Help!! First time with a guy!!

[crc68stang]

Hey guys here's my dilema.... I'm engaged to a woman.. She knows about my curiosity of doing things with a man.... She's found one of her gay friends to help me out... I don't know how to start things off with him... Like idk whether I need to hav a "relationship" with him or if we should jus b like fwb.... Like what I don't want to happen is I hav my life with my fiancé and also hav a seperate life with him.... I've nvr done anything with a guy before and he's only kissed a guy beofre... Any tips or suggestions would be greatly appreciated!

 

[Krakenbwool]

I'm pretty sure having him as a fuckbuddy (if it ends up good for you) is okay. There are plenty of people out there who just have casual sex with no hangups. As long as your fiancee knows and consents to it.

 

[redbomb]

well good luck with all of that

 

[Flexuality]

Why don't the three of you explore together?

 

[squirtyguy]

sounds like a bad idea waiting to happen.

are you sure this is not a test of how committed you are to your fiancee?

 

[mbamike]

You need to explore your curiosity about having gay sex before you get married to your girlfriend. That means deep kissing, sucking cock, rimming ass, and fucking a guy and/or getting fucked yourself. You will need to re-think your engagement if it turns out that you have more than just a curiosity.

There are several sites where you can find guys looking for No-Strings-Attached sex if things don't work out with your new-found gay friend.

Divorce is hell, especially when a child is involved. I went through one and I would not wish that kind of pain on anyone! It took me years to recover.

 

[conrad]

Hey, fella, slow down. Getting "up close and personal" with someone requires that you get to know that person well; my personal view is that there is something quite dishonest about physical sex when there is not the emotional commitment we call love.

If the gay fellow is as inexperienced as your post suggests, I would think that his first partner in sex ought to be someone who in his own relationships has already sensed that very intimate (sex) with a person of one's own sex is possible and could be enjoyable and instructive concerning one's own sexuality.

Allow yourself to be a friend to persons of both sexes. It may happen that you will become more than just a friend with someone. That is the point at which many of us have found it to be something we wanted and needed; I am talking about the desire to express affection in sex, even when that other person is of the same sex as yourself. It happens.

In the meantime, you might put that most important organ of sex that you have to work. Here I am talking about your brain. Let your solo sessions be furnished by your mind with the most sexually attractive male you mind can conjure up. Become acquainted with the kind of things men in love do with and for each other.

In short, get your mind straight before you put your cock anywhere near a nice guy.

 

[HornyHenry]

If he doesnt work out find an older or experienced gay man who knows how to service a new Top and how to break a new bottom's cherries. Start with some good hugging and kissing and then have the sex. Be sure of his HIV status and use condoms.