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He's ignoring me and I'm not sure why...

You seem to be doing ok with this. Happy to hear it! Move at your own pace, realizing that you are free to experiment as you chose within the parameters of consensual partners. Best wishes!! Thanks for giving us the update.
 
Seasoned said:
You seem to be doing ok with this. Happy to hear it! Move at your own pace, realizing that you are free to experiment as you chose within the parameters of consensual partners. Best wishes!! Thanks for giving us the update.
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Thanks! (*8*)
 
Okay, so there's a bit of an update to this story:

Part of what led to us deciding not to see each other anymore was an email he sent me where he said that unless I was ready to do everything, he wasn't going to do anything. He then sent me an email saying that I would never find anyone else like him and that he wouldn't be looking for anyone else. I decided to move on, but sometime this month I got a message from him telling me he misses me. He sent me this message on a different site under a different name. I replied confronting him about the fact that he lied to me about not looking for anybody else and he refused to take responsibility. He told me that I was on there looking too. But the thing is, I never promised him I wouldn't look for anybody else. I know it was a dumb promise to make in the first place and that he was just trying to manipulate me into going further sexually, but the fact that he wouldn't admit to it pissed me off. I told him I didn't want to see or speak to him anymore and asked him to leave me alone. I told him I deserved someone better, someone who respected my boundaries. He responded saying that he did respect my boundaries. I made the decision in my mind to end it right then and there because I was absolutely infuriated that he would not only pressure me into going further than I wanted, but to absolutely refuse to see that he did something wrong.

About a week later, I went to see a movie with some friends. It was near where we used to hang out and I began missing him. I felt kind of sad about not seeing him anymore. It was very strange, but it passed once I got home.

A couple days ago, I'm back on the same site where we met and he sent me a message. He said that he wants to meet for oral sex, that nobody will ever be as safe as we were, and that he just wants to have fun. He said he needs it and he's sure I do too, because neither one of us have met anyone since we stopped seeing each other. On one hand, I want to ignore him and move on because I feel he's just trying to manipulate me yet again. But on the other hand, I haven't met anybody else and I feel I do need it. I would be okay with having a solely sexual thing with him, but I don't know if I should given his constant pressuring me to go further than I want to. I'm thinking of replying to his message saying that I would be up for it, but only if he doesn't go any further than what I'm ready for.

What do you guys think? Should I listen to my dick or should I listen to my brain? lol
 
I'm not experienced at all, but this guy doesn't seem very trustable. Just my 2 cents.
Move on, listen to your brain. There are other men on this planet.
 
Move on. This guy seems like a manipulative liar and very untrustworthy.

Even if it was just to have sex and scratch an itch I don't think it's worth having him in your life in any capacity.
 
KölnElch said:
I'm not experienced at all, but this guy doesn't seem very trustable. Just my 2 cents.
Move on, listen to your brain. There are other men on this planet.
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LuckysRevenge said:
Move on. This guy seems like a manipulative liar and very untrustworthy.

Even if it was just to have sex and scratch an itch I don't think it's worth having him in your life in any capacity.
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Thanks a lot guys. I think you're right. (*8*)
 
I'm guessing you already made up your mind but I thought I would give my two cents.. haha :P

This is a guy you like so if you are going to just do hook ups it'll just mess with your feelings down the road man. You may not be that experienced but there are other guys out there to give you that experience, and maybe even have it blossom into a relationship. B)
 
Anon23 said:
I'm guessing you already made up your mind but I thought I would give my two cents.. haha :P

This is a guy you like so if you are going to just do hook ups it'll just mess with your feelings down the road man. You may not be that experienced but there are other guys out there to give you that experience, and maybe even have it blossom into a relationship. B)
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True. I agree. Thanks for the input! (*8*)
 
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