Hookup Tommorow

[Stoopid]

I'm planning to hookup with a guy tomorrow that I met on facebook. I found out that he lied about his name, which he admits. I also found a picture of him, but I don't even know if that's him. Should I go through with it? I'm still a virgin. The sexual side of me wants too, considering the fact that I've paid so much money to go to this college and I'm not having that much fun, but the nonsexual side of me doesn't, considering the value of my chastity. But is my virginity really that important? I'm not much of a religious person.

I'm also paranoid about contracting stds, so I'm definitely using condoms. Is kissing very risky? How about wearing condoms while giving blowjobs: is simply wrapping the condom around the head sufficient? I don't want to put the condom on the entire penis while giving head.

Heck, I'm one of the last persons anyone would expect to be hooking up with strangers.

 

[Fiorino]

I don't feel that your first sexual experience should be this one, it already sounds suspect, and, you sound like you have some strong negative feelings. Don't take a chance and turn what could be an exciting rewarding time inot a disater that will make you gun shy from now out.

 

[123kid]

at this point in your life, if you have this many questions and concerns maybe you should error on the side or caution. Take a little more time to inform yourself for your own safety. Mentally and physically!!

 

[mike_n_herrin]

Speaking from some experience, and i know this is going to sound lame, but in the future you will wish your first time was better than just a hook up. i think. i would cancel it. then spend more time here in the forum getting your questions answered and getting some feed back. the folks in this forum are wonderful people and are very supportive and you'll get great advise.

honestly, i would wait on your first time. this one doesn't sound right to me, you really need to be able to trust the person you are with. your first time maybe even more so.

 

[Stoopid]

Thanks for the replies!

Well, I masterbate pretty often, so I dont feel that having sex with another person would feel terribly different. A part of me doesn't feel that the first time is all that since I've been overly exposed to porn. I'm moreso afraid of becoming emotionally attached.

I just hope he's attractive and hiv/std free. Definitely being latexed.

 

[tallguy297]

Hey Stoopid,

The struggle you are having is a pretty normal one, especially if you feel like you are forcing things and rushing things. So I have a question... why are you?

Having sex (despite some claims to the contrary) isnt a religious experience... and losing your virginity is your choice. Theres no right or wrong way to go about this mate... it wont change the way you walk or talk or think once you've been with a guy for the first time.

But for me Stoopid, you need to be at peace with your decision. You need to be calm and 100% ready. It is an important decision in the sense that you chose to make yourself completely vulnerable to another person, its a time in your life that you will look back on.

For a lot of guys, the first time sets the scene for how they feel about intimacy and sex. If your nature is to be a caring nurturing emotional guy then to be honest thats how your first time should be. You should be true to yourself in this, so you feel relaxed and confident. And if that means waiting until you find someone you care about or know better than so be it.

Theres no race to win in losing your virginity. Theres no prizes for passing this test. You alone carry around your memories and experiences... so you alone have the right to make them the way you REALLY want them to be.

Stoopid, this mate is about you. What you want and how you feel. Take your time, think it through and get it right for you. Trust me there will be plenty of opportunities to hook up with guys... you dont have to grab the first one that comes along. If you are unsure wait and find the guy that you know, that you trust and that maybe you even have feelings for. Because the one thing I do know is that sex goes to a whole new level when theres emotional involvement as well as physical.

Having said all that mate... if it feels right with this guy by all means go for it. Kissing is not really that risky at all unless one of you is bleeding which is petty unlikely... if you feel more comfortable with a condom for blow jobs (good call really mate until you are with someone you know implicitly and trust with all your heart) then roll it all the way down. Otherwise chances are in the heat of the moment you will end up with a mouth full of rubber.... and really that can make an unromantic act pretty cool in case you are ready to go further later on... he's already covered up.

Trust in your own judgment Stoopid. Its ok to say no and for this not to be the right time. But if it is, relax, dont feel pressured and have a good time!

 

[sixthson]

If anyone is NOT ready to have sex tomorrow, it's you.

Desperation and sex are a bad combination.

 

[Eagle653]

Hi there. There's nothing wrong with meeting up with someone from FaceBook, or any place else. Because people lie about so many things on the Internet, though, it's smart to use some common-sense precautions. Chief among these, is to meet initially in a public place, like a coffee shop, restaurant, shopping mall, or bar. Then, size him up. Is he sane? Were his pictures true? Are you attracted to him?

If ANYTHING seems amiss, trust your instincts and call it off. Just do it. Don't worry about feelings, or offending someone. All you have to say is "I was nice meeting you, but I don't want to do anything, or go home with you. Sorry. See ya later."

Second, since you're a virgin, you might want to not fuck the first time out, or at least until you get to know someone much better than you do. Even if you are attracted to this guy, when you meet, and everything seems on the up-and-up, you don't have to fuck to have a good time. You can get naked, jack off, suck, and all sorts of things other than that. If you're spooked about the Big Nasty, then have it in your mind that you're not going to do that just now. Most gay encounters like this don't involve actual fucking, anyway.

Good luck!

 

[Yuki Sohma]

Well, since you asked & judging from your JUB profile & reading about your apprehensions-----------I say you might want to take a 2nd look at your decision to meet tomorrow-----------you sound like a great person with a great personality-----------& I am confident that you will make someone a fantastic partner------good luck -----------
Yuki​

 

[moschj]

Take a look at these responses from a bunch of guys with more experience - this is not for you! Casual sex the first time is OK, but not if you have this many misgivings. Be patient, and you'll find someone better suited for this with you. You'll enjoy it more if you wait a little longer!

 

[Ramindra]

Hi there. There's nothing wrong with meeting up with someone from FaceBook, or any place else. Because people lie about so many things on the Internet, though, it's smart to use some common-sense precautions. Chief among these, is to meet initially in a public place, like a coffee shop, restaurant, shopping mall, or bar. Then, size him up. Is he sane? Were his pictures true? Are you attracted to him?

If ANYTHING seems amiss, trust your instincts and call it off. Just do it. Don't worry about feelings, or offending someone. All you have to say is "I was nice meeting you, but I don't want to do anything, or go home with you. Sorry. See ya later."

Second, since you're a virgin, you might want to not fuck the first time out, or at least until you get to know someone much better than you do. Even if you are attracted to this guy, when you meet, and everything seems on the up-and-up, you don't have to fuck to have a good time. You can get naked, jack off, suck, and all sorts of things other than that. If you're spooked about the Big Nasty, then have it in your mind that you're not going to do that just now. Most gay encounters like this don't involve actual fucking, anyway.

Good luck!

I support Averageguy's comments above, particularly his comments in para 2. Meet the guy in public by all means. If you have one single doubt about having anything more than that meeting, say sorry and go home. Don't feel pressured or as though you have to be intimate with the guy.

 

[Stoopid]

Well, I'm proud to say that I canceled our plans. He just seemed way too sketchy and I didn't like how he randomly IMed me asking for a hookup. I've realized that my standards are way to high to go through with it.

On a lighter note, I'm meeting up with a guy who I've known for a while that I genuinely like. My attraction for him has faded, but maybe that can rekindle somehow. I'm terrible at finding boyfriends.

Thanks again everyone for the useful advice!

 

[Ohiospeedo]

Just make sure in the future that you meet guys in public first to make sure that they are real. Lots of assholes out there who use fake pics, and then think that it will be ok when they come over.

 

[bluedragon4]

18 is hard no matter what you do. Most of us had an awful first time. Take your time, even though I'm sure you are as horny as can be, and let it be more natural. Those forced situations will only leave a bad taste in your mouth when they are over. No pun intended.

 

[Croynan]

Hi there. There's nothing wrong with meeting up with someone from FaceBook, or any place else. Because people lie about so many things on the Internet, though, it's smart to use some common-sense precautions. Chief among these, is to meet initially in a public place, like a coffee shop, restaurant, shopping mall, or bar. Then, size him up. Is he sane? Were his pictures true? Are you attracted to him?

If ANYTHING seems amiss, trust your instincts and call it off. Just do it. Don't worry about feelings, or offending someone. All you have to say is "I was nice meeting you, but I don't want to do anything, or go home with you. Sorry. See ya later."

Second, since you're a virgin, you might want to not fuck the first time out, or at least until you get to know someone much better than you do. Even if you are attracted to this guy, when you meet, and everything seems on the up-and-up, you don't have to fuck to have a good time. You can get naked, jack off, suck, and all sorts of things other than that. If you're spooked about the Big Nasty, then have it in your mind that you're not going to do that just now. Most gay encounters like this don't involve actual fucking, anyway.

Good luck!

great posting. pay attention to it.​

eM.

 

[KaraBulut]

It's good that you canceled the hookup.

Your first time shouldn't be with a suspicious stranger that you've never even met. It shouldn't sound like something to "just get over with"- like the SAT, a trip to the dentist or eating broccoli.

There's a lot of people randomly messaging other people for hookups. There's usually a reason why they are trolling the internet looking for some body, anybody to have sex with. And there's usually a reason that they would have a fake picture.

You deserve better than to be someone's random hookup for the night.

It's much better to go through a normal dating process where you get to know someone, feel attracted to them, kiss, hold hands, talk, cuddle and work through the process of getting comfortable with someone before you jump into bed with them.