High-School Help

[ts1222]

Hello, i am 18 and still in high school. Today, two friends brought up that they saw gay porn a year and a half ago in the trash bin of my old computer. Why the hell they would bring that up this far past it? I don't know. Thankfully, I'm a senior and will never see them again soon. However; how should i handle this for now? I don't look at gay porn…i was curious at the time. Should i say any thing or leave it where it is? Please help, I'm really scared/worried this will go the wrong way as many guys in high school think anything with two guys is gay, however it was just curiosity that went wrong!

 

[dsh122]

As you said, you are a senior and will likely never see them again. Ignore them and move on.

 

[racer2438]

So are you saying you only looked at it back then and no longer look at it now?

And are you gay/bi/str8t/curious what? cuz not many str8t guy's come to a gay forum post a pic of a cock in their avatar and ask for advise so it's kinda confusing

I wood just leave it alone and ignore it your gone in a few months

In ur post you don't say anything about ur self.

So I left wondering...

 

[KaraBulut]

If they don't bring it up, don't mention it. If someone does ask, say "Yeah, I downloaded it and didn't know exactly what it was until I watched it". If they press the issue then ask them, "Why? Did you watch it? Did you like it?".

But in the end, if you are gay or bi, who really cares what a bunch of high school kids think?

 

[AstareGod]

I heard from someone a while back (and this is superb advice) that if you don't feel too comfortable answering a question, then ask them a question instead of answering theirs ... like if they ask you about the video, ask them "Why do you want to know? Do you want to see it?" (sort of what KaraBulut said too).

When I was back in high school, I was still super introverted and comfortable in my shell. Now six and a half years later, I'm a totally different person. If someone asked me about a video now, I'd say, so what? Am I harming anyone by watching it? Was anyone harmed in the making of it? Do I see anything wrong with it? And the answer to all three questions is NO!

I wouldn't make a big deal out of it, because you don't want to appear to everyone like you're defending what you did in the past. BUT I would do everything I could to make the other person feel uncomfortable (if that was their motive for you, to make you feel uncomfortable). Hold your head high, realize that (maybe not in high school, but the other people get, the more they are this way) the vast majority of people don't care what you do in your personal time. They'll look past that and see your noble qualities. And if I'm wrong then maybe it's the idealist inside of me talking. I search deep down within everyone I meet to find the noble and virtuous qualities they possess. I've run across maybe one or two where I can't find anything. So as long as you have great things going for you and you demonstrate it, no one will care and they'll all move on to something else.

 

[Just_Believe18]

If they don't bring it up, don't mention it. If someone does ask, say "Yeah, I downloaded it and didn't know exactly what it was until I watched it". If they press the issue then ask them, "Why? Did you watch it? Did you like it?".

But in the end, if you are gay or bi, who really cares what a bunch of high school kids think?

Hehe, good safety net advice posted here.

 

[shainski]

Listen to AstareGod and KaraBulut. Their advice is wise.

Never protest too strongly, nor deny too adamantly. (as Shakespeare put it:"The lady doth protest too much, methinks." ) It implies guilt.

Since this has already occurred, your reaction has already registered. What did you do?

If it were me, i would have answered something like. "You've got to be kidding, i can barely remember what i did yesterday. Why didn't you say something a couple of years ago?"

What this would do is make it seem like it wasn't a big deal even if it were true (which you aren't really admitting one way or the other).

 

[evanrick]

I would need more context as to why they brought it up, but it seems they are uncomfortable with the idea of you being gay. either because they are gay themselves or want to distance themselves..who knows...but turnabout is fair play...ask them if they are straight or gay or bi or what have you, put them on the spot.

but a straight forward honest answer, like, i enjoy watching penises/naked men getting it on, why dont you? will probably dumbfound your friends, as they will either appreciate your honesty or run for the hills, either way you will keep the friends you always had, or lose the friends you thought you had.

chances are your friends are simply afraid of their own shadows, they would feel more comfortable with themselves if they didnt see and feel the gayness all around them, when will it be time to find out?

 

[emirock69]

Respond with:

"A year and a half ago? I don't remember. Maybe it was in a .zip file of porn or something. You say it was in the trash, so obviously I didn't want it."


Definitely don't just ignore this if it gets brought up again. You've still got half the year left. That's a long time for a fire to spread and cause you anguish. What I wrote above should take care of the situation.