HELP! coming out when my brother is already out?

[mattad]

Timoteo - I don't envy your situation. I am taking a stab in the dark that your brother isn't really comfortable with his own sexuality therefore the tension and the "hush hush" mentality.

Remember though, you have a life too. You are responsible to yourself to make sure you are happy. I know that you care about what your parents feel and how that might affect them but you also have to be true to yourself.

Good luck

 

[Danugh]

this is horrible. I know a mother that had 4 sons and all her sons turned out gay she was devastated.

Stay in ths closet until your mother dies. A mother can only take so much.

 

[Soilwork]

this is horrible. I know a mother that had 4 sons and all her sons turned out gay she was devastated.

Stay in ths closet until your mother dies. A mother can only take so much.

Wow.

I think we have a new winner in the "MOST DUMB ASS THING EVER SAID ON JUB".



(the former winner was that guy who asked when we chose to be gay. oh wait... I think that was you too)

 

[mattad]

I agree with Soil.

 

[Oden_grey]

timoteo, I can't imagine how devastating at first it will be for your parents to have BOTH of their children being gay. Since things went reasonably well with your elder brother, I assume your parents will warm up to your being gay eventually. My advice to you is to give them time to recover from your elder brother's revelation. Having a double whammy within a couple years may be too much emotional baggage now that your parents expect you to provide them with grandkids. However, if you haven't been dating in your 19 years and with the outing of your brother, maybe they are already prepared with the notion that you might be gay... take it from me parents are not entirely clueless.

I am also glad that your new relationship is going well and that your new boyfriend sacrificed so much for your sake... he must really adore you. There is no doubt that you have to tell your parents eventually... keeping their hopes up for too long WILL be cruel, but thank your elder brother profusely for making things easier on you. The most terrible part about coming out to loved ones is the uncertainty of their reaction.

 

[Soilwork]

timoteo, I can't imagine how devastating at first it will be for your parents to have BOTH of their children being gay.

Oh for CRYING OUT LOUD WILL YOU PLEASE GO GET SOME FREAKING COUSELLING?








sorry.



Ok, look... your parents adjusted to having one gay son.. they can adjust to two (Let us not forget that my parents have 5 kids.. two of us are gay and the only one I think MIGHT have kids is my little brother... if he finds a guy who also wants to adopt).

I really think that people need to stop seeing being gay as some kind of curse or incurable disease. Being gay isn't like being an axe murderer and it isn't like being terminally ill.

Having gay kids for many parents (and it seems yours too) isn't really that big a deal.

Stop believing all this crap that your parents will be devistated so you need to stay in the closet an be misrable for your whole life so they.. um.... why again?

 

[douseiai]

^ i pretty much agree with that... I know a guy with 4 brothers... they are all gay, including him... their parents are fairly devoted christians and while they do not support homosexuality they support their kids... it is hard at first believe me... its hard... but they will get over it... just remember people change... your parents will be fine.. it will take time but hey time is one of the things you can count on having! sure the relationship may not be the same but hey even if they are ok with it its not gonna be the same!... so yeah they will get over it don't worry don't think its gonna kill them cause all the crap that has gone on with mine has yet to kill them so yeah... don't worry to much it will be ok