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How do I deal with being the token gay guy?

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hey guys =]
I have sort of a dilemma. I'm in a really small school (180 people). I came out a few years ago, and everyone and their mother knows I'm gay (literally and figuratively). Trouble is, I'm the only one. Last year I had my first kiss with a guy who thought he was bi but wasn't, and he;s graduated now. I was hoping that this school year we would get a gay guy or two in the school but, as luck has it, there are none.

There is a nice guy I met a few months before school who's in my class, and at first I thought maybe he could be bi or gay because he was really nice to me, offered to teach me how to dance, and we texted a lot. He even ended up hanging out with my group of people =] But after going to the movies with him and a few other people a couple times and a week of school, I'm not really sensing he's too interested in me. I act sorta shy around him because I really like him a lot, but I don't really think he's too into me.

My question is, has anyone else on this board had to deal with being in a really tiny evironment where you're the only one out and it doesn't seem too promising that you'll get anywhere romantically due to lack of like minded people? I'm sure you're out there =] How did you deal with it? Were you able to get anyplace with your love life in that situation? And any tips on how I can really figure out if I have a chance with this amazing guy? Thanks :)
 
Let's be clear about something. You're the only openly gay person there. There are probably 10 or 20 GLBT people in any population of 180 humans.

Sadly, if they're not out, they're not going to want to associate with you. That will only make people suspect them. Sad, but true.

I don't know what to say other than expand your horizons beyond the school (college?).
 
Jory said:
You live in a city with a population of over 700,000 and you are the only gay there?
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I think you mean a population of over 7.000,000. ;)

Yes, living in such a huge city, or close to it, I wouldn't say you're alone in being gay. Specially since we're talking about London here wich is widely known for it's quite proeminent gay scene.
If you're more of a shy guy, you can always try to meet other guys on the internet, that aren't far from where you're at, and when you're comfortable enough meet them in person.
 
^^He very well may be from London. Ontario, Canada.
 
Haha thank you for your input on my location. As it is I'm in a private boarding university, you could say where there's no contact to the rest of the city (Yes, London Ontario, I don't enjoy giving out details of where I live but since it settles the matter, there you have it. Thank you all for your input! And yes I know there should be plenty of other gays/lesbians but since they're not out it's a bit of a pickle.
 
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