Hi to all!

[rd13w5]

Hello, I've be here for sometime, lurking about.

I feel its time for me to contribute to the forums and to open that closet door a bit. Its a bit dark and lonely here.


Well, I just feel the need to say that I am really looking for friends and some conversation as I am single, into my 40's and a closet case. I'm not sure if I qualify for a status of gay or bi. I've struggled with that question most of my life. I am what some of you might call a fence sitter, I can see both sides of the conversation. I think that my hiding in the closet has given me a guarded side. I tend to shy away from doing things I would like to do, I have a hard time making friends (fearful of what they would think of me), and I have to lie to my family and others. The great mystery or is it the great lie? I have always been a workaholic (sp, not sure I spelled it right,its my downfall and I have a BA, ) So all of you with the red pen fetish lay off! I have a sense of humor, like hiking, biking, photography, news junkie (npr freak) , like some sports, and other things. Most things I do like to do I have set aside and just went to work. I became a 24/7 work person and still am. I had my own business for 10 years and decided to make a change. So under all the layers of baggage there is a man who is just looking for some friendships for now and who knows what later.

Well to sum this up, I hope to make some friends and start living!

 

[Bashful]

WELCOME!! I see you have been here quite a while and I am glad to see you step out and introduce yourself. I hope you find what you are looking for here. As you know we have something for everyone. I hope you will post more in the discussion forums and let us get to know you more!

 

[BrandonSBCA]

Welcome to JUB. Enjoy posting here on the boards.

 

[moonybig]

hi welcome to jub

 

[Missec]

to JUB!!!

 

[jft245]

Your story sounds alot like mine. Reading other peoples stories about coming out or staying in the closet does help. Here on JUB you will meet other people with the same struggles. Welcome.

 

[hermanding]

hi rd and congrats on entering the forum. your history is like a lotta guys. if you are really happy sitting on the fence, i suppose it can be comfortable. what do you think would cause you bajar (do i say - to leave the fence?). you'll find this situation discussed all the time in the forums. it's a major decision for sure.
glad to see you with us amigo
ding

 

[Pringle]

Hi - Thanks for the introduction. You seem like a cool person so I don't see why you should be worried about making friends.

Sounds like you may work too hard - remember life is not a money back item - you have one roll of the dice so I would recommend doing the stuff you want to. Better to regret the stuff you have done rather than the stuff you haven't.

Anyway hope you enjoy your time here and find what you are looking for.

 

[antdak]

Hello and Welcome! to one 40+ person to another. I am sure you'll find a lot of guys with the same story as yours. I hope you enjoy your time here.

 

[buzzj]

Thanks for introducing yourself! Have a good time!!

 

[mike_n_herrin]

that was a great introduction. i'm glad you decided to start posting. i think the site is great for helping folks along. some times with their "problems" or just providing you someplace to lay it out there and speak your mind. i wouldn't get hung up on labels really. if ya like both then ya like both.

i think it's amazing you have your own business, so many people would like to work on their own, but can't manage it so i give you two thumbs up for that.

anyway i hope you continue to enjoy the site.

- mikey