Help!

[rareboy]

Obviously, you're both feeling some confusion.

Do you want to pursue any kind of relationship with this guy as a bf? If so, then it sounds like he's ready and waiting.

He's obviously got a crush on you.

We can't make up your mind for you.

You have to follow your own instincts.

 

[KaraBulut]

Forgive me, but what is the question for which you're wanting advice?

 

[backpacker]

I have a feeling that you are the only one that thinks you are deep in the closet. He has figured out your secret and likes you. He's probably writing a thread that says "I practically raped the guy and he still didn't respond. What else do I have to do?" If he's not out, he definitely has the closet door open and isn't too worried about who looks in. Don't worry about his family being conservative, that's his issue if it is an issue. Now you need to decide if you want to step out and pursue this guy. Good luck!

 

[TX-Beau]

How old are the people involved.

 

[TX-Beau]

19 and 17

Well he really is 15...about to turn 16. lol Thought 17 sounded better.

Practical first, depending on where you live, there could be serious legal issues if you go anywhere near sexual contact with someone 15.

You’re in the closet, and 19, and this guy is in the closet, and he’s 15, from a family you know is going to have problems with him being gay. Yeah having a problem with all of that, the fallout from this could get very ugly, very quickly, and he’s not an adult, not in control of his life yet, has some growing up to do, and his parents will probably have your ass in a sling if you touch him. Where I live you’d be in prison for statutory rape the moment an adult figured out what you were up to.

Pretty much says it all right there. Leave him alone until he’s an adult. You need to work on the whole closet thing anyway.

There are plenty of people who think that just because you have an attraction to someone that automatically this becomes the paramount factor, that being attracted mitigates everything else, it doesn’t. Acting on attractions begets consequences, you’d better figure out all the ways this is going to affect everyone involved before you do anything precipitous.

Odds are even this thread is going to get deleted because of the underage thing.

 

[andy12]

OH we went to a musem and we uhh...don't know how to explain this but we ended up spooning...standing up. But he told some people to look, so that kind of made me take it as a joke again. Then there was this other thing at the museum. Its a talking thing and before we left it he said "I love you." GAH! I'm confused.

Ah, kids these days.

What's the confusion exactly? It's obvious he likes you. If I'm not mistaken, you don't mind him either. So what's the problem? Tell him you like and get a proper "thing" going.

 

[TX-Beau]

What's the confusion exactly? It's obvious he likes you. If I'm not mistaken, you don't mind him either. So what's the problem? Tell him you like and get a proper "thing" going.

Exactly what I was saying above. What's the problem? I can think of three off the top of my head.

1. Underage

2. Police

3. Prison

 

[andy12]

Exactly what I was saying above. What's the problem? I can think of three off the top of my head.

1. Underage

2. Police

3. Prison

Sorry, I didn't read the age thing. We put 15 year olds in prison for life but hey a bit of consensual cock is a sin against Gawd. Welcome to Saudi America!

Now of course, if he's 16 things change a bit since a lot of states have 16 as the age of consent, but it does vary from state to state, if we're even talking United States. In Europe, it's a lot less puritanical.

But yeah, be sure to check the law!

 

[andy12]

Oh my God...who said I wanted to do any sexual thing to him? It's just a little crush.

Crushes have a way of going that way though. There's nothing wrong with it, but do make sure to know the law.

 

[TX-Beau]

Oh my God...who said I wanted to do any sexual thing to him? It's just a little crush.

I don't believe you.

That said, I don't necessarily think that the way the laws are structured is rational. But that doesn't change the fact that they are what they are. Some people at 15 are completely capable of informed consent, but there are people who aren't. Not the point.

Whatever you feel for this kid, the fallout from it could be so severe both to you and him, prudence dictates you wait it out. It would be beyond cavalier to lead him on over a "little crush," you're not taking seriously, and if it's more than a "little crush," all the previous problems come screaming back into play.

 

[TX-Beau]

Why don't you just be his friend for a couple of years. Shelve the whole attraction thing altogether until some things change.

 

[backpacker]

Even though you don't plan on doing anything sexual, you should still educate yourself. Be sure to check multiple sources and to consider the source. Many websites contain inaccurate or incomplete information. The age for gay is often different than the age for straight sex. You should also watch this video http://www.abcnews.go.com/2020/AgeOfConsent/. If you play with fire, you just might get burnt.

Given that it seems obvious that the two of you are attracted to each other, it would probably be best to talk to him and let him know why it's not a good idea. I'm sure it would be helpful to him to know why so he doesn't think it's that he doesn't like you. Once you are both of age, I see no reason why you shouldn't go for it if you both are still interested.