Hey, guys. I started talking to this guy in June...

[gameboy 11]

And he's really cool. His name is Chad and he flirts with me sometimes, asking if he can have me for his birthday and stuff. It's funny sometimes, other times, he finds me speechless cause I'm not used to someone occasionally begging at my feet, etc.

Anyway, we're only online friends at the time, but one day, I would enjoy meeting him. He's moderately smart, kinda funny, nice, a bit shy (or so he says) sensitive, kinda sounds like myself! Anyway, the only "problem" is that he's only 17. He'll be 18 next year some time.

And like I said, he can get sexual sometimes. My mother says it's nice to have a friend such as himself, but since he's 17, we should avoid talking sexual or letting him come on to me, period. No if's, and's or but's about it.

What do you think? I don't see it as a huge problem because I don't think his mother will care all that much. I will definitely talk to him about it in a few minutes. I wonder what his opinion is. Anyway, he's kinda sexual online sometimes, but he says in real life, he's shy. I hope not TOO shy, cause that's my character =P

Anyway, what do you think? Should I stop chatting sexual with him? Sometimes he initiates and I just go along with it. Would you avoid this situation altogether? I'm 22 btw. I'm a May baby! ^_^

I want to know what you JUBers think. All opinions welcome (as usual)!

 

[UC3543]

I would listen to your mother. And wait until he's 18 to even talk about sexual things. Also, don't assume your friend's mother will be OK with it.

Wait until he turns 18

 

[M4P]

Listen to your mother; he's a minor until eighteen and TABOO

 

[JayHew]

I do believe 16 is the age of consent in NY, but I would suggest you check to make sure. It would be advisable to wait until he is 18, but not and he legally can give consent, well............ Just be aware, momma might not approve and could cause you a lot of grief. Just think about what you are doing and go really really slow.

 

[latinoguy19]

Listen to your mother. She seems to know what she is saying, or else she wouldn't be saying it. Once you cross into adulthood and he's hasn't, people look down on it.

So do the smart thing and wait.

 

[G-Lexington]

My brain tells me it'd be wise to hold off. Don't be surprised if he makes a very clumsy attempt to seduce you, though. If he does, it'll be up to you whether or not to respond. Definitely do check into the age of consent in your state - it doesn't matter who's doing the seducing if he's under that age.

Lex

 

[gameboy 11]

Listen to your mother. She seems to know what she is saying, or else she wouldn't be saying it. Once you cross into adulthood and he's hasn't, people look down on it.

So do the smart thing and wait.

I appreciate you giving your advice even though I dogged your singing skills. But I was only giving my opinion. =P

Thanks again, man. Appreciate it! =D

<3

 

[gameboy 11]

My brain tells me it'd be wise to hold off. Don't be surprised if he makes a very clumsy attempt to seduce you, though. If he does, it'll be up to you whether or not to respond. Definitely do check into the age of consent in your state - it doesn't matter who's doing the seducing if he's under that age.

Lex

OK, Lex. Thanks for the guidance. Part of me actually wants to give him a try, but I am probably going to wait until he's 18. Don't worry, I'll do the right thing. And we're at least 8 states away anyway. =P

 

[Shepherd 2]

There are two things I see here.
You have not really met. The flirting is a way of drawing nearer.
But the face to face still has not happened. You are not planning to fuck first to see how it goes? Wait for his 18th birthday and then propose a meeting without any sexual strings or plans.

Second, I am concerned about your pre-conceptions. Set them aside, you may have one meeting in an open place and say, get me out of here. Do not set yourself up for a tumble and disappointment.

If you think you might like him, court him and treat him the way you would want to be treated if it were he who was courting you, for I would hope he does. This is mutual. Do not be a possessive 22 year old who smothers a younger man.
Shep+

 

[gameboy 11]

There are two things I see here.
You have not really met. The flirting is a way of drawing nearer.
But the face to face still has not happened. You are not planning to fuck first to see how it goes? Wait for his 18th birthday and then propose a meeting without any sexual strings or plans.

Second, I am concerned about your pre-conceptions. Set them aside, you may have one meeting in an open place and say, get me out of here. Do not set yourself up for a tumble and disappointment.

If you think you might like him, court him and treat him the way you would want to be treated if it were he who was courting you, for I would hope he does. This is mutual. Do not be a possessive 22 year old who smothers a younger man.
Shep+

Thank you much, Shephard. You're great. I am a bit possessive and a jealous too, but I think he could handle it. April is SO f'in far...