How do I tell them?

[beatleshead]

my coworkers. I just started working at an arena in los angeles owned by staples which i cannot name

there are like three main guys i work with. So we all get along and im like one of the guys. but wats bothering me is that they keep talking about girls and stuff, which is fine, but when they ask me i STILL PRETEND like im straight.

(One in particular i have a crush on and i suspect, but i wont burdon you JUBbers with another one of those kinda stories)

I'm mean after everything ive been through, to finally come out to the world, and still crawl back in that little hole? What is wrong with me?

Anyways i dont know how to tell em cos i dont want it to get weird and have coworkers who hate me but then again ive been out a while and i cant keep pretending.

 

[racer2438]

I might be inclind to leave it alone and not ruffle any feathers just quite yet.

You dont want to have things go back at a new job. That can turn ugly for some.

MAybe just go along and see, if you start hearing bad jokes and bad vibes from them it may save you some hassle.

if you are not ready yet(to come out) to them then dont. You will know when and if you are and you dont need to be rush into it if you dont want to. That is something for you only to decide.

 

[hoteiosho]

Do you hang out with these guys outside of work?
If its strictly a work relationship, you don't necessarily have to even bring it up. However, I don't condone lying in any way shape or form to them. Maybe if they start talking about how hot some girl is you can either change the subject or just say something neutral. They will probably pick up something.

If you hang out outside of work with them, I would suggest telling the person you are closest with alone, and seeing how he reacts.

The most important thing is to just be yourself. You don't have to do anything that will make you feel uncomfortable, so you never have to actually say right out that you are gay. Just don't lie about it. Also, in this day and age, people are generally a lot more accepting to gay men and women than that of previous years.
Just do what feels right, but be happy with the decision you make and don't worry about what other people think.

 

[Eagle653]

Don't be too hard on yourself. Many of us find it easier to be out in some situations, and harder in others.

Since you're fairly new to the job, maybe your hesitation is you telling yourself to go slow with these people until you know them better. After you establish a rapport with them, and trust them, then you can open up. Until then, it's perhaps wise to be a little reserved/guarded until you know them well enough to be more open.

Congratulations on the new job, and hope everything works out great--especially with the one you suspect!

 

[beatleshead]

yeah your all right...it aint time. I've tried my best to give neutral answers, but im just not that clever...lmao

the guy i have a crush on (he keeps asking me what i think of certain girls for some reason but not like friendly banter, like hes trying to scope me out or something) asked me if maria carey looked better way back when or now and i said, o i liked her when she was crazy.

 

[G-Lexington]

There's your opening. When asked about Mariah Carey, don't talk about her looks. Talk about how aMAYzing you think she is, how you consider her a role model, and how much you love what she wore in that last video.

Seriously, it's easy as hell to come out at work. Just say something like "my last boyfriend" or "I don't think that guy is boyfriend material for me". There - done.

Lex

 

[beatleshead]

There's your opening. When asked about Mariah Carey, don't talk about her looks. Talk about how aMAYzing you think she is, how you consider her a role model, and how much you love what she wore in that last video.

Seriously, it's easy as hell to come out at work. Just say something like "my last boyfriend" or "I don't think that guy is boyfriend material for me". There - done.Lex

"Oh yeah I loved that dress she wore in that video I was trying to find it to where it to prom!" LMAO

If I used ur example I would still be lying, cos im not fem(i dont mean that in a derrogatory way!) and I happen to hate Maria Carey. LMAO

Also I've never had a boyfriend...

 

[G-Lexington]

>>>If I used ur example I would still be lying, cos im not fem(i dont mean that in a derrogatory way!) and I happen to hate Maria Carey.

"Actually, I can't stand Mariah Carey. I know other gay guys go all gaga over her, but I honestly can't see why."

>>>Also I've never had a boyfriend...

"I've never had a boyfriend."

The openings are there if you want to take them.

Lex

 

[beatleshead]

>>>If I used ur example I would still be lying, cos im not fem(i dont mean that in a derrogatory way!) and I happen to hate Maria Carey.

"Actually, I can't stand Mariah Carey. I know other gay guys go all gaga over her, but I honestly can't see why."

>>>Also I've never had a boyfriend...

"I've never had a boyfriend."

The openings are there if you want to take them.

Lex

You clever dragon you. I'll try to slip it in next time cos i work again in a couple of weeks.

 

[G-Lexington]

>>>You clever dragon you.

Gargoyle. Gar-goyle.

Lex

 

[beatleshead]

>>>You clever dragon you.

Gargoyle. Gar-goyle.

Lex

I meant to say Gargoyle. lol