Hesitant and confused first timer...

[Mischiefbrew]

So I'm not gay but very curious. I want to start experimenting and don't quite know how to get into it. I went on adam4adam to try ang get things going but everyone seems to just want to stick it in me. I found one guy that's really down to earth and understands what I'm going through. He makes me feel really comfortable. But he's 41. And I'm 21. But he's really easy going and free spirited. I would probably pick this guy to fool around with even if there were younger options. But is the age difference going to complicate things? I've never even been with a woman 20 years older than me... Any thoughts?

 

[Grey_Sky]

You said it yourself, you're just experimenting, so relax and see where the tide takes you. Don't worry too much if it's going to be a problem in the future, just try to enjoy what's happening now. If it works out, great! If not... move on.

Just be careful about the age difference. You're 21 and most certainlly know how to take care of yourself, but there are a lot of older guys out there looking for a boy toy to have fun with. So, unless you wanna get yourself a suggar daddy, be sure of this guy's intentions before starting anything, and explain yours to him clearly too.

And good luck!

 

[bankside]

When I was 21 I was looking for a relationship. You are looking for mischief. That removes a lot of complicating factors. So, if he is offering the kind of mischief you find appealing, maybe go for it.

But first, take care of your health. Also, ask yourself why a 41 year old is still out there looking for mischief. He's had 20 years to figure out another hobby or come up with something more permanent, but has he?

If it all checks out then why not?

 

[backpacker]

If you are just experimenting, the age factor shouldn't be a big deal. Only you can decide if it's a deal breaker or not. Just be careful that you aren't focusing on what's wrong with each potential guy as a way of sub-consciously avoiding the experimentation due to fear.

 

[youfiad]

You gotta do whhat makes you comfortable. But hey. I'm 23 . If your stats are right, I can help

 

[Seasoned]

Go with your instincts. If you're afraid of being taken advantage of remember that that can happen with any age person. Playing is playing. No matter how comfortable you become remember to meet in public and play safe.

Welcome to JUB!

 

[G-Lexington]

There's nothing wrong with meeting up with the guy outside the bedroom and seeing how you get along with him. Meet for coffee or a casual lunch, making it clear that you want to find out how you feel in his presence before making any decisions. Chances are - he'll be down for that. If he isn't, well, that tells you all you need to know.

In fact, this tactic works really well as a filter. If you announce on your profile that "I insist on meeting somebody in public in a neutral location first, to make sure I feel comfortable with them and can relate to them"...that will eliminate a lot of guys who just want to play "fuck the virgin".

Lex

 

[Mischiefbrew]

Thank you for the advice and welcomes! We're talking a lot and it's going pretty well so far. He says he likes the idea of taking it slow and won't rush me. And he wants to cook for me at his place. What do I do?!

 

[Grey_Sky]

In fact, this tactic works really well as a filter. If you announce on your profile that "I insist on meeting somebody in public in a neutral location first, to make sure I feel comfortable with them and can relate to them"...that will eliminate a lot of guys who just want to play "fuck the virgin".

Lex

Good advice, but also keep in mind that a good player never gives up! In fact it might make things even more interesting for him, with a few obstacles to surpass.

Afterall, as said in that famous sentence: "There's no way to describe how you feel when you're talking to your meal."

But hey, glad everything is working out and hope you like his cooking

 

[BiMike]

Try his cooking, if you like it , ask him what is for dessert Best of luck !