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Not sure how many read my other thread, so I'll give a brief outline. Got a friend I thought was gay, turned out he was. Told my girlfriend I was bi and she split with me. Been single since.

Since I have split with my girlfriend I've been getting on really well with this friend, been spending a lot of time together. Had a few "moments" where we have had a bit of a kiss and a cuddle, but usually with alcohol involved. I have feelings for him but I am not sure I want this right now. It feels like an inconvenience. He wants to go further but as I said I am not sure I want to at this moment.

For example......went out for our annual Christmas piss up on Saturday (a group of us have done it every year since we were 16, instead of presents) got taxi back to his house (live canny near so I was walking home from there) outside his house he kissed me, and i was fine with that but he then asked me to come up to bed with him, I said no I needed to get home and left. In the morning he said he couldn't remember any of it and apoligised.

I dunno what I want, but don't want to miss out on him by waiting too long. What should I do? :help:

and may I wish everyone a Merry Christmas and a Happy New Year
 
Hi there

It sounds to me like your friend is gay and wants you but only has the nerve when he's filled with liquor

If you really want this guy (for more than just sex) you might just try being a supportive friend for now. Let him know you're gay and allow him time to be comfortable with it. I'm sure, in time, he'll come around

Good luck
 
Merry Christmas and Happy New Year to you also.

As for your situation, I've read your previous threads and all I can say is this:

BONE HIM ALREADY!!! lol

If you miss out on these kinds of opportunities you'll kick yourself when you reach my age or older. I waited SOOOO long (26) till I finally got the guts to actually go fuck another guy. Even though I knew I was gay since I was like 8 years old. I was just to scared to actually go do it. I SOOOOO regret that now.

Don't make the same mistake I did. Start young, be safe, and enjoy yourself.

He sounds like a very nice guy. GO FOR IT!! :D
 
Brian_1 said:
Hi there

It sounds to me like your friend is gay and wants you but only has the nerve when he's filled with liquor

If you really want this guy (for more than just sex) you might just try being a supportive friend for now. Let him know you're gay and allow him time to be comfortable with it. I'm sure, in time, he'll come around

Good luck
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He is gay, and he knows I am bi. I am the one who needs alcohol to get any nerve, he's tried a few things on while we've both been sober but I feel like we're being watched and will be doing something wrong.
 
Dude, seriously, have a talk with him. Tell him you're interested and excited by the prospect, but are still unsure about the whole thing. Ask if you can start off slow, perhaps just kissing for awhile, and see how you feel.

Lex
 
G-Lexington said:
Dude, seriously, have a talk with him. Tell him you're interested and excited by the prospect, but are still unsure about the whole thing. Ask if you can start off slow, perhaps just kissing for awhile, and see how you feel.

Lex
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I've bottled it a few times when it has came to talking about this. And my second problem is that I love having him as a mate, this could ruin this, so is it worth it?
 
>>>And my second problem is that I love having him as a mate, this could ruin this, so is it worth it?

Again, this is something you should talk with him about. "I think you're an amazing friend, and I'm worried that getting physical could jeopardize that."

Lex
 
eat-my-goal said:
Not sure how many read my other thread, so I'll give a brief outline. Got a friend I thought was gay, turned out he was. Told my girlfriend I was bi and she split with me. Been single since.

Since I have split with my girlfriend I've been getting on really well with this friend, been spending a lot of time together. Had a few "moments" where we have had a bit of a kiss and a cuddle, but usually with alcohol involved. I have feelings for him but I am not sure I want this right now. It feels like an inconvenience. He wants to go further but as I said I am not sure I want to at this moment.

For example......went out for our annual Christmas piss up on Saturday (a group of us have done it every year since we were 16, instead of presents) got taxi back to his house (live canny near so I was walking home from there) outside his house he kissed me, and i was fine with that but he then asked me to come up to bed with him, I said no I needed to get home and left. In the morning he said he couldn't remember any of it and apoligised.

I dunno what I want, but don't want to miss out on him by waiting too long. What should I do? :help:
and may I wish everyone a Merry Christmas and a Happy New Year
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This is your first point of reference. You want to decide, what is it that YOU WANT to start with. Once you have made up your mind, go and talk with him and carry on with your plans.

SC
 
G-Lexington said:
>>>And my second problem is that I love having him as a mate, this could ruin this, so is it worth it?

Again, this is something you should talk with him about. "I think you're an amazing friend, and I'm worried that getting physical could jeopardize that."

Lex
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Gunna have a talk to him tonight (if i can buck up the courage), staying over at his after going to the pub because his mam and dad are away and wont let him stay by himself. I mentioned to him that we need to have a talk this afternoon whilst at cinema with some mates (saw I am Legend, quality fillum by the way) and he agreed and said he wants to get some stuff off his chest anarl.

Cheers for the help fellas
 
Hey Eats! Hope you had a great Christmas!

Good that you had a talk with him then!

All I was going to say is...follow your heart. Somethings are worth the risk. But hopefully talking to him, has cleared up some of the issues. Keep us updated!
 
screwnutty said:
Hey Eats! Hope you had a great Christmas!

Good that you had a talk with him then!

All I was going to say is...follow your heart. Somethings are worth the risk. But hopefully talking to him, has cleared up some of the issues. Keep us updated!
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cheers, i had a great crimbo like.

the talk was good, he said that if time was all i needed i should've said something earlier and that he is willing to wait a while. He said he was relieved because he thought i didn't like him in that way. :D
 
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