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[rmfnb24]

Hi guys
I need some advice. I've been with my fiancé for almost 5 years. He's on new long term medications that cause his sex drive to be pretty much gone.

The problem is my second drive is quite high still. I've wanted to have sex with him for days even if it's just jerking off. We have not fucked in about a year, and jerk off every few months. What should I do help me stop wanting to jerk off. I don't want to jerk off alone. I've gotten hard daily. Yesterday I sent him a pic of it and he didn't even mention it or text back. What should I do?

 

[medic1]

The first thing i would do is tell your lover what you have posted here. The second thing would be to make an appt to see his consultant, to see if there are other forms of therapy available, with less severe side-effects. I wish you luck.

 

[rmfnb24]

He knows and we tried that, there are no options other the the current one

 

[TX-Beau]

He doesn't have to get it up to get you off.

 

[KaraBulut]

The problem is not the meds. If he's not willing to talk about what is really going on with him, it's a difficult situation that doesn't have an optimistic outlook for improving.

 

[rmfnb24]

It's completly killed. Like no interest. He still kisses and hugs me and stuff but just no sex. So how do I ignore it

 

[borg69unimatrix]

What's stopping you from jerking off?

 

[rmfnb24]

I don't want jerk off solo. It's not my thing

 

[medic1]

It is obvious that you cannot ignore this, the situation that you are both finding yourself's in if left unattended will more than likely cause
a split of some sort.
If you have already spoken to him about this, and there are no other valid medications for him to try, as some med's do affect a persons libido.
Have you both thought about couple therapy?
Sharing your thoughts and feelings about each other to a qualified third party may be able to help provide some valuable insight.

 

[rmfnb24]

Besides the medical reasons for no sex our relationship is fine

 

[checkinthingsout]

He knows and we tried that, there are no options other the the current one

Maybe you should seek a second professional opinion. Even if there are not other drugs that he can be on, He may be able to treat his condition in other ways...but honestly, as Karabulunt has stated, he should be trying to work this out with you and figuring out how you guys can still connect physically even though he now has a lower sex drive. If he isnt willing to compromise there are deeper issues.

 

[rmfnb24]

Everything is good except the sex. We've saw four docs. Meds wOnt be changing. My question is how do I ignore the urges

 

[borg69unimatrix]

Unless you get neutered, you can't.

 

[dereperez]

I don't want jerk off solo. It's not my thing

Maybe you can jerk him and yourself off at the same time? He can just sit/lie back while you do it. He doesn't necessarily have to mentally be into it either, but you can still give him some physical stimulus.

 

[checkinthingsout]

Everything is good except the sex. We've saw four docs. Meds wOnt be changing. My question is how do I ignore the urges

What is the condition and what is the medication if you dont mind me asking? Is it life threatening? How long will he need to be on medication?

You cannot ignore your urges. But maybe you can try working out whenever you are very horny. Just get up and go for a long run?

 

[Seasoned]

I can't imagine why he is not concerned and why the two of you have made this all about him. Don't feel guilty for wanting sex and it's ok to be hurt and even angry that he is ignoring the fact that your sex drive is intact.