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How do I calibrate my gaydar?

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I'm gay but as far as I know I don't have a gaydar. Is there some way to get one or do I just have to go to meeting places specifically designated for gay people?
 
Do you have any gay friends? Do you oft hang out where other gays go - not necessarily gay bars, but the gay section of town, things like that?

Lex
 
lol i'm pretty sure Jim Halpert knows where to order one.... Dwight should be getting it in the mail soon


LOVE THE OFFICE!!!!

but seriously, just keep your eye out for who's checkin you out and what not...
 
It's all in the eyes for me. There's just something about the stare that gives them out. It's just a mini fraction of a second that seals the deal lol. Just, explore your own self, see what responses you get from looking at guys. I don't mean stare at them for hours on end, just, glance and if they look back, you can just tell if they took the time to look for something more or not. Usually if they didn't they're straight lol.
 
I've noticed that I can read faces, and tell if a person is gay with about 80% accuracy. For me, it's the eyebrows, shape of the eyes and jawline.

Of course, that's just from a still photo. If it's IRL, then I can usually tell by the way they walk; I saw a stock boy at Wal*mart that I swore was giving me signals, but I ignored my better judgment. About a week later, I see the guy and I knew right away that he was 100% gay because he had adopted the "Bottom's Walk". Sure enough, other gay people in the area confirmed that he was in fact gay. Meanwhile, his co-workers, friends and family still had no idea.


/cool story, bro.
 
Hang around a lot of people that you already know are gay and hope that your subconcious picks up similarities?
 
It's a psychic ability, and you weren't born with it. Hang out with these amazing gay Kreskins long enough and eventually you'll start being right 1-10 times out of every 100 times you guess.

Are you looking for sex only? Because this modern idea of a gay sixth sense evolved from cruising for sex back in the day. There are lots of places you can go to have instant anonymous sex and its pretty easy to figure out who's there for sex and who's not.

But if you're looking for potential dates or boyfriends, it's more tricky. I live in a town with a lot of hot, stylish guys (and ladies) and guys are always checking each other out - sometimes checking out each others' clothes, sometimes bodies and faces and physical features. It doesn't mean they are all gay. I'm sure some of them are bi, but men look at other men the same way straight women look at other straight women, comparing themselves, appreciating uniqueness and beauty, etc. It's just more socially acceptable now. It does not equal sexual attraction.

Count yourself lucky that you don't think everyone who makes eye contact with you is gay! It will save you a lot of trouble.

The best way to meet other gay guys is through friends, because there's a better chance you'll have a lot in common. Then there's the internet, clubs, gay bars, certain classes/workshops which will attract gay/bi men, etc.

Good luck! You don't need gaydar to be a happy gay.
 
Nomenclature said:
I've noticed that I can read faces, and tell if a person is gay with about 80% accuracy. For me, it's the eyebrows, shape of the eyes and jawline.

Of course, that's just from a still photo. If it's IRL, then I can usually tell by the way they walk; I saw a stock boy at Wal*mart that I swore was giving me signals, but I ignored my better judgment. About a week later, I see the guy and I knew right away that he was 100% gay because he had adopted the "Bottom's Walk". Sure enough, other gay people in the area confirmed that he was in fact gay. Meanwhile, his co-workers, friends and family still had no idea.


/cool story, bro.
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What is the "Bottom's Walk?"
 
Whether there is such a thing as gaydar I am not willing to debate. But more important is your serendipity.

When I was growing up there was not such a thing as radar or gaydar; and,nobody wanted to be thought of as anything less than a "regular guy."

As one of those "regular guys" I bonded in friendship with the new guy in town; we were both 15. Soon we were more than just friends and as such we needed to find ways to show our affection for each other. One day, thanks to the zone of privacy at his home, the sex just happened and it seemed so very natural and so right.

The opening was there and we were both smart enough to dare to move into a whole new dimension of friendship which we did not expect. It was the beginning of a wonderful two year relationship. Neither of us expected that ours would become the loving sexual relationship it was. AND WE DID NOT STOP THINKING OF OURSELVES AS ANYTHING BUT REGULAR GUYS.

Cultivate genuine friendship and when it becomes sexual don't panic. The sex confirms the bond that exists between persons; it also strengthens that bond. Of course, most friendships do not ever have a sexual element, but they are still important.

I had three male partners , all in long term relationships. I loved them then and I love them still. Casual sex is not likely to make for loving and lasting relationships; loving relationships IMHO do set the stage for fantastic sex which only gets better with each sexual confirmation.
 
G-Lexington said:
Do you have any gay friends? Do you oft hang out where other gays go - not necessarily gay bars, but the gay section of town, things like that?

Lex
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Uh, I don't think we have a gay section of town, but I'm sure there are some venues.

I honestly don't know where to start. I want a real relationship but I want sex as well. Most of the obvious resources are sex-only. I suppose more things will open up the more I come out?
 
Xzilla7 said:
Uh, I don't think we have a gay section of town, but I'm sure there are some venues.

I honestly don't know where to start. I want a real relationship but I want sex as well. Most of the obvious resources are sex-only. I suppose more things will open up the more I come out?
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LOL! I have the same problem. I was looking for the sign on the lawn with a bunch of gay guys just standing around, but found none.

I also don't want "just sex". I'm joining a gay scuba club this spring/summer. I always wanted to get certified, and the idea of finding clubs with activities is a good one. So yeah, just have to get out there and meet people. ..|
 
>>>I suppose more things will open up the more I come out?

Boy, I could take this all sorts of places. :) But yes, they will. In the closet, you tend to be so worried about whether somebody will think YOU're gay ("I'd better not look at him head on, or he'll think I'm checking him out") that you won't be able to get a good bead on other people. Once you let that part go, it gets easier.

Is there a larger town nearby that DOES have a gay section of town?

Lex
 
I'm not sure about gay specifically, but Ybor probably has something. Other than that the only one I can think of is Orlando, but that's not close by.
 
Nomenclature said:
I've noticed that I can read faces, and tell if a person is gay with about 80% accuracy. For me, it's the eyebrows, shape of the eyes and jawline.

Of course, that's just from a still photo. If it's IRL, then I can usually tell by the way they walk; I saw a stock boy at Wal*mart that I swore was giving me signals, but I ignored my better judgment. About a week later, I see the guy and I knew right away that he was 100% gay because he had adopted the "Bottom's Walk". Sure enough, other gay people in the area confirmed that he was in fact gay. Meanwhile, his co-workers, friends and family still had no idea.


/cool story, bro.
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i don't believe any of this a guys mannerisms and the way he talks and acts gives him away, not the way his face looks
 
Achilleus said:
What is the "Bottom's Walk?"
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It's kinda hard to explain, but i've just noticed that all the bottoms i've seen walk a certain way: Lighter on their feet, but tighter in the butt. I'm not saying that ALL bottoms walk this way, but it's something obvious to me that sets off my gaydar. It may or may not be more subtle to others.
 
The easiest way to find gay guys is to come out. Continue doing the hobbies you love to do. You will find guys easily.
 
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