The Original Gay Porn Community - Free Gay Movies and Photos, Gay Porn Site Reviews and Adult Gay Forums

  • Welcome To Just Us Boys - The World's Largest Gay Message Board Community

    In order to comply with recent US Supreme Court rulings regarding adult content, we will be making changes in the future to require that you log into your account to view adult content on the site.
    If you do not have an account, please register.
    REGISTER HERE - 100% FREE / We Will Never Sell Your Info

    PLEASE READ: To register, turn off your VPN (iPhone users- disable iCloud); you can re-enable the VPN after registration. You must maintain an active email address on your account: disposable email addresses cannot be used to register.

  • The Support & Advice forum is a no-flame zone.
    The members offering support and advice do so with the best intention. If you ask for advice, we don't require you to take the advice, but we do ask that you listen and give it consideration.

Have you ever lost a friend after coming out?

8

88Jockstraps

Sex God
Joined
May 17, 2010
Posts
623
Reaction score
12
Points
0
I have and we were friends for about a decade. Can you say ouch?! This happened in 2004 and I came out to him and the next day? Bam! Our friendship was over and he didn't pay attention to me anymore. He was indifferent to me.

It took me a full 2 years to get over him; so it was about 2006 before I could finally not give a damn about what he did to me. The guy was a homophobe and he just couldn't get over the fact that I was/am gay.

This thread is dedicated to any of you who have ever lost a friend or family member because of their ignorance or just because they can't get over the fact that you are who you are.

Any true stories would be accepted here!
 
I was best friends from childhood with someone who refused to have anything to do with me after I came out.
How do you just stop being friends, not to mention best friends? It still hurts when I think about him.

I have lost others, too.
 
sixthson said:
I was best friends from childhood with someone who refused to have anything to do with me after I came out.
How do you just stop being friends, not to mention best friends? It still hurts when I think about him.

I have lost others, too.
Click to expand...

Yeah I agree, it still hurts when I think about it also, but it hurts ALOT less now. You have to remember that not everyone is accepting and warm of things that are not 'normal'.
 
luckily i havent had this problem, sorry to all those who have.
 
88Jockstraps said:
Yeah I agree, it still hurts when I think about it also, but it hurts ALOT less now. You have to remember that not everyone is accepting and warm of things that are not 'normal'.
Click to expand...

He not much of a friend. And it will hurt alot less if you keep your head held high and continue on with your life. If thats how he fells about it, you dont need him anyway.
 
Here's one that might take the cake at the moment. I started helping this one guy two grades below me with his school work as part of a course i was taking. We started getting to know one another and eventually became friends. A while into this we started having sleepovers and it even got to the point where my Mom trusted him, and she's hard to please with me making friends with those I suppose you'd say are not very well off or from rather disjointed families. A

Anyway, when I came out he basically called me a faggot straight out. And here's the pie, the icing on the cake, the thing that could probably beat a lot of your stories (unless it involved actual beating): four months after calling me faggot he broke into my house (and because he'd been there several times before he knew how to get in without having to break anything) and stole a lot of my stuff....it broke my sense of security and my mental state of security too. I always triple check I've locked things, turned alarm on, etc....because this prick broke my sense of security. So yes, I lost a friend and it wound up resulting in my loss of sense of security. Oh and I also cannot sleep home alone when my parents go away to vacations so I wind up staying up all night....
 
I have lost some but have gained a lot more friends.
 
Oh good heavens. Back in the day, when being a homo was still tantamount to announcing you were a child molester, most of my high school acquaintances dropped me immediately from their xmas card list.

Whatever.

Move on. The friends I've made as an out homo are way better quality than the accidental friends of youth.
 
One of my best friends from high school couldn't deal with it - she asked a few questions about me being sure, that sort of thing. I used to stay at her house a lot, including sleeping there. I think she was also concerned I'd make advances on her. They often think that, don't they? And then get insulted if you don't. It wasn't a big deal, but her rejection bothered me, perhaps because it was so unexpected. I was so happy to come out and I assumed my friends would be supportive. I came out in the first year of college and ended up with a whole new set of friends anyway.
 
I have not come out to a great deal of people, and the few that I have come out to are either gay themselves or gay-friendly. However, I know that some of the friends I have made over the years would drop me like a rock if they found out about my sexuality. Even worse, I have a gut feeling that my family would rather disown me for being gay than deal with the social stigma of having a "fag" in their family.

It is definitely not the same as what many of you have gone through, but I live with the fear of losing people I love. Sorry to all of you who have indeed lost friends and/or family.
 
Revan46 said:
Here's one that might take the cake at the moment. I started helping this one guy two grades below me with his school work as part of a course i was taking. We started getting to know one another and eventually became friends. A while into this we started having sleepovers and it even got to the point where my Mom trusted him, and she's hard to please with me making friends with those I suppose you'd say are not very well off or from rather disjointed families. A

Anyway, when I came out he basically called me a faggot straight out. And here's the pie, the icing on the cake, the thing that could probably beat a lot of your stories (unless it involved actual beating): four months after calling me faggot he broke into my house (and because he'd been there several times before he knew how to get in without having to break anything) and stole a lot of my stuff....it broke my sense of security and my mental state of security too. I always triple check I've locked things, turned alarm on, etc....because this prick broke my sense of security. So yes, I lost a friend and it wound up resulting in my loss of sense of security. Oh and I also cannot sleep home alone when my parents go away to vacations so I wind up staying up all night....
Click to expand...

What an asshole!
 
rareboy said:
Oh good heavens. Back in the day, when being a homo was still tantamount to announcing you were a child molester, most of my high school acquaintances dropped me immediately from their xmas card list.

Whatever.

Move on. The friends I've made as an out homo are way better quality than the accidental friends of youth.
Click to expand...

I love your strenght rareboy, it's inspiring!
 
Yes, I have. They seemed ok with it at the time, but then fell silent and quietly avoided me. What does this tell me? They aren't FRIENDS. It doesn't bother me. I've learned to grow a thick skin a long time ago. The real friends are still around, some much closer.
 
You must log in or register to reply here.
Back
Top