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Help!! I need dating advice

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Ok I really want to ask this cute guy out but the problem is I have no experience in asking a guy out at all. So I have been thinking of different ways to accomplish my goal and the one I think is the best is to just go up to him, introduce myself, and then ask him if he would like to have lunch sometime to get to know each other better. How does that sound?

To give you some background on the situation I'm a newly out 21 year old with unfortunately no dating experience. And I don't know anything about the guy I want to ask out. Can some of y'all give me any tips on what to do or tell me the things that I shouldn't do?
 
Not really but I'm 90% sure he's gay due to his mannerisms, and the people he hangs out with who I know are gay.
 
I would FB stalk him and go from there. :lol: j/k

No, I think you are going in the right direction. Meeting someone for coffee should be relatively low-key and casual so you can make sure he's gay (perhaps by asking him!) and go from there. If it turns out you two aren't compatible, at least you can still be friends and you had some good coffee.

Good luck and keep us posted!
 
Do something fun, just not sexually. Go to a park, go shopping, go in theme park and ride some rollercoasters or slide down some water slides. Ask him what he does for a living, what music he likes, mention about the weather, and etc. You need to have conversation. You don't need to talk about your entire life. Maybe talk about your sexual fantasies later on in the evening if he's comfortable. Sexual fantasies aren't directed towards the person that you are talking to for some. This gives you a hint of who he is more interested in. Women, men or both. There are lots of ways that you can make them spit out of what their preference is. :D Anyway good luck on your quest!!
 
Okay so I've encountered a recurring problem with my crush. Every time I see him, he's always with a friend and I never see him alone when he's hanging out with him. Isn't it a little rude to go up to someone and ask them out when they are hanging out with thier friends? I think so but what do y'all think?
 
You could just ask them both for their contact info. That way no one feels left out. It doesn't mean you all have to hang out all the time and you don't have to even use the other person's contact info if you don't want to.
 
altlover85 I see what you mean but I really don't care about his friend. I just want him. And guess what. I saw him three times today and was to chickenshit to say anything to him. Also one of those times I was finally was goin to introduce myself but his damn friend came out of nowhere and cockblocked me. It pissed me off so much!!
 
The point is, you are asking the friend and him for the info so you can get his info. It's not because you want the friends info.
 
hayate707 said:
altlover85 I see what you mean but I really don't care about his friend. I just want him. And guess what. I saw him three times today and was to chickenshit to say anything to him. Also one of those times I was finally was goin to introduce myself but his damn friend came out of nowhere and cockblocked me. It pissed me off so much!!
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All you need is patience, he shouldn't be around with his friends constantly. At the moment when he is alone, hopefully without any other interference, you can then go ahead and talk to him. :D No worries. It looks like you will see him everyday so they'll be many chances! ;)
 
Well I hate to report that I finally asked him out and he said he had a girlfriend to my surprise. Lol honestly I think he was lyin because he seems really gay but I have to admit that I don't have the best gaydar. Anyways I wasn't as devasted as I thought I would be. I'm just glad I finally had the guts to ask a guy out.
 
Good for you hayaye707! I'm glad you were able to work up the courage to do it, even though the result wasn't what you would have liked.
 
I felt proud of myself after asking him out. Now the next thing to do is to find an attractive, single, gay guy. Shouldn't be so hard to find in the deep south, right? Man it seriously sux being in a place where there isn't that big of a gay community or enough guys to go out with. I'm really getting tired of wanting a boyfriend but not having any places to find one.
 
If you don't like your prospects, perhaps you should think of moving at some point.
 
yea I definitely don't think I can stay here in this small town and find a boyfriend but I have to wait till I'm done with school and also I don't know where I should go.
 
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