He Rocked My World!

[mbamike]

I met a guy online that was supposed to have been just a hook up. Well, we clicked on numerous levels and the hook up turned into an entire weekend of total BLISS!

I just enjoy being around this guy. Normally, I am very quiet. With him I can't seem to shut up. We have similar interests and we are boh well educated. It has been a few days since I saw him last, but he is on my mind constantly. We are planning to get together again in a couple of weeks.

When it comes to sex, he rocked my world! He pushed buttons I did not know I had!

The problem is he is my first gay experience. So, I am uncertain if my infatuation with him is just first time lovers syndrome or if there is something more.

Anyway, my question is did any of you guys fall head over heels for the guy that popped your cherry? If so, how did things turn out for you?

 

[backpacker]

Congratulations!!! I'm glad everything went so well for you.

Infatuation is definitely part of it, but that's always a component at the start of any good relationship. The important thing is that you recognize that the infatuation could be an issue and you take that into consideration when making decisions. I think we all know that first relationships typically don't work out in the long run, but there are always those great stories of love at first site. Enjoy the relationship for what it is now and don't worry too much about if this is your life partner. The time for that is after you have had much more time to get to know each other. I wish you all the best.

 

[mbamike]

Thanks Backpacker for your input. You gave some good advice.

To all others, I still would like to hear from you!

 

[mbamike]

I have been racking my brain for nearly two weeks now trying to figure out what made my hook up a couple of weeks ago so special. Was it because this was my first gay experience or was it because there is something special between Chuck and me?

Well, early this morning while I was still in bed and half asleep I had an epiphany! What made this hook up so special is that we had passion!

Of course we got the mechanics of sex right, but there was more than just performing the mechanical acts of sex. When our two bodies embraced for the first time there was a spark that engaged what I refer to as my "auto pilot." I did not think about the things I was doing; I just did them out of instinct. Before I realized it, I had mounted him, given him some deep French kisses, worked my way down his body with my mouth, then began sucking his cock! I had never sucked a cock before in my life!

I surprised myself as well as Chuck! I remember asking him if I was doing it right. He replied something to the effect that he would not have known this was my first time. (I informed him before we agreed to hook up that I was a virgin and inexperienced when it comes to gay sex. This was some advice I received from some JUB guys I am corresponding with by email.)

It has been a very long time since I have experienced this kind of passion with another person and I miss it so much! I woke up this morning with the song Fire by Babyface and Des 'ree in my head! The peculiar thing about this is that I am not one to listen a great deal to music!

However, I had to google for this song this morning and listen to it. The lyrics are so perfect! "When we kiss, ooo fire!"

Did Chuck experience the same passion as I? Remembering back to our encounter, I think he did. Where will this take us? I don't know at this point! I have never traveled down this road with a guy before!

What I know now is that Chuck and I are planning to meet again this weekend. We will talk. I hope it is not too much for him on our second date.

Guys, thanks for listening! I just wanted to get this off my chest and out of my head!

 

[conrad]

For a long time I have asked myself if a first time sexual encounter with a new person can lead to an enduring relationship; I hope you will continue to keep us all posted. For me, when it happens, sex should come naturally and seem right; but, in my case, that has never happened unless I and the other person have become more than friends, have become close to or actually being in love with each other. The afterglow has always been the time when we attempted to put into words what we had been feeling and the satisfaction of having "connected".
I say it often, but for me the sex is a confirmation of the bond between us and the sex just gets better with each re-confirmation!

As you can guess, I have had few partners and all in long-term relationships; and, I can say of all my former partners that I loved them then and I love them still.

 

[mbamike]

Well, I wish I could write that Chuck and I are still having mad passionate sex. That is not the situation. My heart is aching right now.

A few days after Chuck and I had that BLISSFUL weekend together, his ex contacted him. It turns out that after about six months and several boyfriends later, the ex realized that he made a terrible mistake in breaking up with Chuck. The problem is the ex treated Chuck like shit. Chuck told me he did, but he loved him anyway.

This caused some old emotions to surface. Chuck went into a deep depression. Now the ex is out of Chuck’s life and so am I.

Chuck said he needs time to get his emotions in check and to grieve over the lost of this relationship, again. He wants to concentrate on his studies also. He is pursuing another master’s degree.

He knows my feelings for him and the passion I experienced. He told me that he experienced passion too during our BLISSFUL weekend together. Had it been another time, things might have turned out differently.

Chuck has my email address and my cell phone number. I asked him to contact me when he is emotionally in a better place if he wanted to reconnect. This is all I can do for now.

I am so glad he was my first! I am unsure if I would be willing to continue to explore this part of my sexuality if my first gay experience had been with someone who was less patient and understanding. I will treasure the memories I have of our time together!

So, guys, where do I go from here?

 

[KingofFaeries]

Well if you think Chuck might still be a possibility, then check up on him. See how he's doing, offer to go out for a drink, if he's still upset give him a hug.

Otherwise, start trolling the bars/coffeehouses/craigslist/manhunt/other local cruising areas, and find yourself someone for either dating or random sex.

Random sex = protected random sex.