heart vs. head

[d-no777]

so i have an amazing bf and i love him but im not in love with him theres no sparks...i saw my ex today and all my feelings came back...and with my ex theres alot of sparks however he dumped me once...so do i fallow my heart or my head...
bf= head
ex=heart

wat do i do?????

 

[G-Lexington]

Dump your boyfriend (if you've given it a long enough try), avoid your ex, and find somebody nice who you actually DO have feelings for.

Lex

 

[KaraBulut]

It's not your heart you're following, it's your dick. And it sounds like you've been down that path once before.

If you're happy with your current boyfriend, you love him and he treats you well, then leave things alone.

And start trying to figure out why you would want to dump someone nice in favor of someone who already dumped you once before.

 

[Titanic]

It depends on a huge number of things.

Why did your ex dump you, and is there much possibility of you getting back together even if you wanted to?

How long have you been with your current boyfriend? Remember that love doesn't come overnight.

It sounds to me like Lex is right, you should leave them both alone and focus on finding someone who satisfies both your heart and your head.

 

[TX-Beau]

I have to agree that without a lot more context there's not much point in advice.

It's like asking;

"which do I choose, the red or the blue...."

OK, the red or the blue WHAT?

 

[KaraBulut]

I think that's a Matrix reference but not following the thought...

 

[TX-Beau]

I've never seen the Matrix.

He's asking for advice on whether to stay with guy A, or leave for guy B, which is fine, but there's really not enough context to form any kind of useful opinion.

 

[d-no777]

How can your bf be amazing and you be in love with him if there is no spark? Your post is contradictory

i never said im in love with him i said i love him there is a difference and thats my problem that im not in love with him

 

[d-no777]

and also the ex and i ended because of age issues i was 20 he was 27 and if he wanted to go out for drinks i couldent come plus i diddnt have a job and honestly i wasent going anywear so it was the age and me not going anywear was why we broke up, however i am 21 now and can go to bars with him, and i have a steady job, doing much better in school, have a career mapped out with a safe and steady backup plan, as well as an internship as an assistant to a person whos successful in the field, so i have a flow of money, a future saftley planned, and im starting to get my feet wet in my career.

my point is the reasons we broke up are now fixed and our feelings are still there, my worry is will he still stumble on another reason to end it again if we start up...

the ex is a gamble but i higher pot

the bf is safe but an average pot

understand my point?

 

[d-no777]

no more opinions?

 

[TX-Beau]

Opinion? If your ex left you and listed as one of his reasons that you weren't old enough to drink. He's not that into you.

If you think that leaving someone because now you're old enough to drink and can go back to the ex you're not really all that committed to the guy you're with in the first place.

 

[Lube]

Dump your friend. He's not a bf if there are no sparks.

As for your ex? Who knows? Without knowing him or you, it's really hard to say what will happen or what his motives are.

Try it, but keep your expectations very low.

 

[d-no777]

so i broke up with the bf

 

[sixthson]

the ex is a gamble but i higher pot

the bf is safe but an average pot

understand my point?

Now that you broke up with your bf, you don't have a pot to piss in.

 

[Lube]

^ What Quanchi said.