How did we EVER survive?

[Kessel]

Ok, so I have a little cousin, who is a Sophmore in high school. We both are gay, and we know it. He's going through a time right now, asking me how we EVER survived a little thing called high school.

I mean, man, It's hard. You always hafta be on the watch, i mean, watching the moves you make. Making sure you act "straight" or at least hide the fact that your checking out the football team and not the cheerleaders. I just graduated and it was hard.

I just tell him to be careful, and tell him to avoid some mistakes i made. I always tell him also to just have fun, and not always give himself a hard time. He wants a boyfriend bad, he likes the idea of having someone to tell everything to and cuddle and stuff. I guess i'm having trouble helping him

How did we EVER survive?

 

[Blktiger58]

Being Careful that's how we survived. That is all I can think of. It's not safe out there.. We must use our head.

 

[luminum]

I guess by being really good liars. I did come out by the end of my Junior year and I was fine and everyone else was fine with it. I think the people who had a problem were too put off by the fact that I was fine with my sexuality to make any comments or figure out how to deal with me and everyone else didn't care or was supportive.

Sometimes people surprise you.

 

[SilverRRCloud]

In retrospect, going through hard times either makes you or breaks you.

Once you realize that your life can be turned into a living hell just for the fun and joy of the others, you start planning and mapping out and strategizing, all in order to make sure that you stay at the top of the game.

I excelled at school, started working very early, aced it through the college and was beefing up my assets in every respect. At some point of time, I left all the possible detractors far behind me with their unpaid mortgages and dental bills and shaky jobs.

At times, I was sure that I was overdoing the good thing. But I was not. Once the going got really rough, most competitors vanished and I thrived.

So, we survived and learned. That was the very good part about it.

SC

 

[bluedragon4]

I came out at 15 to my family and got outed at my school. But I had a lot of friends and a lot of good times. I even started going to gay bars at 15. I was able to get in cause I had a straight friend whose brother was gay and worked on some sorta shows for several gay bars. Strippers were totally nude when I came out and I would put my whole allowance in there boots. 1st time I touched a cock(on someone other than my cousin).I did get called fag at school but the football players still seemed to like me for some reason. I had some great times.But that was the late 80's, early 90's. School is violent now and everyone wants to live the "hard" life. I blame the music. Now I sound my age. lol

 

[Shepherd 2]

Being Careful that's how we survived. That is all I can think of. It's not safe out there.. We must use our head.

That was my experience fifty-two years ago.
Things are still in many ways not changed.
A saying puts it this way,
"The more things change, the more thay stay the same."
Shep+

 

[Kessel]

Yeah...it's like a minefield!!

And I always checked out the Football team haha....
so
BEAUGHTIFUL!!!!

God high school sucks....well for me it did lol

 

[Ryuukie]

Frankly, I wasn't there a lot of the time. Somehow I managed to graduate.

 

[gameboy 11]

Luck and prayer, I guess. I've had many, MANY days in high school when I didn't give a rat's f'in ass if I died or not - there was so many mindless, senseless judging going on, it was hard to keep track of who was real, and was gonna blow you off the next day.

I was very emotional then, and although I had a hell of a lot of connections, or people who were on my side, I still felt very alone in my situation. Smiling at people, but not feeling a thing. Looking into their eyes, but feeling as empty as can be. Not feeling that I was good enough, or worthy of many things. But something, which is still a mystery, kept me going - maybe it was music, maybe it was faith, hell, maybe it was my strength. But I'll tell you this:

11th grade (track and field failures) and senior year, 12th (outcasted, and felt alone and segregated) were the HARDEST time in my life!

I finally got the guts to come out as SOON as I got out of high school. Me, my cuz, his girl and a few friends all around the same time, just accepted that we took more than a few peeks at people of the same sex. A year or so later, I was GAY! And it felt good. I felt like I could crawl into my own skin and sleep there a while. I was liberated...

I don't really know what else to say:

Faith, Deep touching music/lyrics and writing really got me through these tough years. I hope you let your gay cousin read this...I put blood, sweat and a few tears into this post!

Just find friends that accept you for you, invest in a CD player/mp3 player, and lighten up sometimes - there are tons of people out there, in the same school, going through the same ish that you are going though. Many of them don't have a clue what their next move should be, but you could...well, maybe...- figure it out together!