact it could be a really great friendship.Maybe I'm not out yet but I think I've done enough to let him know I'm into him.I'm 99% sure he knows,he even started making jokes about me being in love with him.I'm usually right about this kind of things and i was sure he's into me.I just can't see what am I missing???What isn't working here???
Maybe he has a different definition of the term friendship. I know I should talk to him,but I was hoping for once that the things will go spontaneously.

 

[G-Lexington]

Things don't happen spontaneously, despite what you might think. If two guys end up in each other's arms (or one inside the other), it's because one or both made a move forward. I have yet to hear of two guys who, against their will, found their clothes flying off and sex taking place. Someone always has to choose to lean in for a kiss, or to reach forva zipper.

If he's joking about you "being in love" with him, then you should be able to jump off from there. "Honestly, I thought the same about you. I got a bigger gay-and-interested vibe from you than I got from nearly everyone I've met.". Keep nudging in that direction if he doesn't seem too uncomfortable with it. Because he certainly might be gay, and just hasn't hasn't realy gone this route before.

Lex

 

[alexreed]

By spontaneously I meant:l like you,you like me let's see where this is going.
Not I'm gay,you're gay conversation,let's see where this is going.I thought there could be some kind of impulse.I don't know how to put this in words.I'm not sure you're getting me.I was hoping to avoid the"I'm gay now you do what you want" conversation since it's more than obvious that I like him.We really seems to get along,always have something interesting to talk,but when we're alone it's like we have nothing to tell each other,we just look each other.Can that be the the moment to try to kiss him,or I'm I watching too many movies ???I'm still getting mixed signals,but I'm willing to take the risk.I can't be friend with this guy.I even consider not picking his calls at all,but when I saw his number I just couldn't resist
Today I ignored him completely,he call like 5 times and when I told him I'm not going out with him he was very disappointed,but he was texting me all the time,making plans about tomorrow. Should I do the "talk" with him,or let the things flow and see what happens?I think I'm in a lose-lose situation here.
Thanks for you're replays,they been great help