Help! Shy person here needs advice.

[mike121811]

Hello all, I am new here and have been lurking around here for awhile reading.

About me - I think I am 100% gay. I don't know why - but the following attributes turn me on in a man

1. over 50
2. has a belly
3. no facial hair
4. caucasion
5. seeing him smile

There is something about seeing bellies hang out that just drive me crazy! Am I the only one here? I feel so strange about it

Anyways, how do I approach somebody in public that catches my eye? I am always too shy or afraid they will yell at me or something.

I had a teacher in 11th grade - and I became his friend. I stayed over at his house when I had to leave mine some nights during school. He is married.
I am in love with this man - and one day I went up to him crying and told him that I was attracted to him. He said "You are not gay, God doesnt make mistakes."

Then he said "I have participated in homosexual activities before."

I was SHOCKED, but stayed quiet. I wish I would have said something like "Like what?" or "What happened?"

He is just the perfect person in the world in my eyes. He is always hugging me, he laughs alot, smiles alot, sometimes he kisses me on the neck after a hug. sometimes he pats me on the butt. I would do anything to just cuddle with him on the couch.

But he is married with a family. He's a youth minister. A school teacher and coach.

I have seen him once without a shirt on and it drove me nuts! I wish I could just build a time machine, go up to him and ask him if he would like a blowjob, and if he rejects me, just go back in time like it never happened. I would do anything for this man. I have always fantasized about seeing him in his underwear or naked. I always think about putting a hidden camera somewhere just to get a glimpse, hehe.

I had a teacher/coach in 8th grade that taught math. I couldnt concentrate because I just kept staring at his beautiful behind or his belly.

 

[Superman7.5]

My advise, If you see this man often and he has a family. Is to forget about him IMMEDIATELY and find another sexual outlet. The situation doesn't sound like it would have a good ending for any one. Think of it this way. You would get hurt eventually.

What do you think would happen in the best case scenario? You would sneak around as lovers without his wife knowing?

Find someone else with the same qualities somewhere else.

And seriously bellies?

 

[kguy3387]

if you really love him you won't do anything to tempt him into anything physical. it sounds like he has alot to lose. schools punish teacher student relationships very harshly.

 

[Auburn]

Mike, It is perfectly ok that you like those traits, but please do not destroy this man's life because you can't control your sexual desires. There are plenty of guys out there with traits as you described...and the good news is that there are a lot of single ones.

As to approaching a guy in public, I would say the only way to do it is find a way to strike up a conversation with him that does not seem , at all, sexual. Then notice how he makes eye contact with you...generally, if they are comfortable with their sexuality and interested in you they will give you this look that will let you know they are interested. Then you just have to go from there.

Hope this helps!

 

[mike121811]

My advise, If you see this man often and he has a family. Is to forget about him IMMEDIATELY and find another sexual outlet. The situation doesn't sound like it would have a good ending for any one. Think of it this way. You would get hurt eventually.

What do you think would happen in the best case scenario? You would sneak around as lovers without his wife knowing?

Find someone else with the same qualities somewhere else.

And seriously bellies?

I knew that i'd be seen as a weird person, i don't know why I like bellies - or old guys at all

I'm guessing its hard enough to come out to friends and family, but it will be even harder not to be accepted by the gay community

i should give up im a mistake like he said

 

[Themastercorey]

Hey you are not weird. I like bellies too. And I'm very skinny myself. Maybe the belly is just a thing older men have and that's why it attracts us.

 

[rareboy]

Hey Mike.

There's nothing wrong or weird about what floats your boat when it comes to preference in men.

Just let this guy be the one that got away. He'll be a better fantasy that way and you won't ruin his life along the way.

 

[Lewis1]

ok say what now ?

 

[3nipples]

I knew that i'd be seen as a weird person, i don't know why I like bellies - or old guys at all

I'm guessing its hard enough to come out to friends and family, but it will be even harder not to be accepted by the gay community

i should give up im a mistake like he said

Do you have trouble reading or are you purposely taking what was said out of context?

There is nothing wrong with you being interested in older guys with bellies and all the other attributes you described. It doesn't make you weird. Whatever floats your boat is very ok.

What is NOT ok, is for you to pursue this fantasy with a guy who is your teacher. It would be a very serious mistake for him to breach the student/teacher relationship. You should respect that.

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[mike121811]

guys, I met him in 11th grade. I'm 21 now.

 

[loppyears]

Nowt wrong with what you like. I like really hairy legs on a man, does that make me weird? Course not.

There is also nothing wrong with liking a teacher. Everyone has a crush on a teacher, I did, but what would be wrong is if you took it any further with him. Like many have said, he's married, don't go down that road. I guess he has an idea your gay in someway, especially if your letting him touch your ass and kiss you on the neck so if you still wanna be friends tell him straight you just want friendship. I also suggest asking him for help finding a proper gay outlet, like a group. He's a teacher, they have resources for everything.

 

[mike121811]

No, he just pats me on the butt sometimes. He's a coach - he does it all the time to his players.

The kisses - I dunno - but I love them