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CochondeMontreal

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I've never had a boyfriend. I'm in my mid-thirties and I feel like I've missed out on youth and all those wonderful coming of age stories about first love, etc. I suppose someone would argue that because I 'gave it away' too soon, Gita don't stick around.


My problem I guess is that I'm really horny, I have a strong libido and I love sex. From the time I discovered a bathhouse at 18, to the wonders of the internet in my 20's, i'm a really horny guy. But for whatever reason guys don't like me. I think i'm a nice guy, affectionate, compassionate. I am university educated, I try to be a good person. But guys never like me. I've been told often that I'm handsome, but I don't understand why guys don't like me.

I wish I could meet a guy that I could explore, have regular sex with, etc. I don't care how much a guy earns, whether or not he's good looking according to other people's idea of good looking.

I've tries okcupid but no one was interested in me. I don't know how to
Meet guys or where to meet them. I think I'll probably die and never have a boyfriend. When I meet guys they tell me they had a good time with me but they make excuses to never see me again. Always like this.
 
All the guys I've ever dated I fucked pretty much immediately. I didn't meet any of them in a bathhouse however, I suspect that guys in bathhouses aren't there for the long term potential, and that's fine.

How do I meet guys? Out, through friends, at parties, in the course of daily life. Being horny has nothing to do with finding a compatible guy, go out, have a good time. There is no reason you can't have dick while looking for a relationship. These things are not
mutually exclusive.
 
Forgot, what are you doing to be someone else's Mr. Right. Attraction is a two way thing, you have to be attracted, but you also need to make yourself the best you, you can be.

I'd start there, whatever your ideal for you is, have a good time, and work yourself towards that goal.
 
I guess my question would be why do you think guys don't like you? If you really don't know....take a guess or what did you think it "
might" be?

Also...is your desire to have a boyfriend based on sex (and I don't think there is anything wrong with that)......or is it something more?

Do you want a boyfriend because you think you should have one?...or because you genuinely want one? Would you give up casual sex if you had one?...or find someone who is OK with it?

Also...you mentioned a lot of qualities... and I believe you..but everyone has bad qualities as well. Are you aware of any of these? For instance...I can be a total pain in the ass and difficult to deal with....do you have any qualities that might not be stellar?

Sorry...I have to ask questions to get a better picture....
 
CochondeMontreal said:
...I'm in my mid-thirties and I feel like I've missed out on youth and all those wonderful coming of age stories about first love, etc. I suppose someone would argue that because I 'gave it away' too soon...

...guys never like me. I've been told often that I'm handsome, but I don't understand why guys don't like me.

I wish I could meet a guy that I could explore, have regular sex with, etc. I don't care how much a guy earns, whether or not he's good looking according to other people's idea of good looking...
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Reading your post, there's two things that stick out: it's difficult to pinpoint what you're looking for and why you believe people "don't like you".

You've mentioned sex as something you want from a guy but what kind of emotional commitment are you looking for- a friend with benefits, a no-strings-attached fuckbuddy or a boyfriend? Perhaps it doesn't matter to you which of these you want but it does matter to other people, so you do need to give some thought to what your expectations are. In short, if you're looking for an NSA fuckbuddy, you can use Grindr/Growlr to find someone but can't have a lot of expectations about the other person. On the other hand, if you're looking for something more serious, then you will be looking for a more specific type of person and you need to spend more time meeting people and getting to know them.

When you say that people don't like you, are you saying that guys don't approach you and show interest? Are you saying that you go on first dates but you don't get a lot of second dates? Or do guys clearly reject you saying, "No"?
 
Just a quick question. Do you like yourself?
 
Seasoned said:
Just a quick question. Do you like yourself?
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This is a good point. Be yourself and live your life. If you have a good level of self confidence, the mates will follow. Be that guy that is fun to be around. Be that guy who has the best time at the party. Don't think too hard about it. If you can go home and be horny for yourself, then you will attract other like minded individuals. Good luck!
 
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