He makes me doubt my sexual orientation

[LEO168]

As long as I know for me,i'm straight.I alrady dated few girls and for all those eighteen years i never felt something similar like this TILL NOW.This ''something'' is confusing me,and i think this forum is the best and only place where i can share my honest feeling.So few months ago i moved into another city so i musted start to train into another Basketball club,and i don't get well with the guys of my team,i came last and they don't want and don't even try to accept me.They are all like ''Hey you pretty face,why don't your better try modeling or somthing?'' or ''You suck at this,are you playing or dancing ballet?'',though there is one guy from the senior team who always protects me.He's like the coolest and the most popular guy,and all of the girls are crazy for him.It's weird but he's very kind with me.Once he came to me and told me ''Hey kido,you are the new one,right?If sometimes you need company or something you can count on me''.From that day till now,he always protects me and cheers to me whenever he sees me.Week ago,we went to a few days trip organized by the club,and that guy asked me if i want to share the room with him and his friend,so i obviously said yes cause i don't get well with the guys of my team.When we enter the room,there were only two beds,so i was like ''Ok,nevermind,i'll ask for another room,but he said that he wouldn't care if he share the bed with me.He insisted so i finally agreed.The first night he came close to me and hugged me,but i though he did it without any intention cause he was actually sleeping,but the second night he took off his clothes (he sleeps in underwear) than he hugged me and told me ''Good night'',so we were sleeping hugged again....I really don't know how to explain all this,cause from what i know he's straight,he has a girlfriend...But anyway,why is he that kind only with me while with his friends he's acting too cool,even kinda arrogant?Why is he giving me some signals,if those are signals at all?It's weird cause this is the first time i started to feel something for a guy,i can't breath when i'm near him...I really don't know what to do anymore...

 

[terry61_99]

Seems to me he really likes you, but some straight guys like to be close to other guys. I would just keep getting to know him and one day kinda feel him out about gay or bi guys and how he feels about them. Just be cool and don't come on too strong...you have to find out what you are feeling too. Don't rush to put a label on yourself either...just be yourself! Please keep us posted!!

 

[vampsrock1992]

I agree keep us posted and thats sweet i kinda wish i was in you position although the not knowing would kill me. He sounds like a really nice guy and i think you should just be yourself and talk to him more and hangout with him. and then find out if he is cool with gay/bi people and then if he is ok with it then once you figure out yourself if you are gay/bi then kinda ease it on him. And then see were things go but i agree with what terry61_99 said find out what you are feeling too and dont rush. GOOD LUCK!!!

 

[whydatkine]

Well we don't know how you are in person so it's kind of difficult to answer. In your honest opinion, do you think you give off some gay signals? Seems to me that the guys on your team feel that way.

 

[LEO168]

Thanks for the answers,guys.You are all so kind
@ whydatkine no,not really.This is the first time i'm bullied,and not because of my sexual appearance or smth.It's just that i'm too shy,too emotional and not very friendly,i'm more like a loner type.
Anyway,i surely won't take the first step,as i said i'm too shy for that.I'll be waiting for him to do someting more concretely,if not i'll just stay speechless as i usually am

 

[On The Edge]

I agree with the guys...to let it be...since he is the one protecting you and being nice...any wrong move wouldn't help....but hey be yourself...and let it take it's course....and.....keep us updated ...

 

[szuchie]

I think he just wants to form a bromance with you. There's not many bromances, because it's hard to find that "one guy" where you can talk to, be physical (touchy touchy) without being called derogatory names by your other male peers. Because you are accepting (hugging, not saying anything back) I think he already accepted you as his bromance.

 

[Yves Grey]

Can't say for sure, but humans react to stimuli--both physical and emotional. As some of the others have said, I wouldn't jump to conclusions about yourself. Take it at face value for now; sometimes that's difficult to do. He may have other innocent reasons for acting the way he is; for example, if he's the team captain, it's his responsibility to lead like that (although sleeping in the same bed with you may be a little over the line ). Or he could be up to something... mean. I'd just let things go for now. Be nice back to him, thank him for looking out for you, that sort of thing.

Still, that is very sweet of him. I know I'd probably be hot for him, if I were in your position and he did that for me, straight or not. That kind of manliness (strength to stand up against a crowd) is rare--and hot!

 

[Kabluey]

Could be a case of man-crush, bit of hero worship maybe?