HIV exposure - ulcer in mouth, kissed someone w/ HIV - Urgent!

[hothole724]

I've been seeing someone for about 6 weeks and last night, he informed me that he was HIV+. I didn't quite know how to react because I have never dated someone that was HIV+...we haven't done anything other than kissed, but I have an ulcer on the inside of my cheek right now. Is it possible to contract HIV through kissing if an infected person's saliva enters your bloodstream via an ulcer? I also remember my gums bleeding a bit while kissing him because I have really bad gums that bleed from time to time. I know saliva can't transmit HIV, but is there a likelihood at all?

I'm just a little scared, partially because of my ignorance, but I just want people to tell me that the chances I got HIV from his are practically 0.

 

[KaraBulut]

I'm just a little scared, partially because of my ignorance, but I just want people to tell me that the chances I got HIV from his are practically 0.

You're asking for an assurance that no person can give you. However, it's highly unlikely that HIV would transmit in this manner.

You can go for testing to put your mind at ease. Unless you were already HIV+ or did something higher risk, it will be most likely be negative.

 

[nafhoosier]

There is one proven case out of 40+ million cases of HIV that involved transmission only via deep french kissing.

This occurred between two people with fresh severe bleeding wounds that exchanged blood via kissing.

They were not likely mentally sane people, and by the sounds of your post, you sound sane.

You are not likely to be the second person in the world infected this way.

Waste your time if you wish by getting tested in a month, but it will 100% be negative.

And let the Poz guy date a person who doesn't freak out about kissing. ...... Just trying to be honest.

 

[Benvolio]

We all have our varying degrees of tolerance for risk, and a low tolerance is not a bad thing. Sex will not be much fun if you worry a lot about it later. Just recognize your worry level and live within it.

 

[Irishguy66]

I've enjoyed myself immensely with men in the USA, and I mean I can count the guys in the 1000s...
I had a partner for 3 years who was HIV+ when we met, we deep kissed , fucked with condoms, and even when he was quite ill and not great looking, we had wonderful sex, up to about 6 months before he died and was too exhausted to have sex. I never got infected then, and I also loved going to the baths, video stores, cinemas and cruising all the parks in the city.
I mostly topped, but later began to bottom, safely. I was tested every 3 months and was fine. However on a trip to Puerto Rico in 2002, I allowed myself to be barebacked and within 6 months had seroconverted. Since then I've been on one pill of Atripla, and apart from being wary of disclosing my status to people, life goes on as usual.
My point is that it is very difficult to contract HIV, and from talking to many guys over the years, it seems the sure way is to be the bottom in a bareback situation. I've sucked and swallowed, deep kissed and had sex with many poz guys before I tested positive, but I'm almost certain it was the one dumb choice not to use a rubber that eventually caught me out.
Also, if you think for one moment that you have been exposed, go to the nearest STD center and get a course of antiretroviral treatment-it usually works to protect you.
So,don't worry, and re. your poz boyfriend..maybe he didn't tell you because most guys will run a mile- but it can get kinda lonely having this virus. Hope all works out OK for you both.

 

[surfutc]

Count yourself luck this time. Next time you date a guy, ask his HIV status up front. There are many liars out there, and there is no gurantee that you will get an honest answer.

 

[RaKroma]

HIV in saliva is too low to transmit, so there is no risk from kissing. Your ulcers and bleeding gums should be a concern for your general health and increased risk for STDs. When I attended a STD prevention lecture, the instructor told us that one of his friends became HIV positive while having a guy cum in his mouth when he had a canker sores. That person never engaged with anal sex with his partners. So if you have bleeding gums and sores in your mouth be aware of oral sex and having semen come in contact with fresh wounds like that. As for dating a guy with HIV, if your dating is serious, then see a HIV couples counselor to give you advice. If the guy is on the meds and his viral loads are under control, the risk of infecting others is reduced.