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How did you tell your parents?

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Uh, my aunt and uncle found the remnants of porn on their computer, called my parents, my parents called me to their room, basically asked me if I knew if someone else had used the computer, but I told them the truth and they were very very unhappy. Kind of embarrassing.
 
I told them I went to the Triangle Club.
They said, "I thought that was a gay club."
I said, "Yyeeeahhh...?" as if to say "Duh?"

Lex
 
My father passed away when I was 18, and he never knew I was gay. I told my mom when I was 20 that I was gay. I wish I could say she was immediately accepting and understanding, but she wasnt. Over the years though she has become very accepting, and we have a great relationship now.
 
We were having a heated argument about something and i just blurted it out :O
 
They told me, when I was 13 or 14, and I was less aware of it than they were. They thought by confronting me with it then that I would be able to change, but that didn't happen. I think it was my grandmother (my mother's mother) who said to me, "Do you want to grow up to be homosexual?" She said this because I never wanted to go places with my father and preferred the company of female relatives and their domestic activities. I wore dresses when I was four to eight years old (in play time), and I played with dolls instead of "boy" toys. I was extremely effeminate as a child, but as I get older, I am becoming more masculine or androgynous. By the time I was 21, I had lost a lot of my feminine characteristics and was able to express my masculine side, but that had no effect on my sexual preference, which was for effeminate men. It took me quite a while before I was able to relate to masculine men - possibly because of resentment toward my father for his trying to repress my "feminine" expressions.
 
If you do not figure it out until you are nearly fifty,
it may be academic, for my father was dead, and my mother
was in a fog brought on by a stroke.

They loved me and I have to believe that woud have loved
me no less, but make no mistake it would have been a huge challenge for both.

For me it was my wife of 26 years and my grown children. They are now in a good
place with my decision to come out. It too was a big challenge.
Shep+
 
I was living with my boyfriend (who I wasn't really in love with anymore, but I felt I had no right to leave---but that's another story). He kept pushing the idea for us to buy a house together. (never happened). So, I thought I should at least bring up the subject of us house hunting to my parents:
"A house? Together? John, are you um...and Keith, um, are you.....gay?"
(me starting to cry) "um...yeah. I'm sorry! (me almost bawling by now) Please don't hate me!"
"We don't hate you. we love you"
"I wanted to tell you sooner, but I didn't know how"


"Well,....John...we aren't stupid......."


Yeah, they had kind of figured it out already.....:rolleyes:
 
I left a note for my parents. I know, I know...it's a copout, but I never talk to my parents about anything other than money and academics. (Such is the archetypal relationship in Chinese families...)

Sadly, my dad came into my room after having read it and lectured me on how I don't have enough friends that are girls. But unbeknownst to him (and possibly unfortunately for me), I only have friends that are girls.
 
I told my mom in the most awful way possible. I was 17. My father had died a month before. I was high. I was talking my damn ass off. I blurted it out as if I was talking about the weather. She was crushed from my father's death and then I handed her a new worry. I regret that day very much.
 
I found out in 2003, I was Gay. I came out to my friends online that year... then my friend kristin she just knew I was. Then I told my dad(stepdad) that I was gay, and from what he said in a calm vocie.. to use protection.. and in that calm voice it was quiet.. like it was a bit of unhappiness

I told my mom, the next year in '04. She was unhappy a bit, still is... She doesnt mention to anyone.. like its a "secret" My brother(stepbrother) saw my myspace, and called my dad and I could tell he was keeping it quiet... used that dame voice with him.. so I would not hear it...

i did it, and it was good.. and everyone knows I am out and proud...

my parents should ssccept more.. but they don't they never talked to me about it or anything so they know its nonee of their business.. but oh well..
 
In 7th grade my parents found some pictures of guys in underwear under my bed that I stole from magazines and advertisements when they decided to buy me a new mattress one day without telling me! They waited until after the quarterly grades were in to confront me about it (they didn't want my grades to suffer). So they told me to get rid of those pictures and they weren't going to mention it to anyone else in the family and it would be never mentioned again among the 3 of us either.

So of course that fucked me up for the rest of high school, too afraid to come out, so i got a girlfriend to prove i wasnt gay since my parents were obviously dissappointed. Senior year I came out as bi (its always easier, lol :p) to a few close friends. But then at the begining of summer i decided to drop the charade and came out as gay to those same friends.

And I know its kinda a cop out, but I didnt tell my parents coz i was uneasy about that incident in 7th grade... so I changed my Facebook and Myspace to show me as gay. My mom gets on facebook alot and only to talk to me when im at college since she knows i use it. So im pretty sure she knows. She also seemed to be a little more huggy and supportive (in general) this past summer. So she might know.

And yes, I know I have to actually physically tell them, i jsut figured this would be a way to soften the blow or test the waters based on what happened in 7th grade.
 
Let's see...I was 18 and the whole family was having dinner. I just kinda blurted out that I was gay, and that I was moving to Boston for my new job. Neither one went over so well at first. I think everyone was shocked, and didn't know what to say, but after a little while things settled down, and now they have no problems with it.
 
I called my parents and told them I needed to talk to them. I drove up that Saturday morning. We sat on the patio, and I just came out and told them. I think I had a harder time with telling them than they had hearing it. I drove to my brother's shortly after that and told him and my sister-in-law. I figured they all needed to hear it directly from me, and I just wanted to get it over with as quickly as possible. Then I drove home and didn't want to answer the telephone or see anyone. I was a basket-case for the rest of the weekend. For two days I just wanted to crawl back into that safe, comfortable closet I had been in for most of my life and undo everything. By Monday, I started to feel like a weight had been lifted off my shoulders, like for the first time in my life I wasn't living a lie, pretending to be something I'm not.
 
sadly I am not out to my parent yet, they sort of getting the hint but then they warn me,, they told me "you better be not gay" and my mom's alway pissed off when i defend gay. She warn me i better not be gay or dont ever talk to her ever again. So it's sort of scare me, but most of my friend know me as bisexual because I dont really know what is my sexuality yet.
 
Best way is face to face

I came out to my mother in 93 and my father in 97 and it was the best thing I ever did.
 
I took my mother out to dinner and explained to her that my "roommate" and I were more than roommates.

My partner explained to his parents that he wanted to share something with them so as to not create a divide, and to enable them to know the real him...that he wanted them to be a genuine part of his life, and to do that, they needed to know who he was and who was in his life (me).

It worked out great in both instances. In fact, our parents do things socially together without us now.
 
After coming to terms with it myself and telling my friends in September, 2002, I spent the next few months just getting used to the idea that I was gay and comfortable with it. I thought it would be a good idea to tell my mother. So, in March of 2003, I wrote her a letter and told her. She wrote me another letter and was really supportive. However, emotionally, I wasn't really ready to come out to her. She wanted to talk about, but I could never bring myself to do it. Now, over four years later, it's still never been mentioned. She knows I'm gay and I know she knows I'm gay. It's an unspoken fact. For some reason, I'm still really uncomfortable with my mother when it comes to anything even related to me being gay.

I never told anyone else in my family. My father died last year without knowing, but I don't think he would have taken it very well anyway. My sister probably would react badly at first, but then get over it and be fine. My extended family has a lot of narrow-minded people (the "I have no problem with gay people, but why do they HAVE to be so flamboyant about it?" kinds of people), and frankly, I don't think it's any of their business.
 
How can someone be caught for traces of gay porn on their computer?!?!?!

Amateurs! It's called DELETING history.


Well, I am not out to my parents yet. I did, however, come out to my brother a few weeks ago. this was a huge step for me.

And everyone else that knows me knows that I am gay. So I think I'm doing pretty good for just turning 18.
 
I decided I was going to do it on July 30. We were watching the premier of Saving Grace. On the commercial, I made my parents turn the TV off so we could talk. They never saw it coming.
I told them I had something I needed to talk to them about. "I'm gay." My parents tried to talk me out of it. My mom didn't talk to me for three days. Before I went to college, my mom and I fought 5 times in 2 days. It was awful.

Since then, my sister has gotten engaged. My sister has caused such a fuss over the upcoming wedding that my mother had no choice but to revert back to her old soundbox--me. My sister's drama has brought me back into my mother's good graces. I'm seeing this guy right now and I haven't told my parents. I think I'll let sleeping dogs lie for now...
 
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