How do I tell the doctor I'm unstable

[lyudi-invalidy]

I can't discuss this with anyone I know in person, they think I'm joking.

They also aren't aware i'm bi-polar, aspergic, an alcoholic and have just been suspended from jobseeker entitlements.

Long story short, I have the pleasure of selling all my worldly possessions tomorrow in order to raise enough money for rent and jack daniels for a month.

I have a massive phobia that my doctor will respond the same way my friends do. I struggle to express the sincerity of the situation and get frustrated by the fact I would literally have to lay dying in a bathtub for 6 hours for people to believe that maybe I'm not so keen on this cosmic joke.

I don't even know if the doctor can help. The thought of going on disability disgusts me, psychiatric wards are a joke, and medication just turns people into zombies. Moving back home into my mothers house likewise seems like a death sentence.

 

[evanrick]

if you havent talked to your doctor yet you should. i know sometimes the advice sounds like a broken record.

i also know its incredibly difficult to do anything when you are coping with so much, but starting on that path for help now is important.

theres no reason you should have to feel the way you do. take it from me, i still feel like shit every day, but getting help for what your going through will make things easier in the long run.

if there is something particular that is bothering you, tackle that first. this will make other things easier to deal with and be less daunting.

 

[kallipolis]

I can't discuss this with anyone I know in person, they think I'm joking.

They also aren't aware i'm bi-polar, aspergic, an alcoholic and have just been suspended from jobseeker entitlements.

Long story short, I have the pleasure of selling all my worldly possessions tomorrow in order to raise enough money for rent and jack daniels for a month.

I have a massive phobia that my doctor will respond the same way my friends do. I struggle to express the sincerity of the situation and get frustrated by the fact I would literally have to lay dying in a bathtub for 6 hours for people to believe that maybe I'm not so keen on this cosmic joke.

I don't even know if the doctor can help. The thought of going on disability disgusts me, psychiatric wards are a joke, and medication just turns people into zombies. Moving back home into my mothers house likewise seems like a death sentence.

You would appear to have placed your self in between a rock, and a hard place.

If your only option is to move back to your mother's home, then the choice is patently transparent.

How does your doctor, and friends respond?

If you were offered a choice that addressed your needs, and went some way to assisting deal/cope with your current crisis, what would that option be?

 

[Twistedup]

you seem to me to be resigned to failure.

how about instead of mr. daniels, you spend that money on hair gel and new socks and go get a job?

you seem to be looking for a miracle or a handout more so than legitimate help.

you simply cannot shrug off your obvious and legit prospects (medication, disability, family assistance) in favor of self wallowing and victimization. i've been there, and for a very long time. it will only make things worse.

also, if you go to Arby's or Burger King and get a small order of fries and ask for a receipt, there is a small number on the back that you can call and take a 2 minute survey on your service. then they give you a 4 digit code that you can take right back in and use to get a full meal.

every little thing helps, right?

for real, though, call your mother and go see a doc.

 

[lyudi-invalidy]

if there is something particular that is bothering you, tackle that first. this will make other things easier to deal with and be less daunting.

I've been working so hard on myself this year I think I've just burnt out, and all the other issues are finally coming to a head. I can generally cope with the imaginary things, but when reality threatens me it creates a bit of a downwards spiral.

How does your doctor, and friends respond?

If you were offered a choice that addressed your needs, and went some way to assisting deal/cope with your current crisis, what would that option be?

One friend understands me completely. Unfortunately I think we almost feed off eachother and make it worse. On the bright side, If I ever need someone to pull the plug on me she's there. (the sign of a true friend)

That option.. somewhere isolated. Away from people who think they understand what happens in my head. My imagination able to run free, and not constantly threatened by dollar signs hanging over my head. Around like-minded people (I feel like I'm surrounded by an alien species most of the time.)

you seem to me to be resigned to failure.

how about instead of mr. daniels, you spend that money on hair gel and new socks and go get a job?

you seem to be looking for a miracle or a handout more so than legitimate help.

you simply cannot shrug off your obvious and legit prospects (medication, disability, family assistance) in favor of self wallowing and victimization. i've been there, and for a very long time. it will only make things worse.

also, if you go to Arby's or Burger King and get a small order of fries and ask for a receipt, there is a small number on the back that you can call and take a 2 minute survey on your service. then they give you a 4 digit code that you can take right back in and use to get a full meal.

every little thing helps, right?

for real, though, call your mother and go see a doc.

I get the resigned to failure thing, but I came to the 'can't hold a gun to my head all the time' conclusion a while ago.

The problem with alcohol is that I need it. Like a paraplegic needs a wheelchair. Without it I'm a nervous mess. There's only so many rehearsed sentences I can spit out before i want to curl up in a dark room and listen to music. I lost my last two jobs because I just can't cope with the people and dead-end prospects and stopped turning up. That sounds massively immature, but when you have a voice in your head ranting at you for 4 hours every night when you're trying to get to sleep it eventually takes it's toll.

When I've tried to get help from family and friends before, they just make everything worse. Hence why I don't speak about it anymore.

A part of me does want to run home, be drugged out of my mind and ECT'd until my brain can be formatted.

 

[Telstra]

Can you request to go to jail and sit out for afew weeks until your addictions wears out permanently. ?

 

[kallipolis]

Feeling sorry for your self, crying out aloud that people do not understand you, and weeping into your beer is not going to resolve your dilemma.

Seek professional assistance from Alcoholics Anonymous and tame that mountainous ego which is attempting to mislead you into believing that no one can understand or help you.

Visit your doctor and listen carefully to his/her advice...
and then begin the long process of rescuing your self from your self destructive life.

Exchanges on a public forum will not provide you with the answers to your dilemma.

 

[rareboy]

Print your posts from this thread and hand them to your doc as a way of starting the conversation.

We're not qualified to help someone with severe problems like yours.

Not only do you have all the mental health issues that you mentioned, you are also entirely un-self-aware.

You need immediate and professional assistance.

Go get it.

 

[lyudi-invalidy]

Thanks for the replies. I think I just figured out the problem. I'm quite literally paranoid to go to the doctor. The idea to seek help has crossed my mind a few times in the past year but I have a moodswing, look back on my thoughts and laugh that I was even considering it. So it's nice to have that reaffirmed, I think.

If things don't seem consistant, I haven't slept in three days.

I feel a bit better now and might be able to avoid the welfare problems too if I have a doctors certificate.

Can you request to go to jail and sit out for afew weeks until your addictions wears out permanently. ?

I'd probably have so much fun I wouldn't want to leave.. though I picture myself more in a wayward victorian asylum.

Print your posts from this thread and hand them to your doc as a way of starting the conversation.

That's the best idea so far. I'm going to do that now. cheers

 

[rollex_2000]

Thanks for the replies. I think I just figured out the problem. I'm quite literally paranoid to go to the doctor. The idea to seek help has crossed my mind a few times in the past year but I have a moodswing, look back on my thoughts and laugh that I was even considering it. So it's nice to have that reaffirmed, I think.

If things don't seem consistant, I haven't slept in three days.

I feel a bit better now and might be able to avoid the welfare problems too if I have a doctors certificate.



I'd probably have so much fun I wouldn't want to leave.. though I picture myself more in a wayward victorian asylum.



That's the best idea so far. I'm going to do that now. cheers

Jelayu tebe udachi. Prosto podi k doktoru i rasskaji vse kak est'. Tol'ko nado znat' chto esli sam ne zahochesh' nikakoy dotkor tebe ne pomojet. izbavitsya ot alkogolizma budet trudno i boleznenno, no pover' delo togo stoit.
Tebe uje vidno nechego teryat'. tak chto porabotay nad ssaboy ... ne proydet i goda kak ti vstanesh' na nogi.

 

[lyudi-invalidy]

sadly I don't actually know Russian.. I just have an unnatural obsession with Tату.

Я сошла с ума (could not be anymore appropriate at the moment)

 

[Telstra]

well wishes lyudi-invalidy,
be more active and in the sun to make you feel better.

 

[texan_slant]

Um, just make an appointment to go the doctor and just tell him exactly what you told us. They are professionally equipped to take information like that and respond to it.

For example, I went to my general practice doctor once, told him that I thought I was depressed, and he gave me meds.

I'm not a doctor myself, so I can't judge that they would handle your situation in the same way, but since you're faced with other issues, all with varying degrees, at least they could point you in the right direction.

It's all gotta start somewhere.

 

[KaraBulut]

Re: How do I tell the doctor I'm unstable

You don't. You also don't tell him that you're bipolar or that you have Aspergers unless you've been properly diagnosed with this conditions prior to the appointment.

What you do is describe the situation that you're in at the moment, your symptoms, how you feel. And you discuss what the next steps are.

Probably the best thing for you would be a brief inpatient detox stay. It's going to be difficult for you to make decisions about your future until you get clean, clear your head, get back into a normal sleep pattern and then get a formal diagnosis.

But the next step is something you and your doctor will have to decide. Good luck and let us know how it goes.