How can 2 top guys be in a relationship?

[diunaylomo]

Relationships aren't all about sex, but sex is a large part of it. In your opinion, do you think two top guys be together? If you're in a relationship or been part of a relationship like this, what are your thoughts?

 

[Seasoned]

It might be easier than two bottoms. While every gay person is entitled to his preference I think more ought to be done within the community to discuss versatility. It seems a shame that gays wouldn't take advantage of all that is offered or possible. Back in the 70s I'd hear the questions, "who's the man" and "who's the woman in the relationship?"

 

[bankside]

I don't know if it is possible. I'm versatile and could not be in a relationship with a top or a bottom unless there was some kind of medical reason that was stopping them from being versatile.

 

[syoBsUtsuJ]

A long, long time ago in a galaxy far, far away I met the hottest guy while attending uni. Although, we didn't have any classes together, I do vividly remember noticing him on and about campus. Although not of legal age, I did get hired as a bar-back at local gay club, and much to my delight he walked in one night, and my heart skipped a beat. Long story shorter: we exchanged phone numbers and started dating shortly thereafter.

Both of us had our first (and only) bottoming experience with individuals that were well-endowed (mine: 9.5", his: 11") and had (at that time) vowed never to bottom again for anyone. Well, we tried to make a go of it with just oral and "fucking" between the legs, but invariably both of us wanted each others' man's pussy, and neither of us were willing to assume that particular role of being the bottom. We both drunkenly tried on separate occasions to placate the other, but the discomfort of bottoming inevitably ruled out that particular scenario. We parted on good terms and remained friends that enjoyed giving head to one another throughout our remaining 3 years together before both of us moved on to other universities.

Surprisingly enough, both of us years later have become top/versatile while in LTRs, but at that young age we were too obstinate and set in our ways to even try. He is now in a loving gay marriage in Maryland working as a civilian contractor for the Navy, and we maintain correspondence to this day. I guess it all boils down to what one is willing to compromise to make the relationship work. With love - all things are possible.

 

[mostlytopvolcano14]

They like/love each other.

 

[treeri]

Shouldn't be an issue to find a bottom.

Ratio of top to bottom is almost 1:500

 

[PhunkSpunk]

The late Gore Vidal said the only reason why he and his partner of 50+ years lasted as long as they did is that they never had sex. This arrangement left them free to cultivate an intellectual intimacy, a "marriage of true minds" at last, not at once.

The great potential problem with 'gay marriage' as I see it is falling into the trap of allowing the heterosexual paradigm to define/confine relationships between men in terms of conjugal fidelity. As we don't procreate, there's no rationale for us to do this. "To have the same law for the Lion & the Ox is oppression" as William Blake said.

As was mentioned above bottoms outnumber tops. Provided you're both hot, I don't think you'll have any problems finding cute boys who want to get tagged.

 

[Rolyo85]

I dated another top for a year. We flipped around. Bottoming IS fun, even if it's not your default setting. And frankly, unless you have some physiological problem, versatility is key

 

[dragon08]

I enjoy being versatile but like a lot of guys have mentioned I wouldn't really date someone who is an absolutely bottom, or total top

 

[hollywooder18]

My ex boyfriend and I both met and were both tops. We knew this fact right off the bat but honestly we really clicked and fell in love, so we vowed to make it work. What started as the two of us both being willing to try for the other person, turned into me being the only one trying to bottom. One night we were fooling around and all of the pain just went away instantaneously and my boyfriend had found out that I had given bottoming a try in the past. So for the rest of our 1+ year of dating, I was the bottom and my boyfriend was the top, despite my many attempts to switch it up. It was frustrating that he was unwilling to try but it never led to any big arguments, over time though our sex life fizzled, as did our relationship and we ended up splitting up and I moved out of our apartment. Overall it wasn't a bad relationship but we don't speak too often anymore.