Help about upcoming date

[ropreira13]

Guys, let me ask you... A friend of mine is trying to hook me up with q friend of his... He gave me his friend's number and we've been trading some texts. He seems very fun and a nice person, but I never actually met him. Yesterday, he text me something like "hey man, what's up? My parents are traveling this weekend and I'll have the house for myself. Why don't you come by this saturday night so we can order some pizza and relax? "
Well, I think it's pretty obvious where he's going with this message... I wanted some advices, should I take this chance and go for it?

 

[aaggii]

What do you want to do?

 

[ropreira13]

Well... I never did it before, going to a guy's place without ever seeig him before... But he's not a TOTAL stranger since he's my friend's friend. And he's hot and he might be planning one hell of a night lol

 

[jensu846]

go for it! nothing ventured, nothing gained. Sounds like you might get lucky!

 

[eastofeden]

Yes...go. Bring your own condoms and lube...just in case you need either....

Oh yeah...chemistry is just that...and if you aren't feeling it or you don't like the vibe or your instincts are telling you that you aren't really into it...or to run...pay attention to them. Don't do anything you don't want to do because it is "expected"....or just because he is "cute" if you aren't feeling it........

 

[KaraBulut]

Well, I think it's pretty obvious where he's going with this message...

It sounds like the little voice inside your head is saying, "This is a relative stranger who is looking for a booty call while mom and dad are out of the house".

We have those little voices in our heads for a reason.

I wanted some advices, should I take this chance and go for it?

Propose an alternative- maybe meet for coffee or a meal. If you hit it off, then you can decide what you want to do. It may be that you don't like him at all. It may be that you want to slow things down and see where things go. It may be that you want to go to his house and have sex. At least this way, you'll have a choice.

 

[aaggii]

Well... I never did it before, going to a guy's place without ever seeig him before... But he's not a TOTAL stranger since he's my friend's friend. And he's hot and he might be planning one hell of a night lol

Then go for it. If you´re cool around him, stay, if you don´t like the vibe, fake a headache and get out.

 

[lonnie1]

What have you got to lose? If he answers the door and is a weirdo, just say you changed your mind and walk away.

 

[jmccorm4]

When someone says we'll have the place to ourselves and the parents are out of town I take that as a proposal to mess around. Mainly because it wouldn't matter if they were there if he planned on having a formal an appropriate weekend.

Sounds like you will be having a lot of fun and there will be pizza too

 

[Seasoned]

These are the situations where you ought to be relying on your own instincts in terms of how you'd expect to feel afterwards. Some people are fine with casual sex and others are not so this isn't about them; it's about you. I remember feeling crappy afterwards when I thought I was used or when I used someone else. I was better when it seemed as there was a person to person connection. Sometimes you need a few experiences to determine what is right for you.

When you play, play safe so at least that regret doesn't have to be dealt with.