HELP! Freaked out by hookup!

[Bi_Stud]

Long story short...I hooked up with a guy I have been talking to via text messages. TODAY. After we were done fucking, he did something that seriously disturbed me. I`m not going to lie.. I`m concerned to what I might have exposed myself to. Hear me out:

It started with him sucking me off without a condom, followed by some open mouth kissing. After a little bit of that, I put on a condom and fucked him. First off, he didn`t clean out properly and things got a little messy. We cleaned up, but still....it was rather shitty. Whatever, I came...and I thought it was all over as I asked him to take the condom off.

I turn around to wipe off...and what do I see...I see this guy LICKING and drinking my cum out of the condom. Look... I KNOW I`m 100% clean and disease free, but if he is willing to drink the cum of somebody he barely knows imagine what else he is doing to others. He then bent over and sucked the rest of my cum from my bare cock. I was mortified. What was the point of the safe sex...seriously.

He says he is clean. I`m not sure if I believe that.

I want some opinions on what the risks are and what I have potentially exposed myself to. Look.. I know I am being panicky. I know my stuff when it comes to STD`s, STI`s, HIV, etc. However, now that I`m panicking...I`m literally worried to even think. What should I do...should I go to a clinic and talk to them about and see what I should do...is there some medication or pill that can be taken in a certain time frame to reduce the chance of getting a disease or something..or is what is done already over with. What should I do...

 

[Maestoso]

You're dead.












Ok, so he suck you off without a condom and then kissed you.

The chances of getting AIDs from that is pretty low, but STDs and infections like gonorrhea and genital herpes is likely.

Why bother getting a random hook up when you're so worried.

 

[Bi_Stud]

Honestly I usually hook up with people I am more familiar with. We get tested together and even do EVERYTHING safe. I honestly messed up this time, and I wanted to express my concerns.

 

[bankside]

Bi stud, your usual plan to know people a bit better is a lot smarter. This encounter didn't expose you to high risk, it exposed him to a risk he didn't think through. So you have doubts about his judgement. And now you're wondering if he is as reliable as other people you've been with, which does increase the risk, even if you take sensible precautions.

You know the only way to put your mind at ease is to get tested, and that's my advice, even if you can be almost certain the answer will be okay, get tested and know it for a fact.

I have to give thumbs up for what you usually do. If people don't want a relationship with someone but they still want to have sex, having somebody regular that is also tested is the smartest thing I can think of. So after you get tested, go back to doing that and enjoy.

 

[Bi_Stud]

Thanks for the advice. Isn't there a window of when you can get tested for certain STD's? I know hiv takes weeks or months, but how about the others?

I should just go to the clinic and get everything sorted out. Time will tell.

 

[Maestoso]

Thanks for the advice. Isn't there a window of when you can get tested for certain STD's? I know hiv takes weeks or months, but how about the others?

I should just go to the clinic and get everything sorted out. Time will tell.

I wish you all the best.

You seem like one of those good but rare hot guys out there.

Urges are hard to resist but hope you've learnt your lesson

 

[medic1]

Hey there Bi-stud.
My first piece of advice is try not to panic from what you have described your
chances of HIV , Hepatitis A ,B and C are almost non-existent.
Though i would not be surprised if your sexual hook-up can say the same.
YOU did all the correct thing,s ,though if i am going to be honest after him not cleaning himself out properly before he knew about getting fucked ,that would have made me a little wary.
Yes there are prophylactic medicines that you can get from your local std clinic
if you can convince them just how worried you are.
Another thing to do is get yourself tested for all the HPV viruse,s eg Herpes simplex which is the cold sore on the lip,s variety the only reason why i am
saying get checked is really for your peace of mind.
In all honesty i think that you can put that episode down to a fleeting moment of madness on your part,you did practice safe-sex so you should be fine,though i know
that if it was me i would not be able to rest until i knew for sure,so yep go get yourself tested and then put it down to experience and stick to what you normaly
do,wishing you all the best,again try not to worry to much,you will be in my thought,s,please kep us guy,s up-dated.

 

[KaraBulut]

He says he is clean. I`m not sure if I believe that.

It's a pointless question to ask. Would anyone ever admit that they're not "clean"?

From what you've described, you practice safer sex. One of the assumptions of safer sex is that every sex partner is potentially infectious.

I want some opinions on what the risks are and what I have potentially exposed myself to.

Your risk didn't change based upon the situation that you described. A non-monogamous encounter is a non-monogamous encounter. The relative risk is the same.

The risk mitigation for HIV is based upon whether you practiced safer sex. You did. So, you have done everything that you could do to reduce the risk in this situation.

The risk mitigation for other STDs is based upon body fluid exchange and physical contact. Since it sounds like your partner did a bit of cum slurping, his risk from the encounter is increased. Yours was not, even if you did kiss him.

The only way to deal with your anxiety is to wait 6 weeks and go get STD testing. If you're really anxious about it, you can get tested at 2 weeks but you'll have to go back later for HIV testing.

But if you're having sex with relative strangers, you should be getting tested on a regular basis anyway. It's part of the obligations that come with being sexually active in the modern world.

You should also ask about the hepatitis immunization. All gay and bisexual men should be immunized for hepatitis.

 

[nafhoosier]

Long story short...I hooked up with a guy I have been talking to via text messages. TODAY. After we were done fucking, he did something that seriously disturbed me. I`m not going to lie.. I`m concerned to what I might have exposed myself to. Hear me out:

It started with him sucking me off without a condom, followed by some open mouth kissing. After a little bit of that, I put on a condom and fucked him. First off, he didn`t clean out properly and things got a little messy. We cleaned up, but still....it was rather shitty. Whatever, I came...and I thought it was all over as I asked him to take the condom off.

I turn around to wipe off...and what do I see...I see this guy LICKING and drinking my cum out of the condom. Look... I KNOW I`m 100% clean and disease free, but if he is willing to drink the cum of somebody he barely knows imagine what else he is doing to others. He then bent over and sucked the rest of my cum from my bare cock. I was mortified. What was the point of the safe sex...seriously.

He says he is clean. I`m not sure if I believe that.

I want some opinions on what the risks are and what I have potentially exposed myself to. Look.. I know I am being panicky. I know my stuff when it comes to STD`s, STI`s, HIV, etc. However, now that I`m panicking...I`m literally worried to even think. What should I do...should I go to a clinic and talk to them about and see what I should do...is there some medication or pill that can be taken in a certain time frame to reduce the chance of getting a disease or something..or is what is done already over with. What should I do...

First of all, him drinking your cum out of the condom is kinda trashy and gross. Avoid that guy at all costs, just my three cents.

BUT the good news is that you're likely 100% fine when it comes to Hepatitis and HIV like the other posters said. You used protection and (granted the condom didn't break- which it sounds like it didn't) you officially partook in safe sex (at least for the fucking part, technically the blow-job put him at risk but not so much you since you were receiving).

The bad news is that you're NOT likely 100% fine in terms of other STD's like syphilis, HPV, herpes, scabies, etc. These are not life threatening but need to be treated ASAP to avoid serious complications later on.

Does that mean you got them? No. But you might have..... and usually relying on a stranger's word that he's "clean" is like relying on a convicted child molester to baby sit your kids..... it's really not a good idea.

With that said there's really no reason to feel "guilty" about this hook up since you used protection. But condoms really only protect against HIV........ so in all honesty you must accept the risks of getting other STD's if you want to hookup randomly. Just make sure you treat them and don't have sex AT ALL until you know you are cleared because they can still be passed when using protection.

If you notice any abnormal discharges, pain while urinating, or sores near your mouth or "down below", don't panic but immediately go to the doctor to get tested and treated.

If not, get tested in six months just to be safe you didn't get other STD's (I don't randomly hook up with people but always get screened at least twice a year for peace of mind).

It's preferable to use a condom during oral sex but many people don't..... but you still used it during the most risky behavior (anal sex) so keep up the good work and stay protected.

Just remember since you're so worried that you probably shouldn't be hooking up randomly because the stress is never worth it.

 

[mbamike]

You did some kissing and fucked him with a condom. Sounds extremely low risk to me.

Get tested in six weeks to give yourself some peace of mind. Get tested every three months to keep current with your status.