He never cums...

[boredman321]

So i have been dating my boyfriend for 2 months, and we have a very active sex life. The problem is, we will make out, grind and then ill start giving him head, then he give me head and we go back and fourth for a while, but when were finally ready to cum, he give me head and depedning on the mood either swallows or finishes with his hand which is fine with me. then i go to finish him off...

well i start giving him head and he tell me im pretty good, i know i dont use teeth and he seems really into it but 15 minutes go by and still no cum, i dont know about you guys but i cant give head for that long without getting tired and then i become sloppy so i move to my hand, eventually he tells me to stop and either he dosent cum that time, or he uses his hand which takes about 5 minutes...

he tells me not to worry about it and that its his fault and that he dosent care and that he still loves me.... i feel bad tho...


what should i do?

should i free ride and just take all hte pleasure... how can i make him cum is there a trick im missing?

 

[misoho5]

try different grips, speeds, intervals, grades of wetness etc.

we each have our secret code

try going faster or tighten your grip, you'll find it, it'll show

 

[EvilForce]

Some guys just aren't all that into oral sex. Me personally, I would rather have a hand job vs. oral sex. Now, I love GIVING oral sex, just doesn't do much for me to receive oral sex. If you stick your dick in me, or let me stick my dick in you I come very quickly.

Also, if your jaw gets tired use your hand, but then keep your tongue and lips in various places on his lower body. I've found that some guys shoot very quickly if you are kissing, licking, lightly biting area of their body like their inner thighs, balls, v-line, nipples, etc. It gives your jaw a break while you are still using your hand and enhances their sexual response usually.

 

[2pourvous]

must be a great TOP so let him fuck you forever hummmmmmmm

 

[gotdimples77]

As I cannot come with someone else either, I would say dont worry about it. He IS getting pleasure, if he wasnt happy he wouldnt be there. I dont know why it happens...I can get spasmodically stimulated by someone else but still cant shoot. its amental thing, if he says not to worry about it, dont worry about it, and dont beat him over the head with it either... Ive had a few good things get ruined because the other guy wouldnt let it drop

 

[G-Lexington]

Let's pull this one out again, shall we?

Ask HIM.
Not us.
Him.

Say you love having sex with him, but you're still a bit concerned that he can't get off with you. Ask if there's anything you can do that he think will help. Any positions, any fetishes, what have you.

You might start working your way up to something. Have him masturbate while you do other things. Lick his balls, lick his ears, kiss him passionately, or just hug him from behind. You might want to let him finish first - that'll keep you in the mood.

Lex

 

[Spiff]

A wild guess, but I would bet that alot of guys have difficulty cumming without use of hands. Seems fairly normal to me. Heck, you see this happen in porn about 99% of the time. But this doesn't mean the guy doesn't enjoy oral sex. It's only a problem if he has a problem with it, not you.

 

[trawler69]

I'm the same too. It stems from years of being a wanker. Doesn't mean I enjoy it any the less or that anything is wrong. In fact the most pleasure I get is getting someone else off. As long as you listen to him and believe what he tells you then don't worry too much about it but you could always experiment with different methods, I'm sure he would enjoy the variety, I know I would

 

[jamessmith08]

It takes me FOREVER to cum and there are few things that do get me off.

The last guy I was with was quite patient and actually enjoyed the fact that it took me a long time to get off.

Maybe he has some 'kinks' that get him off that he hasn't shared yet.

Like someone else said. talk to HIM