HELP! I need much advice...

[gustischafer]

I've got a problem, if you can call it so: I am in love with a friend of mine. We are very good friends, i like his character, we talk about personal stuff etc. He's definitely not gay, he could be bisexual, though. I really feel like having sex with him as many times as possible. I think he's very hot and so on.

But the problem is that he won't want to do something with me. I mean, the only thing i want is to have sex with him, or at least something like that. And i'm not a guy that's asking for advice because i just want to have sex, i am indeed in love with him, he is the only person i have ever wanted and loved so much. I am so jealous when he talks about girls he likes, or when girls are around him (they don't exactly flirt him). You cannot imagine how i feel when we are together and this has never ever happened to me before...

He knows nothing about me being bisexual-gay and i am not sure if he has ever thought about it.

Please, let me know if such thing has happened to you. What did you do and how did things go?

I NEED ADVICE!!! What should i do?

Thanks

 

[gustischafer]

Move on. He's not gay or bi.

Thanks a lot for responding!
It is not at all easy for me to move on. I mean I like this guy for 2 years and I am so in love with him. I don't know why and how this happens to me, but I couldn't call it exactly good or something.
How do you know that he's not bi?
I think he could be because of his attitude or reactions to some things. He's definitely not like most of other guys.
That's what I'm telling you: I've tried everything, but i need HELP by giving me ADVICE!

 

[G-Lexington]

>>>That's what I'm telling you: I've tried everything

Bullshit.

>>>He knows nothing about me being bisexual-gay and i am not sure if he has ever thought about it.

Lex

 

[Puzuzzu]

^ honestly, i agree with splatter.
Unless you can discover something about his sexuality. If he's bi- you may be in luck. Can you try to find out?

 

[racer2438]

So ask your sel;f this do you want a good friend or do you want to ruin what is a good friend and have it all fall apart in your face..

you choose, some friends are just that, friends.

 

[gustischafer]

thank you all for your comments, even the "bullshit" comment. at least i can see what you think about it.

 

[spencer]

make this guy your backup plan, keep him out of the forefront. demote him. You've already waited for 2 years for him. It's time to at least mess around with other people, people that are more available than this guy. You can still be with him and all, just at least hang out with gay men and explore dating. it will help you keep things in perspective with him. Even if you don't want to, even if you love this guy, still be with him, but date other men too.

 

[rareboy]

You're wasting your time.

Keep him as a friend and move on to find someone else to fuck.

 

[Xclusve]

Don listen to the harsh comments like the bullsht one.. Some people are fools, anyway back to advicing you, make small gestures about gay guys and stuff.. Ask him something like whats the craziest things he would like to do and when its your turn tell him to have sex with a guy, get his reactions.. Keep on hinting to him, if you dont get a response its sadly time for you to get someone who will love you back.

 

[KaraBulut]

I've got a problem, if you can call it so: I am in love with a friend of mine. We are very good friends, i like his character, we talk about personal stuff etc.

He knows nothing about me being bisexual-gay and i am not sure if he has ever thought about it.

Please, let me know if such thing has happened to you. What did you do and how did things go?

There are many threads in this forum (COR&BT) about guys who are attracted to/in love with their straight friends. And it seldom ends well.

And one of the common themes is "He's my best friend, we talk about everything but he doesn't know that I'm gay/bi". This seems to be part of the problem and it begs the question, "How can you be best friends and not know each other's sexual orientation?".

It's time to come clean about your sexuality. You may lose him as a friend but quite frankly, if you can't be honest about your sexuality with your "best friend", then he wasn't your best friend- he's just another guy you hang out with.

As for being in love with him... well, this sounds more like a crush. If you can't get a grip on your feelings, then you're going to have to put some distance between the two of you. You should be spending your time with other gay/bi guys who share your interests and can return your feelings.

 

[gustischafer]

thanks again for your comments. the last ones really helped me!
thanks Xclusve!

actually it's a lot that has happened between me and this guy, i mean between our friendship. we didn't talk for about 2 years and now we're good again. he is not my "best" friend, he's a friend that i appreciate and at least he's a real one.

anyway, i have thought quite a lot about talking to him about personal stuff. we have talked a little bit. and i think that's a good start.

 

[gustischafer]

oh, and by the way, this may be a crush, KaraBulut, but i've had so many crushes before and nothing was like this, so serious and "big".

 

[asian87]

I was exactly in the same situation. As Splatter said, you'd better move or you will end up with a broken heart.

 

[spencer]

thanks again for your comments. the last ones really helped me!
thanks Xclusve!

actually it's a lot that has happened between me and this guy, i mean between our friendship. we didn't talk for about 2 years and now we're good again. he is not my "best" friend, he's a friend that i appreciate and at least he's a real one.

anyway, i have thought quite a lot about talking to him about personal stuff. we have talked a little bit. and i think that's a good start.

all this is good, IN ADDITION to meeting other guys too. leave you door open for this guy, become his best friend but don't close your door for meeting other people. date gay men on top of your striaght project.

 

[rareboy]

Don listen to the harsh comments like the bullsht one.. Some people are fools, anyway back to advicing you, make small gestures about gay guys and stuff.. Ask him something like whats the craziest things he would like to do and when its your turn tell him to have sex with a guy, get his reactions.. Keep on hinting to him, if you dont get a response its sadly time for you to get someone who will love you back.

Yes. Do this.

If you found this advice helpful, you obviously have found your ideal intellectual and emotional context for dealing with this all too common dilemma of little gay boys obsessing over fucking their best friend.

When you come back with a thread about how your heart was broken by wasting your time, we'll be here with tissue
and advice.

 

[gustischafer]

Yes. Do this.

If you found this advice helpful, you obviously have found your ideal intellectual and emotional context for dealing with this all too common dilemma of little gay boys obsessing over fucking their best friend.

When you come back with a thread about how your heart was broken by wasting your time, we'll be here with tissue
and advice.

Well, actually he is not my "best" friend. he is a good friend though.

I hope my heart will not be broken. every single try has its reason for happening. if my time is wasted then i should be taught a lesson. if it's not wasted then i should be taught a lesson too. i believe everything happens for a reason.

this guy i am talking about is a good friend, i want us to stay friends (i generally don't prefer having a boyfriend). but i also want to fulfil my wishes. i know this is so selfish, but i'd love to achieve something like this...