Help!

[The_Reaper]

Alright, I need some immediate advice fellows....

I've been talking with this fellow now for a few days online, and once he's done his kayaking lesson, he'd love to meet me for coffee...

Now here's the problem.

He's REALLY hot, and very much into fitness and such so you know he's got one rocking body on him as well...Whereas myself, aren't in the same boat. And yes, I know the grammar in that last sentence was terrible.

Now, I've been down in the dumps for the last few days...Not sure why, just am. I'm worried that another guy who meets me once and then never talks to me again would be a major god damned blow to what little nerve I have left over these past couple days...So, I'm worried that if that happens I'll just sink deeper into the depression that's looming around the corner.

ON the other hand, I could be wrong about myself and he might think I'm a fellow worth speaking to yet. So, do I deny myself that opportunity to save what's left of my self-esteem at the moment...OR do I go ahead and take a chance.

Please help me!

 

[theFallenGod]

Go into it with absolutely NO expectations...

This is just 2 people having coffee together... nothing more... talk to him and get to know him... but treat it as going out with a friend or co-worker...

If you don't expect there to be something more than if nothing happens it won't be devastating...

While you're at it ... Look in the mirror and find all the traits that you think are great .. point them out to yourself and don't focus on the things that worry you... focus on the positive instead of the negative and maybe you can boost your self esteem a bit.

Honestly ... you are extremely attractive...

 

[Orlandude]

Nobody ever really knows how they are perceived by others. Not really. I don't mean things like "Oh you're cute". Yes, physical appearance counts but it's not everything. Personality, attitude, and a host of other things matter too. The whole "package". There are times when we all wonder if we will "make the grade" with someone we find special. But the other guys are right. Go into this with no expectations and an open mind. Remember that he too may be a bit nervous about meeting you and how you will respond to him. Just be yourself. No more. No less. As someone said, right now it's just two guys having coffee together. Nothing more. That may be how it ends up but it can also be the start of a new and great friendship...or more. We are all special in our own ways so being yourself is all important. Enjoy the meeting, go with confidence and accept whatever comes of it. If nothing else, it is an opportunity to meet someone new in your life.

 

[M4P]

Hi Guys

I've moved this thread to Coming Out & Relationships

Thanks

 

[G-Lexington]

I'm assuming if you know what he looks like, he knows what you look like. Have you sent him pictures of bodybuilders and porn stars, claiming they're you? That doesn't sound like you, so I'm guessing no.

In short, he knows what you look like.
And he still wants to meet you.
Call me nuts, but it sounds like he likes you.
Go.

Lex

 

[StlKj]

A guy who is into outdoor kinds of activities and takes care of himself physically is not necessarily going to put fitness as his main requirement for a new date; however, he is likely to like someone with a little confidence in himself. Your questioning yourself and worrying about whether or not you stack up will show in how you present yourself; hell, it's already getting you to doubt if you even want to present yourself.

Build this guy up too much, and put yourself down in equal amounts, and no, it won't work. You'll make sure of it, and give off a vibe that he might not even understand, but he will know he isn't in to it.

By the time you act as though you are anticipating depression coming "around the corner," it's actually already here. What are you doing to handle it?

There could be a thousand reasons it won't work out when you meet him, and maybe only 100 would be about you. Your current thinking though is liable to convince you you're at the heart of all one thousand, and the truth is, you'll make that the truth.

So, the better question here might not be can you handle it if he rejects you, but why you feel the need to reject meeting him after already shooting yourself down?

 

[tonyboy]

Alright, I need some immediate advice fellows....

I've been talking with this fellow now for a few days online, and once he's done his kayaking lesson, he'd love to meet me for coffee...

Now here's the problem.

He's REALLY hot, and very much into fitness and such so you know he's got one rocking body on him as well...Whereas myself, aren't in the same boat. And yes, I know the grammar in that last sentence was terrible.

Now, I've been down in the dumps for the last few days...Not sure why, just am. I'm worried that another guy who meets me once and then never talks to me again would be a major god damned blow to what little nerve I have left over these past couple days...So, I'm worried that if that happens I'll just sink deeper into the depression that's looming around the corner.

ON the other hand, I could be wrong about myself and he might think I'm a fellow worth speaking to yet. So, do I deny myself that opportunity to save what's left of my self-esteem at the moment...OR do I go ahead and take a chance.

Please help me!

Wow man.... you surprise me in what you've written in this thread.
so, you've been talking to this guy online for a few days and he wants to meet you.
I figure must have shared pictures otherwise you wouldn't know he was 'really hot'.... if that's the case he must know what you look like just as you know what he looks like.
And since he wants to meet you I'd say go for it. What is there to loose?

You may meet someone once and then not want to see them again, and vice-versa. It just happens that way sometimes.

I've talked to you often Mr. Reaper and I know you to be one hell of a great guy.
Take the opportunity you have to share coffee with this guy.... take it and enjoy the chance to meet him.
You already know he wants to do it so take him up on his offer.
I know you to be a well spoken guy with a good sense of humor and a way with words.
So what if he's in better physical shape than you? Could be he has other interestes besides physcial activity. If he's talked to you online then he knows you've a fine mind and are pretty handsome in your own right.

Not every one you will meet will like you physically nor you them. There is something to be said though for meeting people for friendship. You have much to share with people. Could be you two will hookup sexually and could be you won't.
Go for it man....
tonyboy.

 

[youngnihilist]

so what if he's a model and you don't perceive yourself so well! Obviously he wants to meet you assuming you've sent the right pics. go for it! Us everyday folks can get with the models easy if we got the right charm and vibe!